This is a very good post, I think you very clearly explained the nuances between sexual judgment of women on the whole and people negatively altered by poor relationship choices.
I am against the former and indifferent to the latter.
Yea, its one of those things I don't think people really give the effort to understand. This is why I say I am not against anyone having sex and doing them.
It's not the sex, its the reason behind it.
One person is having sex because they like it.
The next is having sex because it fills a void for something they are missing at home.
The first person can be the sweetest person ever, and a demon in the bed.
The second may have problems that come between them and having a meaningful relationship, which leads to toxic people fukking and chucking them, making
their "damage" even worse. This person may feel wholly unloved, and instead of having the ability to express this, they sleep around for validation, yet never
get any.
Truth be told, if I had a daughter(son as well, but girls take a different approach), I would be upfront as possible about the pros and cons of relationships,
and make sure to help her be as well-rounded socially, academically, and emotionally as possible so Kenneth from around the way doesn't captivate her
and have her get into the shyt he likes, up to and including drugs, theft, etc. The issue with sex that isn't commonly discussed is it can be indicative of some
other issues, but people are to worried about not being shamed to realize promiscuity and who you choose can reveal a LOT about you.
The girl I lost my "spark" to showed the same pattern of choosing emotionally distant dudes, some she knew would not be around, even as far as
"dating" guys online. This was way before I hit, I saw the signs. Later she tells me about the guys she had sex with, and the usual end result.
Alright

that has nothing to do with me, so shes just doing her. Next thing I know, she comes onto me, few months later we fukk a few times, and
I was already in love with her for the longest, but she wanted from me what she got from everyone else:distance. Within a few more months, she went
through 2 "relationships".
This isn't something people simply make up in their heads. A girl who has frequent sex, same with a guy, with different partners
may not be relationship material for reasons that aren't readily apparent. How am I to know that I am sexually adequate for a girl
that catches a new body every weekend, and regularly carries on with a couple all the while?
I'm satisfied with using my hand when the going gets tough, and don't need to dip my toe in every pond. I know there is a woman who
will feel that way, as well. Why should I ask for someone who is promiscuous to change aspects of themselves for me? I can simply avoid them.
A lot of people slut shame because we have seen plenty destroy themselves and other people with risky behavior (stds, homewrecking, etc).
Unfortunately most of the blame seems to fall on women, but im of the mind when it comes to destructive behavior, sex isn't above reproach.