Did you get a lot of positive reinforcement as a youth?

[get these nets]

Did your parents tell you how awesome you were? That you did a good job. That they are proud of you.

My dad was the only one of my folks that did. Love my mom, but she rarely said it to me.

what about ya'll, you all get alot of that?

Adults always encouraged me, which is why I always encourage, congratulate and salute young dudes who are moving forward.

 

[Neuromancer]

Adults always encouraged me, which is why I always encourage, congratulate and saute young dudes who are moving forward.

Do you feel it helped?

 

[Weaver31]

Nope not at all. Maybe one reason why I dealt with very low self-esteem in adolescence and adulthood.

 

[get these nets]

Do you feel it helped?

ABSOLUTELY.
Parents always encouraged us to excel in school.
Other adults always said that they liked the way we carried ourselves, and also encouraged and looked out for us

My ego wants me to believe that I would have done the same things even without that support, but reality tells me that I went to school with kids who were equally intelligent but who didn't have that family /community encouragement(and who might have done other things with their lives)

My "rumble young man, rumble" tag here is my go-to phrase when younger dude posts a major life accomplishment. Gotta show people encouragement.

 

[NkrumahWasRight Is Wrong]

Probably too much from my mom

Very little from my dad

 

[Exlurkernegro]

I was taught that my life is my own responsibility and not to blame other people for my fukk ups

If someone deceived me it was my fault for making the decision to trust that person

Alot of yall nikkaz parents raised you to be straight bytches who blame everything on everything on the white man

 

[❤Aԃɾιαɳα Rσȥαყ ❤]

My mommy did but I stayed with my aunt and uncle from 5-12/13 and those were very bad times bc I was verbally abused by them and had no way out, whenever I would try to tell someone they would make it seem like I just wanted to leave bc they was strict or sumn but it was horrible, I eventually got out of it and afaik they got in trouble bc ion see them at family gatherings or events anymore, my mom told me she was very sorry for leaving me with them and had she known sooner she would've gotten me away from them, and around the same time I was into doing 'bad' things like skipping school and smoking all the time and not doing schoolwork from 12-15/16, since then i've been much better though but I still smoke here and there

I never knew my dad and he never wanted to know me he said I wasnt supposed to even be born so I hope he dies
I feel like ion need a 'father figure' bc I do just fine with my mom and older sisters for guidance, and what is a guy going to teach me anyways

My mom has always been there for me when I needed her and she has always stood by my decisions no matter what so I feel like she was deffly a positive reinforcement for me

 

[Shadow King]

I got too much...

 

[GoAggieGo.]

My dad never really said he loved me like that, but he often told me he was proud of me. He also gave me the big head, as he talked me up to any and everyone. I told him I wanted to be an engineer when I was 11, and he would tell me, my fam, and anyone that would listen that I was going to attend Massachusetts Institute of Technology to be an engineer. He was tough, as he expected all A’s from me, but when I did that, he’d always reward me and state how proud of me he was. Even now, one of the things that would hurt me most is disappointing him.

My mom gave me positive reinforcement all the time, and when my dad was tough on me, she was there. She babied me, honestly lol, but I needed it.

For the most part, I received positive reinforcement from all of my family.

 

[GoAggieGo.]

Taking notes on the women responses. I’ve gotta daughter and want to be the best daddy to her

 

[DPresidential]

Yes, I thank my parents for it.

 

[Speaking Womanese]

Taking notes on the women responses. I’ve gotta daughter and want to be the best daddy to her

My dad’s always been super affectionate.

He’s tactless as hell but he has his good points.

He went through this stage when we were growing up where he’d take me and my sisters out 3-4x a week so we’d get used to being treated like a lady by a man.

His mentality was, “in order for you to attract the right guy, I have to set that standard for you.”

It was good for me back then because I was just starting to date.

Fathers set the blueprint for their daughters relationships & the women who didn’t have a father are left with no other choice but to freestyle throughout their relationships with men. It’s unfortunate.

 

[Brolic Scholar]

No. I learned how not to be a parent from my parents.



At least I can apply those lessons to raising my own kids.



My step-mom was very mean and critical of me. My dad was an a$$hole threatening to fight me and shyt. I thought it was normal as a kid, but looking back, nah. My real mom wasn’t around.

 

[NoirDynosaur]

Mom spoiled me as a young buck. Even though I was treated, I still had ass whoopings because I was very disrespectful and rude. I was a savage back then

I'm grateful for the ass whoopings because it gave me discipline. Me and my mom talk daily.

As for my late father, he's chill but also showed me tough love. Most of the time, he was working but he always showed love and recognition through his actions.

My siblings also played a role as well.

 

[OliviaTwist]

Taking notes on the women responses. I’ve gotta daughter and want to be the best daddy to her

Please do. The opposite sex parent is very important to young children, and you want to set a standard for your daughter. Daddy issues is a real thing and don’t only come from being absent.

My dad was the best. It was just us two growing up since he was my single parent and I was his only child. That positive reinforcement helped in a lot of ways and it helped me be able to trust my own judgment