Do males raised by single mothers grow up with a sense of authority and need to maintain order over their community and women?

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[O.Red]

We can't just pin every single problem in the Black community on a Black women. As a collective we could be doing more.

I don't think it's about pinning every problem on black women.

Just about all the major problems are openly discussed but when it's time to talk about the women it's time to shut up and be gaslit

 

[feelosofer]

I don't think it's about pinning every problem on black women.

Just about all the major problems are openly discussed but when it's time to talk about the women it's time to shut up and be gaslit

That's fair

 

[invalid]

no.

 

[IsThatBrothaMouzone?]

Well, sometimes men raised by single mothers are more equipped to understand women and know how to connect, communicate, etc with them.

There are a lot of guys born in two-parent households who don't know how to relate to women and have a false sense of machoness. A lot of dudes on here say they grew up in two-parent households, but they seem to be the ones struggling the most to understand, relate, or even be empathetic with women.

Again, stats are stats; it doesn't always reflect reality because everybody's upbringing is different. Some men were raised by single mothers and grew up to be successful, educated, family men, community leaders, with a wife and kids living in a nice neighborhood, pillars of the community, etc. Then you got dudes raised in two-parent households yet never amounted to anything, living in the hood, multiple baby mamas, can't hold a job, lack of education, etc.

Vice versa, it's not nice to generalize or to always “live and die” by what stats say, you have to take things in the present time.

I think the income part gets overlooked.

We focus on "single mom raising Black son." Thing is....it's rarely the sista making 6-figs as a CPA, surgeon, engineer etc. What usually happens is a working class woman has a child out of wedlock and she can't afford to provide all the opportunities that might be possible with a second income (daddy in the house).....and that's if she's a good parent.

If she's poor AND a bad parent, you've got a whole other set of problems.

I'd be curious how stats shake out if controlled for income...i.e., comparing a single father OR single mother making $100k/year to a 2-parent household where both parents make $100k combined. Then control for education etc. I think 2-parents is generally "better" but results might look different when controlling for income.