yardman
Afro-pessimist
I think so generally (moreso cognitive empathy), but I definitely have an off switch. Childhood kind of calcified emotional empathy from my emotional palette, for the most part, it’s blunted.
Do you consider yourself an empathetic person?
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MischievousMonkey
Gor bu dëgër
Not particularly but I'm becoming more and more empathetic as I age
It's progressively easier to feel others' emotions
It's progressively easier to feel others' emotions
yardman
Afro-pessimist
Was this change solely due to aging, or did significant life experiences also play a role? Has this change revealed any subtle, personal insights or small but meaningful shifts in how you experience life?
Ezekiel 25:17
Veteran
No. A lot of people make bad decisions. A lot of people ain't shyt. Can you have a streak of Bad luck? Sure. But it's not hard being a decent human being.
africngiant
All Star
i have a big heart but i’ve been fukked over so many times now that i just cant stand being around most ppl. i just assume ppl are conniving and don’t give af about me just using me for convenience at best.
Probably not
I’ve been through alot of chit in my life.. sexual abuse, physical abuse, divorce of parents, domestic violence, suicide of my father, homelessness… through it all I ended up doing exactly what I wanted to do with my life and have a happy healthy family
When I hear about complaints or issues from people’s lives I find myself having a tougher time feeling bad/empathy for them.
My wife is a therapist and she will ask for my input on faceless cases or what I think, and some of their problems seem so trivial or pointless.
I’ve been through alot of chit in my life.. sexual abuse, physical abuse, divorce of parents, domestic violence, suicide of my father, homelessness… through it all I ended up doing exactly what I wanted to do with my life and have a happy healthy family
When I hear about complaints or issues from people’s lives I find myself having a tougher time feeling bad/empathy for them.
My wife is a therapist and she will ask for my input on faceless cases or what I think, and some of their problems seem so trivial or pointless.
Sleepy Floyd
Superstar
I've been thought a lot of fukked up shyt so I have an easier time being empathetic towards another person. You never really know what they're going through or have been through.
Interesting I'm in the same boat but I didn't enjoy going through hard times and when i see others in the similar situations better or worse I feel for them.
Imagine when you were going through that abuse it would've been nice at the time to have someone show empathy and compassion. Even if you made it out on your own that just tells me you could've went even farther had someone shown compassion and interest to see you do better.
Also the same way you look at those other people situation and said it's trivial someone who had it worse than you could do the same to you. And to me that's not a good look of seeing who had it worse. "my pain is real because I had it worse" mentality is dumb imo.
If you truly lack empathy please don’t have kids or anyone close to you
Being empathetic is one of my larger flaws