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[xCivicx]

Should've wrapped it up... or not fukked with her to begin w/ if you knew she was trifling.

Good luck nikka!

Its team fukkacondom over here

No kids or diseases

 

[Atsym Sknyfs]

@donwanducketts

a few things..
if you want to save money fine.. but do that in your own account not one with her.. for starters the child isn't here yet and technically you need DNA to prove its yours..
second.. she works an off the books job... that fine.. she can get benefits.. as far as the city/state is concerned she's a non-working single mother. As long as you don't sign the birth certificate she'll get all the benefits she qualifies for.

for right now she's hurt. she thought the sex was getting back together. then the baby was getting back together... the appointments.. etc..

Is there a way to Netflix and chill with her or hang out or go to a movie where it remains innocent... will you try to smash... cause as long as you try to smash she gonna think there's a chance.

just give her like 2 hours on a Saturday to help her get unlonely and move on..
it may be time she got new friends.. your pregnant cousin might need to meet her but make it known that just because she hanging with family she not joining the family.. not yet anyway.

start getting prepared now... and petiton for custody ..even if you dont win.. yo get the courts to set up a payment based on your current salary... don't want to get a raise and they base it off that ...

anything you do outside of the court .. document... the court doesn't care you gave her 2000 last month in cash if it wasn't through the proper channels established in the agreement that could be 100...

 

[Umoja]

Good for you. But if that was the case in general there would be far less single mothers

Nah, it is balanced out by choice. Choosing men who won't compromise, choosing to use protection, choosing not to entertain women unless you can see them being the mother of your child.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Nah, it is balanced out by choice. Choosing men who won't compromise, choosing to use protection, choosing not to entertain women unless you can see them being the mother or your child.

ok

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Bet you wish you had just beaten off that night instead .

 

[FLATOP]

Just letting you know shes gonna go in court for child support

And that $200 youve been paying WILL NOT be counted back for shyt.

Since youre 30 and this is your first kid(???) I hope that means your financials are in order

 

[Babymama Magnet]

Ight brehs...i didnt expect it to come to this...but here i go

My ex from a year ago started fukkin wit me again at the top of 2019 n i got her pregnant. She about 12 weeks now.

Was thinking of hitting up a couple of my dysfunctional exes to smash.

but this line got me like

 

[mobbinfms]

Didn’t read entire thread. Pregnancy obviously not wanted. Not too late for abortion. Has it been discussed?

 

[FromStLouis]

You gotta be open to a potential relationship and even marriage.

Take one for the team? Take one for your kid, breh.

Go to couples counseling and learn how to make things work with this woman.

Your kid deserves a 2 parent home and if you gotta marry this woman for the chance to
raise your kid right and not 1000 miles away in Atlanta. .

Then that's what you have to do.

 

[Sandy_Cheeks]

This is the best advice on this thread..
Nothing you can do to change the past. You CAN affect your childs future, so start getting prepared. I would actually suggest you go to the state and put yourself on Child support immediately and guarantee your rights to your child. That includes a court ordered Paternity test BTW as a first step in determining parentage. Because it sounds like you think y'all can be cool throughout the child's life and yes that can happen but from the sounds of your situation thats not going to happen.
Don't forget you can be putting money in a bank account for 10 years "off the record". But she gets upset over whatever bs when child is 12 and bang hit you them court papers. You will owe 12 years back child support because you never put the arrangement into a legal document.

I've spent 9 years and 30K in lawyer fees + court costs, bro. Bite the bullet and do the legal route now. Might not sound like a good option but it will be the best in the long run.

ALSO you might hate your BM right now but you need to respect her. Especially once the child is here. Not the best idea to go talking sh*t about her on forums. You made the decision to sleep with her. So even if she ain't shyt she is your BM and deserve a little bit of respect because YOU choose to have a child with her if she is so "bad hygiene" what does that say about you?

You better speak that truth and tell OP the reality of these streets

I’ve also spent thousands in legal fees between child support, mediation, etc. dealing with an ex husband. The shyt is extremely stressful and costly. These folks better wake up to the reality of how messy shyt gets once the kid shows up. It’s ideal for adults who made the child to work together, but that’s often not what ends up happening.

I agree that OP needs to at least respect his BM. You are tethered to her for decades... you may ALSO be having a daughter... so the last thing she (or a son) needs is their father being contentious towards their mother over fukk shyt. It’s in the best interest of ur child that you manage your emotions the best way you can (despite what the other parent does) because you are always being watched.

 

[Cape Town JHB]

Sooooooo much terrible advice and judgment in the repliess.

If you've been fukking for 10 years, baby scares will occur almost annually. Your only mistake was impregnating a chick with nothing to lose.

