Did you get a lot of positive reinforcement as a youth?

[Neuromancer]

Did your parents tell you how awesome you were? That you did a good job. That they are proud of you.

My dad was the only one of my folks that did. Love my mom, but she rarely said it to me.

what about ya'll, you all get alot of that?

 

[TheNig]

No... But I didn't care about that kinda stuff.

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

Not really, my parents were way more practical.

You don't get a price for doing what you're supposed to do unless it was legitimately amazing...which if what you did was something truly amazing, you didn't need an amen corner anyway

 

[WaveGang]

Nope mum had/has mental health issues

Never met my dad

I was misguided

 

[horizon]

Yeah

 

[Mr. Negative]

No.

 

[BlackPrint]

Didn’t really grow up like that.

My mother treated us like adults for most of my life. There weren’t a lot of “U did grrrreat!” moments like that,

I think I appreciated that more, ima raise my child like that

 

[PaperEnterprise]

Hell no.

 

[Neuromancer]

Didn’t really grow up like that.

My mother treated us like adults for most of my life. There weren’t a lot of “U did grrrreat!” moments like that,

I think I appreciated that more, ima raise my child like that

why did you appreciate it more?

 

[BlackPrint]

why did you appreciate it more?

Cuz I was always mad lit in my life, I attribute that to never having a “kiddie” phase to grow out of like a lot of dudes my age are still trying to do.

 

[Neuromancer]

Cuz I was always mad lit in my life, I attribute that to never having a “kiddie” phase to grow out of like a lot of dudes my age are still trying to do.

so because you were treated like an adult?

 

[BlackPrint]

so because you were treated like an adult?

Yeah bro

Show and prove

I never had bedtimes growing up.. When you fell asleep, that’s your bedtime. But I also didn’t have nobody waking me up to go to school...So if I’m going to sleep at crazy hours, I got less time in the day. Fast forward 2018, I work in an office where I need to be out the door by 6 every morning.

The vaaaaaast majority of people my age at our firm complain that this is their first job out of college and they hate waking up this early...These are people who grew up arbitrarily being told to go to bed at 9 and when that invisible hand went away (they grew up), they no longer felt compelled to do so, and found other distractions that fukked with their sleep patterns, this plays into their work performance.


Little shyt like that I think makes a big difference.

Don’t get me wrong, I fell into street shyt and spent most of my 20s and late teens in prison for reasons that I would ALSO attribute to the way I was raised, but I think that’s when you hit the ‘personal accountability’ wall.

 

[Jimmy from Linkedin]

Yes. But I'm also a Leo so ..it comes naturally

 

[paperbag]

Yes, but I was amazing

 

[Speaking Womanese]

Loads.

It’s imperative when raising children.

The world is going to try and break their spirit anyway - its only right you plant the seeds of self-acceptance in them before you send them out into the world.

A lot of adults are fukked up today because they were never truly loved as kids.

Unpopular opinion, but I’ve noticed that some parents treat their kids a certain way depending on how they feel about the other parent. If they get on with them they’ll treat the child well, but if they don’t they’ll treat the child like shyt... just something I’ve noticed.