Do males raised by single mothers grow up with a sense of authority and need to maintain order over their community and women?

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We can't just pin every single problem in the Black community on a Black women. As a collective we could be doing more.
I don't think it's about pinning every problem on black women.

Just about all the major problems are openly discussed but when it's time to talk about the women it's time to shut up and be gaslit
 
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Well, sometimes men raised by single mothers are more equipped to understand women and know how to connect, communicate, etc with them.

There are a lot of guys born in two-parent households who don't know how to relate to women and have a false sense of machoness. A lot of dudes on here say they grew up in two-parent households, but they seem to be the ones struggling the most to understand, relate, or even be empathetic with women.

Again, stats are stats; it doesn't always reflect reality because everybody's upbringing is different. Some men were raised by single mothers and grew up to be successful, educated, family men, community leaders, with a wife and kids living in a nice neighborhood, pillars of the community, etc. Then you got dudes raised in two-parent households yet never amounted to anything, living in the hood, multiple baby mamas, can't hold a job, lack of education, etc.

Vice versa, it's not nice to generalize or to always “live and die” by what stats say, you have to take things in the present time.
I think the income part gets overlooked.

We focus on "single mom raising Black son." Thing is....it's rarely the sista making 6-figs as a CPA, surgeon, engineer etc. What usually happens is a working class woman has a child out of wedlock and she can't afford to provide all the opportunities that might be possible with a second income (daddy in the house).....and that's if she's a good parent.

If she's poor AND a bad parent, you've got a whole other set of problems.

I'd be curious how stats shake out if controlled for income...i.e., comparing a single father OR single mother making $100k/year to a 2-parent household where both parents make $100k combined. Then control for education etc. I think 2-parents is generally "better" but results might look different when controlling for income.
 

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Fact :


Poverty is created by children born from wedlock



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In my experience guys who had mum and dad usually have a rosey picture of life, more likely to be step dads and shyt
 

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Really man...the obsession is weird. Like do some of yall have nothing in life that the only way to feel like you're better than the next man is the fact you had a father around and he didn't?
I understand the statistics but yall take this fatherless shyt too far at times. And it isn't even coming from a place of wanting to help but just to look down on folks.
Exactly. OP presents zero solutions and openly admits to womanizing and not being married

Instead of yapping about what other people should be doing, why don't you get married and start a family of your own @Stuntone
 

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Exactly. OP presents zero solutions and openly admits to womanizing and not being married

Instead of yapping about what other people should be doing, why don't you get married and start a family of your own @Stuntone

Too many women believe its fine to raise children without men. Its not. So much women dont know and cant teach.

So many boy grow up soft and simple like u, no real clue as what men really suppose to do.
 

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I grew up in a single parent household…with two sisters :snoop: it’s a wonder I ain’t feminine :dead: had a hard time understanding manhood for sure coming up. Got around some dudes that knew what was up and studied men like Malcolm X. I’m square bidness now, but it’s a struggle going through that

I understand that stuff happens, but it’s best for children to have two parents under a single roof imo. Boys obviously need a man to see how to be a man. Girls need a man there to understand how to be treated properly by men and that protection. Why some young boys aren’t square business and act like whiny bytches. Why some women seek male attention in the worst ways.
 

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Maybe everybody is different but I mostly grew up with a single mom, with no consistent male figures in my life and so did my brother. Infact the vast majority of my friends came up in the same situation. Neither of us are feminine or have some weird warped view on society. This shyt is stupid to me.

If you had a good parent, single or not, and solid home life, there is a good chance you will come out alright. There are plenty of single moms bustin their ass and making it work for their kids just fine. But the coli seems to think that a single mom will pump out either Magic Johnson's son or Pooh Shiesty....thats it, no middle ground
 

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nikkas be squandering their own potential by not going out and doing whats best for them out of fear of "upsetting mama" nikkas do what they mama think is best for them. Soft ass nikkas
 
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