At first I wasn't going to post but throw my two cents in. You should really be honest with yourself on the issue. Also you need to honest that you won't hold any grudges if years go by and she is consistent with her position. Good luck.
This one I rationalize with the fact that not everybody on earth is doing badly universally. You can strive to provide a bubble of good-living for your own offspring. Neither you nor them are liable for the state of everything else.
Could you explain what you meant here? Question is a bit broad. Do you mean what I'll do about myself in old age or do you mean what I'll do about the kids during my old age?
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What are you going to do when you are old and single? Since you don't want to get married what are you going to do about having no companionship in old age along with dying alone?This one I rationalize with the fact that not everybody on earth is doing badly universally. You can strive to provide a bubble of good-living for your own offspring. Neither you nor them are liable for the state of everything else.
Effectively, For every kid choking on Chinese industrial fumes in Seoul, there is another experiencing pristine mountain air in Aspen. For every kid going hungry in a slum there is another doing well in a suburb. For every public event shooting in the US, there are thousands of peaceful public events in Canada or EU. For every kid drowning in climate change based flooding in Florida, there is another nestled on high ground in the blue ridge mountains.
I see it as creating a dome of safety for your own kids. Unless something dramatic like a global nuclear war occured tomorrow, I think your child can thrive safely within their dome without emotional or physical detriment to their development.
Could you explain what you meant here? Question is a bit broad. Do you mean what I'll do about myself in old age or do you mean what I'll do about the kids during my old age?
It really depends on daycare. Without daycare, you can avg 400-500 per month in extra spending for each child over the 18 yrs of their childhood. That's including food, clothing, the extra physical space for each kid, etc. Thus you'd need additional 2000 per month (24k per year) in addition to the comfortable amount of money you usually spend on yourself and your wife. You can also use "economy of scale" to make things cheaper for each child with the more children you have.
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