I think it's weird how people think that if you're single something is wrong with you. Is a woman OR man supposed to just be with someone just to say they're in a relationship? What kind of fukked up logic
because a sustained relationship is the only way to build a shared history together
it is a movie that must play out in real time- there's no fast forward button for establishing rapport
that shared perspective deepens the intimacy you feel- mutual compassion and respect, etc.
it is a great and unique life experience that can't be substituted with other things
to fail to achieve such a basic yet clearly desirable goal??
suggests something is wrong with that person behind the scenes
to not want such a feeling??
suggests the person is not fully functional with their emotions
i've watched people for decades
people who talk indefinitely, years and years and years
about "needing to focus on other things"
or "needing to work on themselves" before having a relationship
they never quite get there- so i have concluded it is excuses or procrastination
nowadays on the internet i see guys who have basic employment
generic education, low networth
typing up novellas on how they are worried about gold diggers or scam artists
i mean what real hustler is going to waste time on someone making $15/hr??
perpetually single people are like those folks on the hoarder shows-
saying they just need some more time to get things "organized"
perpetually single people are scared or have social anxities
or have other thinly disguised problems they want to keep under wraps
i am not one to play the age/experience card
but it is so obvious-
look at the way bachelors/spinsters act at work
look at how things crack under basic obstacles or setbacks
something is definitely "wrong" with perpetually single people
i am posting this to insult anyone
but if you are on the fence??
please don't stunt your development by waiting
no experienced 35+ year old person wants to date a relationship neophyte
so at best you get two inexperienced but well-meaning people
trying to figure out 20 years worth of life during a few awkward dates
that's a longshot at best
there- i've said my piece
take what you want (if anything)
and throw the rest away