My father passed away six years ago. He and my mom got divorced when i was around 10. He had bad alcohol issues and i suspect he was using other drugs as well. Got locked up for a while and i had no clue, i actually didn't even know if he was alive. I know he wasn't always there for me, but i appreciate the few things he did do for me. He helped mold my sense of humor, passion for sports, and taught me about women. Sounds pretty basic, but it's stuff that never leaves you. So i guess you could say i admired certain qualities of his, but never respected him overall or thought of him as a role model. By the time he realized all the mistakes he had made in his life, including losing his family and his health, it was too late. To see what life did to him really hurt, but it helped teach me what choices NOT to make. Not a day goes by that i don't think about him.
Do you respect your father?
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mbewane
Knicks: 93 til infinity
Brehs, I'm genuinely happy and jealous of those who big up their pops like y'all do. I can't answer yes or no, because my Pops is a cool guy, funny, down to earth, despite having occupied high positions back home. We have a good relationship, like we would watch/play bball together, go to the movies etc...he's always more than provided for us...but at the same time I feel he never TEACHED me anything in life, not how to ride a bike, not how to drive, not nothing. He never gave me those "lessons" or set an example in how to live, but rather how to be. And even that (being humble and shyt) isn't to my advantage. And I moved to Europe early (I was 15) so I've only seen him a couple of months per year after that, and even before he wans't much around because of his work. I also have a distorted image of him, because when he comes to Belgium he's clearly out of his "element" and not in charge, which I'm sure has greatly molded my image of him as someone being quite "passive". And I fear I'm that way too. Talking about family is the most important thing, but then not making us know our own cousins, and hiding the existence of my half-sister. And I know that he's not doing what he wanted to do, he lost his wife, his children are living far away from him and not leading the most succesfull lives (lives in which he only has a small part) so in that sense he's not really a model or whatever to me. Of course I respect him, but not that much more than I respect any other human being.
its_normal
Rookie
No he stopped seeing my at two but without fukking telling anyone, every week my mum would take me to my nans house and every week that prick didn't show up, leaving me screaming and crying for him - he was my dad, now he is nothing to me.
Rockstar Mom
PhatGurlSwag
I respect him. He's my Daddy.
Do I like him tho?
Maaaaaaan! My dad is the meanest, strictest, loudest African to ever walk this earth. He was super strict. I felt like I was in jail most my life. Till I broke free and wound up pregnant @ 17.
He kicked my ass clean out the house.
Funny thing is, he still treats me this way. But he LOVES my son. He always sends money and calls to speak to hun.
I'm like, how u gonna treat me all types of way but love my child?
He wouldn't even be here if I hadn't carried him and pushed him out. Damn, can I get some kind of props for that?:smugfarve:
Do I like him tho?
Maaaaaaan! My dad is the meanest, strictest, loudest African to ever walk this earth. He was super strict. I felt like I was in jail most my life. Till I broke free and wound up pregnant @ 17.
He kicked my ass clean out the house.
Funny thing is, he still treats me this way. But he LOVES my son. He always sends money and calls to speak to hun.
I'm like, how u gonna treat me all types of way but love my child?
He wouldn't even be here if I hadn't carried him and pushed him out. Damn, can I get some kind of props for that?:smugfarve:
Silver Surfer
Veteran
I respect him. He's my Daddy.
Do I like him tho?
Maaaaaaan! My dad is the meanest, strictest, loudest African to ever walk this earth. He was super strict. I felt like I was in jail most my life. Till I broke free and wound up pregnant @ 17.
He kicked my ass clean out the house.
Funny thing is, he still treats me this way. But he LOVES my son. He always sends money and calls to speak to hun.
I'm like, how u gonna treat me all types of way but love my child?
The_Hillsta
Neva missin a beat
The only man I've known to be GREAT at everything he set out to accomplish, sh1t was/is amazing witnessing it as a kid to an adulthood. The dopest part is that moms, brothers and sisters, me, were all a part of it.
Pops is that dude, my best friend......STILL can't outrun him on that muthafvckin treadmill
Dedicated to all the real fathers out there....
[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o3WXwMDfJh0"]Freestlye Fellowship "Daddies" - YouTube[/ame]
Pops is that dude, my best friend......STILL can't outrun him on that muthafvckin treadmill
Dedicated to all the real fathers out there....
[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o3WXwMDfJh0"]Freestlye Fellowship "Daddies" - YouTube[/ame]
devizelle
Pro
No. I love him, but respect him? Not so much.
Yes.
He's probably the most complicated individual I know. I think that's where my troubles come from. lol
Basically my dad is the good and the bad. He's a high school dropout who became a proud ex-Marine yet he's the same guy who stepped out on my mom 20 yrs. ago and had a kid. He has to live with that everyday since she decided to stay with him. The basis of her frustration when she argues with him is because of that kid even when the argument is almost never about that.
He's the blue collar worker who puts up with a lot of shyt from his incompetent boss yet if a "friend" borrows money from he may charge you extra. lol
He's the one who's always been there for his kids yet keeps very little contact with his own siblings. Hell, my mom knows more what's going in his family than he does. Maybe that stems from losing a sister in her early-20s following a car accident in the 1970s. He worked at the hospital at the time and used to "see" her after she passed while working (I tend to think it still haunts him). It could be the fact that he went and played cards with his friends instead of being by his mom's bedside when she passed. Those two deaths I'm told are the only times my father's really cried about something (the latter more with guilt).
I always want to ask him certain things but never do. I may never figure out what really makes my father who he is but at the end of the day, he's still my father.
He's probably the most complicated individual I know. I think that's where my troubles come from. lol
Basically my dad is the good and the bad. He's a high school dropout who became a proud ex-Marine yet he's the same guy who stepped out on my mom 20 yrs. ago and had a kid. He has to live with that everyday since she decided to stay with him. The basis of her frustration when she argues with him is because of that kid even when the argument is almost never about that.
He's the blue collar worker who puts up with a lot of shyt from his incompetent boss yet if a "friend" borrows money from he may charge you extra. lol
He's the one who's always been there for his kids yet keeps very little contact with his own siblings. Hell, my mom knows more what's going in his family than he does. Maybe that stems from losing a sister in her early-20s following a car accident in the 1970s. He worked at the hospital at the time and used to "see" her after she passed while working (I tend to think it still haunts him). It could be the fact that he went and played cards with his friends instead of being by his mom's bedside when she passed. Those two deaths I'm told are the only times my father's really cried about something (the latter more with guilt).
I always want to ask him certain things but never do. I may never figure out what really makes my father who he is but at the end of the day, he's still my father.
Carter G. Hoodson
Tarik is my name ✊✊✊
Most definitely...he provided for his family and was there for me every step of the way whether good or bad.
BlvdBrawler
Superstar
Zapp Brannigan
Captain of the Nimbus
I respect my father wholeheartedly. It's just hard living in his shadow.
Slaimon Khan Shah
SLAIMON KHAN SHAH = SHAOLIN MONK/S OF ISLAAM
I HOPE MY DADDY DO GOOD.
SmoothOperator88
Your friendly neighborhood coli poster
I love my pops but my respect for him has gone down drastically over the years after hearing about some of the shyt he's pulled.
He did pretty well for himself. I'd like to accomplish as much as he did and more but he's done some bytchmade shyt. Especially to fam.
He did pretty well for himself. I'd like to accomplish as much as he did and more but he's done some bytchmade shyt. Especially to fam.
