Divorce Is Destroying the Finances of Americans Over 50

[Scottie Ca$h]

Marriage Is A Business Decision For Both Parties. Y’all Both Need To Feel An Obligation Towards Something Bigger Than You Both In Order For It To Work.

The Issue Is That Most (Not All) Of These People That Initiate Divorce Are Selfish And Short Sighted And End Up fukkin Their Kids Over

 

[Taadow]

When you don't wanna have confront serious issues...in comes the ad hominems.

Do any of ya'll talk to older women to hear their perspectives? Or do you just get mad at the wetness of water and anybody who notices it?

Think critically, analyze where what went wrong in the past and build on it to make better relations between men and women.

But and virtue signaling and shaming ain't ion cut it.

I didn't attack you - I addressed men trying to work with ones like you.

But I'll humor you...I am the youngest in my immediate family, and the only boy.
So everything you talmbat in here isn't new to me; I've heard it from older (Black) women all my life, and I listened.

That's why it's strange when these same people who warned of me the dark sides of marriage, family, and dreams can't believe me saying I don't want to get married or have children. I'm like "learned it from watching y'all!"

I mean, what is your goal in this thread? You think you kicking knowledge?
Niccas (with sense) already know marriage in its current state is Quicksand, is it news to you because you're just finding out it's got back end-consequences for women? How many older MEN do you talk to to see how divorce is for them (that's rhetorical - I know the answer)?

In short: Girl, please. I wish y'all would just keep it a stack and say y'all don't even care for men.

 

[Json]

I spoke with my wife about this. When the kids are all grown up, some people divorce because they were only in it for the kids anyway. Looking for happiness they don’t have in marriage. Might as well try to renew that love some how after all those years.

/thread
So many people stay in bad relationships and create kids/homes/businesses they can’t easily back out of cause of the financial and social stigma.

But once you over 50. Your parents are dead or close. Friends are divorced or unhappy. So who are you afraid of being stigmatized by? No one.

 

[AAKing23]

Remember when I told ya'll about silver divorces...

Also remember when I said women are going to start avoiding marriage soon b/c of how stressful it is.

It's all sweet when men talking that shyt about the institution. But when women WHOLESALE stop allowing society to bamboozle them into feeling marriage is necessary to complete themselves...we gon have a situation. The hope of marriage used to be the one failsafe dudes could use back in the day to ensure access to sex. Now even that carrot is being compromised.

The real question I'm interested in is this:
Women initiate divorces MOST of the time.

What is so HORRIBLE about marriage and staying with these men, that women in the most vulnerable years of their lives would say fukk it and bounce?
These chicks willing to be homeless and damn near paupers.

It says a LOT about what we think women are supposed to want in these traditional roles vs who they actually are. Society is good at telling women what to do but bad at listening to who they are.

Mark my words, until people learn to think of 1/2 of the world's population as human beings, you can expect more of this.

And what a beautiful thing this is

@ being afraid of women avoiding marriage

 

[Master Teacher]

People use to get married in their 20's and their first kid before 30, now people want to be second child hood living their best life instead of raising a family, because they see how all these people in their 50's and 60's wasted their lives

You have to learn to live with regrets in life, if you didn't get married early and steph curry type situation and lock a broad down early, you are not going to find a suitable wife, and you have to be cool with that.

Divorce right is high because most people only care about themselves these days, they have kids for self validation, they get married for social status, and the fantasy of living a successful life to flaunt to others.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

And what a beautiful thing this is

@ being afraid of women avoiding marriage

Right! We in an era of transition. This doesn't have to be a bad thing.

 

[BmoreGorilla]

I feel like once you hit 50 you may as well ride that shyt out

 

[CASHAPP]

The Next Presidential administration(2024) needs to focus on declaring a war on child support and unequal justice in the court system when it comes to men vs women.

Child support, Alimony, Divorce abuse(I mean making it too easy to divorce and making a joke of the system) , Marriage scams(green card scamming), False rape charges. Along with judges being stricter towards a woman for the more times that she is divorced

All of this needs a complete overhaul. It’s ridiculous. The feminists and their bullshyt have jaded generations of young men and women in America compared to other parts of the world.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Shut the fukk up you're telling on yourself

If your hoemotional ass ain't got something constructive to say you can ignore me, sip that STFU juice and keep it movin hoe.

Get mad at reality hoes.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

I didn't attack you - I addressed men trying to work with ones like you.

But I'll humor you...I am the youngest in my immediate family, and the only boy.
So everything you talmbat in here isn't new to me; I've heard it from older (Black) women all my life, and I listened.

