You absolutely can control who your offspring choose. My daughter sees me loving a Black man, she has so many examples of strong, long Black marriages from most of her adult family members on my and her fathers side. she attends Black functions, has already made up her mind to attend an HBCU (my alma), is sure in herself as a Black girl and understand the plights of Black people and still would choose to be Black despite them. I don’t have to wonder if she will marry Black. Some Black people just get it.