I'll lay the Game down and proper for you breh, real strategies for you to implement, to cover your tracks. Later though not now.
Again terrible goofy millenial advice on the thread so far

 

[King Jae]

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U gotta be shyttin me....u couldn't just pullout and skeet on her booty....congrats....she gonna fukk any relationship u get in up....she gonna do pop ups at the crib...call u late at night to start shyt with whoever u with...

New boo: who that callin u so late

A child is a blessing tho...make the best of it...

 

[Skip b]

Ight brehs...i didnt expect it to come to this...but here i go

My ex from a year ago started fukkin wit me again at the top of 2019 n i got her pregnant. She about 12 weeks now.

At the start i let it be known that we will co-parent...and that I am still single. She said ok.

We opened a bank acct and thus far ive deposited $200 every other week for the baby.


I also call or text her twice a week to see if she good and whatnot...I just dont want to act as if I'm her man...because I'm not. Im her baby's father.

Shes a hair designer so she has concerns about her not getting federal benefits to pay her rent after birth. I let it be known that i dont want her to move in with me . because #1...my lease wont allow more than 2 tenants...#2...if i do change my lease...she would have to live with me for a full year (for the new lease of course)..and u already know what that situation would turn into...and #3..her mother lives 10 min from her! I suggested she move in wit her mom for the first 6 months of the childs birth and she immediately said no...So i already know the game she playin...n i aint playin that shyt.


I let her know the deal and she says ok

So at 6 weeks prego while im at Wal-Mart paying my rent she hits me with this text:

"I can't believe i got pregnant by a hoe u fukking suck"


I rebuttal appropriately and we continue as such.


At about 8 weeks...when we first visit our obgyn...she says

"I know u been fukking wit other bytches and its really been affecting me"

I'm like "Yo...ive been 100 percent straightforward wit u...never have i lead u on..i care about u and our baby...and ive held up my end of my responsibilities...so whats the problem"


Everything was gucci until I say I can have the baby with me 3 days out the week after 3 months

She then says "nah...imma need at least 6 months...maybe more because after hanging wit u for this long i know u be drinking and smoking weed on the regular"

Brehs...this chick would BRING weed and liquor to my crib n get lit WIT a nikka...where all them memories go?


Im like yo wtf...u really think imma treat my son/daughter the same as any other woman id have with me???" At this moment i realized there may be foul play at hand


I play it cool and she hits me back a few days later saying she just wants us to work together for the best of the baby...im like ight.

Now to this week. 12 weeks preggo. BM hitting me saying she feels miserable. Her friends dont wanna hang wit her no more cuz she preggo...she feels lonely...all dat. I speak wit my baby cuz who is preggo with her second child and she offers to help wit the baby shower...even sends a fb link to a group specifically for new mothers.

I send it to my BM hoping it will console her...she says "y would u send me this shyt"...and says that she's facing this pregnancy on her own...


Wtf brehs...not only have i been on time with all of my $200 deposits into the bank acct. I reach out 2x a week...and try my best to get to evey doctors appt. She then calls me an arrogant a$$hole and says "i dont get it".


I then come to the conclusion that she just bitter bc i let it be known off rip that i dont want a relationship with her. After i say just that to her she says im self absorbed!


I work full-time as an overnight dispatcher...and the day after our argument...she wakes me up with a text saying "I guess u forgot about the baby's first ultrasound"...mind u she hadnt mentioned it for nearly 10 days...and instead of doing so she complains about how her pregnancy is unbearable bc she doesnt get invited by her "friends" to Tyrese and B2K reunion concerts at the prudential center..she calls me an arrogant a$$hole...I then say yo...dont talk to me anymore unless its about a doctors visit...matter fact send me ALL the scheduled appointments...and if not i will get them from your older sister...whom she linked me with.


She then rebuttals with a "fukk you"...and says she will move to ATL (where her sisters live) from Jersey (where we from) after the child is born and put me on child support and visitation. I'm flabbergasted.


Thus far her sister said she will try to get her to come to grips with reality...but wtf brehs...someone with experience give a nikka some insight.

In a similar situation, try to establish paternity pre-birth, to earn your parental rights if you are the father; if not u have no right to her medical appts, and she could skip town and put u child support......If she mentioned leaving state she already had intentions on it when she came back to you and got knocked up......

 

[DJSmooth]

Didn’t read entire thread. Pregnancy obviously not wanted. Not too late for abortion. Has it been discussed?

thread been good so far and here one of yall killing babies nikkas go.

 

[Detroit Wave]

nikkas 30 and seeding up rats. Hold that L u dumb ass nikka