That's why it's strange when these same people who warned of me the dark sides of marriage, family, and dreams can't believe me saying I don't want to get married or have children. I'm like "learned it from watching y'all!"

I mean, what is your goal in this thread? You think you kicking knowledge?
Niccas (with sense) already know marriage in its current state is Quicksand, is it news to you because you're just finding out it's got back end-consequences for women? How many older MEN do you talk to to see how divorce is for them (that's rhetorical - I know the answer)?

In short: Girl, please. I wish y'all would just keep it a stack and say y'all don't even care for men.

As if men care for women?! That's part of the problem---a lack of reciprocity.

If it's not news to these dudes then why does it get these mofos in their feelings. They act like I made these studies or reality.

We both know why tho. It's not the reality of traditional marriage being a failure that's the issue, it's the mentality behind why these marriages failed. And most of it lies with men having really unhealthy ass ideas about the women they want to marry being no more than sex objects that should cook, clean and shut up.

Dudes hate the idea that they have to approach a group of sexual objects as female human beings with their own goals and dreams and agendas. Why do you think so many dudes are always romanticizing shyt from back in the day? Or telling women what they are supposed to want and desire?

It doesn't have to be that way, but until we as society throw that bullshyt out, we will continue to see women shytting on the institution wholesale...and the shyt is happening worldwide.

Why? Because women all but JUMPED at the chance to have a different life as soon as a different set of opportunities presented themselves as they got more chances to enter the workforce and gain educational attainment.

It's funny, I was watching a documentary on a rural Indian community a long time ago and the men in the village said they didn't want their females to go to school b/c if they did, they wouldn't wanna stay in the village and get married.

Same shyt is happening everywhere. Instead of getting mad about it, why not let go of foolishness and try to understand one another a bit better? There are really obvious answers to these problems but men and women have to meet each other halfway.shyt really ain't that hard or hopeless.

 

[analog]

This is why wealthy arranged marriage families in Asia stay winning.

That's wealth preservation not creation.

Two poor individuals get married, chances are they'll be two poor individuals at the end.

You can look at 3rd world countries where life long marriages are still the norm. Ain't too many escaping poverty via marriage.

 

[Originalman]

And what a beautiful thing this is

@ being afraid of women avoiding marriage

shyts like a win win for men. Talk about having your cake and eating it.

Most men in America will celebrate this shyt from the mountain tops.

Women would be crazy to do this because all the laws are set up for them to be protected in marriage. It is the ultimate hustling backwards move.

 

[Originalman]

This is non sense

It is cause most these older women I personally know say they fukked up in initiating the divorce. They should have planned accordingly then if they felt a divorce was still necessary executed it but with a plan.

What I mean by this is that many felt that it would be easy to pay all the bills. But found out too late how much their husband covered or how little child support really is. Hell many stated they never realized how hard it would be to date again in their 50s because there are just so few eligible men.

For example this older latin lady who I know. Been tight with her for like 13 years. She divorced her husband who was a mechanical engineer. She stated she was tired of him and ready to live her life while she was young. She was 45 when she divorced and had a 14 year old son.

The problem was she never sat back and adjusted or estimated how much things would cost. Her husband made 150k a year and paid all the bills. She divorces him and asks for the house (350k home) asks for the benz and other things.

She only made 50k and doesn't think about she only had 4 years of child support. She ends up losing the house and can barely pay on the car note. There were times I even helped fix minor things on her car. Cause she couldn't pay for the car to be repaired because it was a benz.

So many women (and men) need to think long and hard before filing them papers. First thing you need to sit down and go over all your bills and how you will pay them. Look into the future and take into account how you will handle insurance, mortgage payments and when will child support run out. You may need to swallow your pride and down size after a divorce (men usually understand this because of child support).

Just a lot of things to think about. But trust a lot of these older divorced folks will tell you they thought the grass was greener on the other side and found out too late.

 

[LurkMoar]

Marriage isn’t “out of date”, people’s reasoning for getting married is out of date. It’s just a financial/wealth building tool, not a measurement of love and commitment.

 

[Jhoon]

Not every woman gets rich from divorce. Divorced women in their old age are a rapidly growing demographic represented amongst those in poverty.

So why are they willing to court massive vulnerability at the most vulnerable years of their lives to get out of the marriage they'd been in for decades?

People don't want to evaluate the quality of the "good ole days" marriages and many men and women assume women were happy in those relationships in the past.

We need to think critically about how men and women interact with each other and move to create healthier relationships. Not every tradition is as infalliable as we think it is just because it's old.

I will ask you to marry me but this isn’t the thread for that.