All of that is you though...everyone does not have that.
Anyone can be in a relationship. What I have or don’t have is always on me or better yet, I have a say on whether I am in a relationship or single. I am not in a relationship by choice. But, it isn’t the sole reason. Timing and circumstances also plays a vital part, but I can’t say that I don’t have a choice to my situation.
Blaming others won’t fly because as a man, I have a responsibility to put forth the work necessary to find a mate and at least make an attempt to start a relationship with a woman. Basically, I can’t say that I don’t have an option, especially as a free man with free will.
But, if people want to limit themselves by believing that there is no way for them to be in a relationship, then so be it. As far as I am concerned, that person or those people self imposed their limitations. They placed themselves in a mental prison where there is no hope to change their circumstance.