Death To The Nice Guy

[LordLyons]

op a man until proven otherwise

 

[Ohene]

what that gotta do with anything? A high position working for the government is a job, and so it consultations. The degree doesn't teach you how to run and create a successful consultation business

Really gonna tell me I don't know what I'm talking about when I say school is memorization, especially math and economics.

Nah math and economics aren't memorization... You gotta know how to apply it.

You talking like it's history

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

Another thread brought to you by women and their lack of accountability

 

[Diondon]

Are some of the text pics missing?

 

[Black Magisterialness]

In my 24/25 years of life, I have never actually dealt with a nice guy -- not directly anyway. Outside of short shallow PMs/texts (where I'm inevitably accused of being a tease even though I've never hidden my relationship status), idle chit chat at grocery stores and emails for work, I actually don't interact with men (who aren't my BF) much. All of my friends are girls from college and grad school.

Anyway that's just background. Let's get to the real story - my nightmare first experience dealing with a nice guy:

So a couple of weeks ago, I was dead broke....but not in the way some of you haters think.

All of my cards were compromised and my a$$hole bank cancelled each and every one of them without any notice. I had no direct access to any of my accounts and none of these stores were taking personal checks.

I made frantic phone calls/texts to my parents and BF but they were no help. I couldn't use any of their cards (not even virtually) because they are all abroad currently and I have a thing against cash. They were like, 'let me send you some money via Western Union/Money Gram and I was like, no thanks.


These are words that I'd live to regret.



After 48 hours I was going stark crazy mad and my new cards still hadn't been shipped.

I was getting really desperate and I decided it was to put my scheming brain to work.

Well, the Square Cash app has a virtual card the works with Apple Pay so if I can just get money through that, I'd be solid until my cards arrived. The people closest to me were international so they were no help since the app only works domestically. And I also don't like people in my business.


Anyway long story short, I ended up finding (a married) "friend" of mine who was willing to help me out. At first, he just offered to let me use one of his credit cards but I was like no thanks. NOTE: Ladies, never accept ANYTHING from a dude who you are not in a relationship with, even if he's married with kids.

I simply transferred money to him via PayPal and he transferred the money back to me using the Square Cash app.

Everything was going fine until my cards arrived and then this nikka became UNHINGED and accused me of USING him.


First, it was whatever, like...

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Then after a few days, he really lost the script and went on some crazy ass RANT.

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He keeps texting me but I haven't responded since.

I can understand if this was some single guy I led on, but nikka, you're married with kids, what the fukk did you think was happening here?


I still haven't told my bf about this whole ordeal.

1. You slipped up by not accepting help from the folks first.
2. You have a BF, then no other person shoulda been brought into the mix...PERIOD. Now, not only have you lost a friend over this you could possibly lose a BF over it too.
3. Nice, for people in their minds, usually means "allows me to use them with out them having a problem with it". Because nice in the real world mean has manners, is helpful, and doesn't hold grudges. You expected to use dude as a means to an end (even if it didn't really harm him). Regardless of if he was married or not people usually want favors reciprocated (even if its not sexually.)
4. There are some men who use "nice" as a tactic sure...but most actual nice people still won't let you take help from them and then ghost. Does dude sound in his feelings/dramatic...yeah. But in a way you still opened the door for it.
5. I feel many people don't understand the concept of quid pro quo. Almost NO one does something for someone else out of the kindness of their heart. Even if its just accolades or the perception of being a good person, people help people mostly for selfish reasons. Which is why "nice" needs to be taken out of the equation when money matters are concerned. Its intrinsically a sensitive issue.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Brehs don't just flip on someone for no reason.

 

[DeadandGone14]

Yayy nikkas are being trolled. The OP was already exposed as a man already....

 

[Ms. Elaine]

Yayy nikkas are being trolled. The OP was already exposed as a man already....

Post the receipts. Let's make this an IP ban bet.

 

[Black Magisterialness]

Yayy nikkas are being trolled. The OP was already exposed as a man already....

Why should the answers to the topic be any different?

 

[GoFlipAPack]

OP did you ever consider that he wasn't being a "nice guy"? Maybe he was being a friend. You know that's what friends do. They look out for one another. I'll let you cook though.

 

[FTBS]

Desperate, Scheming @Ms. Elaine why didn't you just do that with one of your female friends or family members? Why was a married, quotation marks required friend necessary for this? . Doesn't sound like the nice woman is doing to well either.

 

[4-Rin]

Apparently you don't know what a nice guy is.

Breh tried to finesse you for some ass and you label him a nice guy when in reality he's a married man looking for a side chick

We also see how you edited the screenshots to favor your story. You ain't slick OP we know you're leaving some key details out

 

[The Prince of All Saiyans]

 

[the cac mamba]

. I still don't get why you turned down your family and boyfriend's offer for help to involve dude. If you wanted to you would only had to deal with cash for a few minutes before loading it to another card.

because the OP is a spoiled, entitled c*nt

 

[Diondon]

Anyway your man should whoop your ass for asking other men for money. You know they gon want p*ssy in exchange