Do u believe in second chances??

[AgentSofia]

Me and my guy have been involved for the better part of 3yrs. More off than on the last few months. We both dated other ppl but decided to get back together. Been talking again since the summer but I just found out he has still been f****ng his ex.

Idk how long, idk how often, he hasn't been forth coming with details (apparently he's been reading the "Quick lil gems on dealing with women thread...."lol). He says he stopped talking to the girl but i don't believe him at all. Their thing wasn't just sex, there was a lot emotional ties and i don't think he cld drop it just like that. I half wish he wlda hooked up with a random broad so ties cld easily be broken but this girl talking bout marriage with him.

My first instinct was to just toss him to the side but its hard to let go. He's my best friend, and has been for years. We have a great time together and he is the only one who gets my twisted humor. But i just don't believe a word that comes out his mouth anymore. I question everything he tells me.

Basically im at a crossroad right now. I don't know how much I shld let him in my life. Do I give him a second chance, do i just stay friends or do i just cut him out all together?

 

[Swing]

Go with ur gut feeling

 

[BIGDENNIS10UK]

You ever had another boyfriend?

A lot if people stay with one person cos they think there's nothing better out there, it isn't the case.

Have some self respect and move on, the relationship is obviously more to you than it is to him.

 

[yeahisaidit]

If you don't believe him, why get into a relationship with him?

 

[kevm3]

lol that negro going to still be beating the ex down while he's with you. You already know what it is. If you got a feeling you can't believe the person you are dealing with, you have to stop dealing with them. Bottom line.

 

[AgentSofia]

You ever had another boyfriend?

A lot if people stay with one person cos they think there's nothing better out there, it isn't the case.

Have some self respect and move on, the relationship is obviously more to you than it is to him.

yea Ive dated other guys. I had a few other serious relationships before him and casually dated when we separated.

I feel like one of those dumb broads in a movie on lifetime. Never understood y they went back to loser bf's. It was easy from the outside to say move on but now im in it and Sh*t is harder to deal with then i thought it wld be.

Guess I just need to find a way to get over him

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

If you don't trust him, then you shouldn't get involved with him. The only reason I'm considering re-marriage to my ex is because I know I can trust her with my life.​

 

[unit321]

Well, if you broke up mutually because you weren't getting along, Yeah, you could give him a second chance.
If he was lying and sleeping around with his ex, here's your real option....

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[Rominati]

Nah

 

[Ohnoits]

Me and my guy have been involved for the better part of 3yrs. More off than on the last few months. We both dated other ppl but decided to get back together. Been talking again since the summer but I just found out he has still been f****ng his ex.

Idk how long, idk how often, he hasn't been forth coming with details (apparently he's been reading the "Quick lil gems on dealing with women thread...."lol). He says he stopped talking to the girl but i don't believe him at all. Their thing wasn't just sex, there was a lot emotional ties and i don't think he cld drop it just like that. I half wish he wlda hooked up with a random broad so ties cld easily be broken but this girl talking bout marriage with him.

My first instinct was to just toss him to the side but its hard to let go. He's my best friend, and has been for years. We have a great time together and he is the only one who gets my twisted humor. But i just don't believe a word that comes out his mouth anymore. I question everything he tells me.

Basically im at a crossroad right now. I don't know how much I shld let him in my life. Do I give him a second chance, do i just stay friends or do i just cut him out all together?

If there's no trust you can't have a relationship.

Since it was his ex and this girl is talking marriage, that's a big red flag.

The bigger red flag is that he wasn't upfront with you about it.

That seems like you are low priority on his list.

Toss him in the bushes and move on.

 

[marcuz]

If you don't trust him, then you shouldn't get involved with him. The only reason I'm considering re-marriage to my ex is because I know I can trust her with my life.​

or so you think she's your ex for a reason. how many times did she get her guts rearranged before deciding to fall back on what's 'stable and reliable'

 

[ugksam]

fukk me instead

 

[MikelArteta]

I'd say 90 percent of the type ppl who give second chances the exact same reason that caused the first breakup, cheating, abuse etc Will happen again.


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[intruder]

Me and my guy have been involved for the better part of 3yrs. More off than on the last few months. We both dated other ppl but decided to get back together. Been talking again since the summer but I just found out he has still been f****ng his ex.

Idk how long, idk how often, he hasn't been forth coming with details (apparently he's been reading the "Quick lil gems on dealing with women thread...."lol). He says he stopped talking to the girl but i don't believe him at all. Their thing wasn't just sex, there was a lot emotional ties and i don't think he cld drop it just like that. I half wish he wlda hooked up with a random broad so ties cld easily be broken but this girl talking bout marriage with him.

My first instinct was to just toss him to the side but its hard to let go. He's my best friend, and has been for years. We have a great time together and he is the only one who gets my twisted humor. But i just don't believe a word that comes out his mouth anymore. I question everything he tells me.

Basically im at a crossroad right now. I don't know how much I shld let him in my life. Do I give him a second chance, do i just stay friends or do i just cut him out all together?

If it's not just sex then you are/could be wasting your time. If he's infatuated with homegirl to the degree where it's emotional then you're competing with more than just a coochie.

I'll admit I've been in the same boat by dating one woman and (on the side) messing around with another whom i have deep deep feelings for but with whom a relationship isnt available at the time. He's not doing it to hurt you. he probably cares for you both. Just that it's hard to get over that infatuation. Trust me I know

 

[ClassyME]

Sometimes a relationship gets tested and that's what it needs. You'll never know to be honest and I can't tell you to make a decision based on one mishap. shyt, he slipped up but u did too cuz you're the one who agreed to see other people. Him being a random guy, he went where he knew best... HIS EX.


Everybody fukks up at least once in a relationship. If he's as great as u say he is and it's THAT hard for you to get over him, then give him one more chance but keep your eyes open.

Spoiler

If you feel deep down that he ain't shyt and he'll continue to fukk his ex, don't listen to me... LEAVE!!!