Did I still catch a L?

[Nephilim_BC]

Ive been talking to this chick lately. Take her out, pay for everything. Noticed she wasnt very affectionate (she claims she just isnt, my homie that knows her said that too) She would rarely say thank you or say she had a nice time. So I finally just let her have it with the truth...

Me "Look, we dont have to talk anymore. Im not getting anywhere with this"

her "wait what? why?"

This is where I spit that ether

me " Ive been taking you out, paying for stuff. You never say thanks or show you're grateful. The nikka before me yall didnt even date, yall just "talked" for couple months and he got more play than im getting. Only thing I get from you is a hug? Im not about to be one of those dudes taking you out being the nice guy while these scumbag dudes are getting all the play for nothing so im just stopping this now so I dont take/continue a major L. If you dont believe me, ask those pack of wolves on your twitter"

She gets mad at me and acts like im wrong

now she's not texting me

Do I still take this L tho for going through that?

 

[CinnaSlim]

Should've kept it short and concise.

fukk a chick that can't even say thank you. That's not even about not being affectionate, that's just rude. You don't need her.

 

[triplehate]

Of course

 

[beenz]

the OP cut his losses fairly early, how is this an L?

 

[Supercoolmayo]

You can turn it into a W if you send a dikk pick

Spoiler

 

[Nephilim_BC]

Should've kept it short and concise.

fukk a chick that can't even say thank you. That's not even about not being affectionate, that's just rude. You don't need her.

she said she even feels weird given hugs. im not trying to talk to a chick where I gotta ask if I can touch her or something. a fukkin hug?

 

[blackestofpanthers]

She was probably mad because you threw a temper tantrum in her presence. You won't get the draws going on rants like a single mother ready to settle down.

 

[Nephilim_BC]

the OP cut his losses fairly early, how is this an L?

thats what im thinking. the fact that she got mad confirms that. if she had responded with "oh ok" or "yeah I agree" then yeah id still have a L

but she responded asking why and got mad cause she wanted to keep talking. shouldnt be a L

 

[Nephilim_BC]

She was probably mad because you threw a temper tantrum in her presence. You won't get the draws going on rants like a single mother ready to settle down.

no temper tantrum and this was through text. im a calm dude that keeps it real as everybody should

 

[blackestofpanthers]

no temper tantrum and this was through text. im a calm dude that keeps it real as everybody should

You should have just told her you won't be seeing her anymore. Y'all don't want the same things. You rambled instead. Was way too much.

 

[CinnaSlim]

she said she even feels weird given hugs. im not trying to talk to a chick where I gotta ask if I can touch her or something. a fukkin hug?

I understand that. Some people are like that but if you know that you aren't. You shouldn't even entertain her.

If she doesn't want to touch you, she probably doesn't want to fukk you either. I don't see nothing good coming from this. It's an L.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

she said she even feels weird given hugs. im not trying to talk to a chick where I gotta ask if I can touch her or something. a fukkin hug?

Yea, those "awkward energy" chicks are a problem.

I had one of those not too long ago. shyt was weird. Like I'd go to kiss her and she'd close her lips and give the most kindergarden-esque kiss. Half hugs, doesn't wanna hold hands or anything.

...but 2 glasses of wine later she wants to go out to the car to suck me off (her idea).

I chalked it up to her having been abused by a previous boyfriend and cut contact before it got too serious.

 

[triplehate]

the OP cut his losses fairly early, how is this an L?

Two ways to do nice things for people, either you truly are altruistic and were doing things out of the"goodness of your heart" then you'll keep doing them no matter what, even if it's never reciprocated or acknowledged.

BUT if doing nice things with the motivation of a return was the goal.. he still did not achieve the desired goal.

So he gets an auto L either way

 

[thirdeye]

I chalked it up to her having been abused by a previous boyfriend and cut contact before it got too serious.

Is this a fact or are you just making an ass out of yourself by assuming?

Two ways to do nice things for people, either you truly are altruistic and were doing things out of the"goodness of your heart" then you'll keep doing them no matter what, even if it's never reciprocated or acknowledged.

BUT if doing nice things with the motivation of a return was the goal.. he still did not achieve the desired goal.

So he gets an auto L either way

When you put it like that, he caught an L.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Is this a fact or are you just making an ass out of yourself by assuming?

I didn't ask her or anything, but the behaviors were on such opposite ends of the scale that something weird / traumatic must have happened to her in the past to trigger that.
She also used to break down crying after sex, so....