Donald Glover asked himself If He's Afraid Of Black Women.... getting backlash on Twitter right now

[CarmelBarbie]

Imma move once I finish my masters prob . Ik the Hampton roads has a decent amount but I don’t feel like it

Sorry I don’t know much about Hampton roads so I can’t speak on it.

But I think many locations in the south or the east coast should be good in terms of increasing your opportunities, if you want to keep it black. I will say I’m not a blerd and I’ve never dated a blerd—but I do see blerd couples often here in Charlotte and I saw them often in Philly too. So I think location def helps.

 

[Coolin']

The think-pieces and fake outrage

 

[Leao2005]

Sorry I don’t know much about Hampton roads so I can’t speak on it.

But I think many locations in the south or the east coast should be good in terms of increasing your opportunities, if you want to keep it black. I will say I’m not a blerd and I’ve never dated a blerd—but I do see blerd couples often here in Charlotte and I saw them often in Philly too. So I think location def helps.

I’m not a blerd so I can’t relate exactly to the premises of the thread in that sense

 

[KidJSoul]

My issue is that when black women say stuf like this, we're supposed to have empathy, but when black men say it, it's "stfu it's your fault"

 

[MarcP]

Donald just got black women to question his blackness by questioning himself about his blackness by using black women to question his blackness.

 

[Jean toomer]

In all honesty he should have qualified to black women on twitter. This sample set of women in general is just reactionary and bonkers.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Here's the thing though, as a black square (not even nerd), you can just pull better looking women with less of the hassle if you date other a lot of the time. I'm sorry but no, when I was growing up, none of the black women nerds were attractive. It wasn't due to colorism, it was due to gaps in their teeth, being overweight, etc. If you weren't keeping the fresh lineup, wren't adept at talking with the aggressiveness & pace most black women expect ("apply pressure"), etc., you were just going to end up dating a non-black woman if you still wanted to date an attractive person . I don't know why we pretend there aren't differences in how you have to step to & handle black women that makes the shyt higher maintenance. Just like there's shyt you have to deal with and put up w/ in attractive or high value black men that no one denies. Like I just had a group dinner, one of the BW mutual friends was trying to flirt, but that shyt was just mad aggressive and confrontational for no reason. shyt's exhausting. I can give and take and don't fold under pressure, but you're not always trying to deal with that BS.

Also, shyt's changed a lot in the last 15-20 years. There are more attractive blerds out there now, but it wasn't poppin like that years ago. I didn't see an attractive blerd woman until I left the south and went to college. I got attention from black non-nerd attractive women, but it was always on some dramatic, confrontational shyt.

This is cap. First off, colorism is at the root of what is deemed attractive ESPECIALLY in our culture when it comes to females. So let’s stop the lies there. Many blk nerdy dudes had a different set of standards for black women growing up than they did exotivals or non-blk women. Blk girls literally had to look perfect and many non-blk chicks literally just had to be non-blk. That’s because a lotta these types were dating for clout and racial validation.
Plenty of cute blk chicks didn’t expect stereotypical thug or player traits from regular black men—but guess who were the most aggressive with some of those nerdy chicks—mannish or thuggish dudes who saw them as easy lay-ups because their similar nerd counterparts were off trading Pokémon cards and daydreaming of marrying Chun Li or at least the closest thing to it racially.
Thirdly, some blk women have said the SAME thing and used the same justifications for dating out. Saying it was easier with non-blk men or they were cuter or better or other vomit-inducing drivel. And it’s nonsense.
Blacks have been socially conditioned to think we are lesser than non-blks which is why so many are willing to overlook the problems in non-blks while demonizing our own and ignoring any positives contrary to what we already think we know about those in our race. Ignore the racism, ugliness, nastiness, dysfunction of non-blks, but white is right or anything not-blk is right. That shyt is embarrassing.

 

[bubba scotch]

This is cap. First off, colorism is at the root of what is deemed attractive ESPECIALLY in our culture when it comes to females. So let’s stop the lies there. Many blk nerdy dudes had a different set of standards for black women growing up than they did exotivals or non-blk women. Blk girls literally had to look perfect and many non-blk chicks literally just had to be non-blk. That’s because a lotta these types were dating for clout and racial validation.
Plenty of cute blk chicks didn’t expect stereotypical thug or player traits from regular black men—but guess who were the most aggressive with some of those nerdy chicks—mannish or thuggish dudes who saw them as easy lay-ups because their similar nerd counterparts were off trading Pokémon cards and daydreaming of marrying Chun Li or at least the closest thing to it racially.
Thirdly, some blk women have said the SAME thing and used the same justifications for dating out. Saying it was easier with non-blk men or they were cuter or better or other vomit-inducing drivel. And it’s nonsense.
Blacks have been socially conditioned to think we are lesser than non-blks which is why so many are willing to overlook the problems in non-blks while demonizing our own and ignoring any positives contrary to what we already think we know about those in our race. Ignore the racism, ugliness, nastiness, dysfunction of non-blks, but white is right or anything not-blk is right. That shyt is embarrassing.

What alternative universe are you living in where the nerd chicks are struggling more than the nerd brehs . Nerd brehs are not eating around my way, let alone be in positions to reject cute black women

 

[ItzRailT]

Yawn kill the fake victim outrage I’ve heard black women say way way worse about black men almost klansman shyt so kill the noise.

 

[Chip Skylark]

Nope. That’s a cop out answer. I have long posts anyway. This is just the same stuff I been talking about for years. Stop lying on black people to justify weirdo tendencies and self-hate. If you like somebody of another culture do that without the nonsense.

This times a thousand.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Lol whenever a black man shares his lived experience and it mirrors what other black men have said women always wanna deny deny. What Donald glover went through absolutely happens and I can speak to it myself. Brehs that go through this usually go one of two routes. They keep getting shyt from black women and completely go to other races of women and never look back/hold resentment or they eventually let the shyt go and find their niche black woman who makes them happy.

But don’t black men do the same to black women? If black women said what @Reality just said, aren’t they lambasted as bedwenches. Don’t we routinely gaslight blk women about anything they complain about. Tell them colorism doesn’t exist or that they just ugly or insecure. Tell them to get over their trauma even as we calling them ugly, masculine, nasty, dark bytches, darkbutts, ghetto, rachets…

So in terms of empathy, that’s a two-way street.
In terms of what blk men like Donald Glover go through, I give him the same advice I’ve given swirlers years ago on the matter in the post below

Same unsolicited advice I’ve told PAWGers is the same unsolicited advice I’ve told Swirlers: Fix urself or you’ll just date the same mess you dated in your race, in another face.

Yes there are numbers disparities in our race. But that doesn’t mean dating IR is a magic bullet. Also, men are men.
And all of ya’ll suck sometimes.

Culture won’t change that. And if you wack on the inside, easy, stupid, don’t know how to set boundaries, can’t tell men no, ain’t got nothing going for yourself—then worrying about dikk is the last thing you need to be doing. No matter what color it comes in.

And I say this as someone who has dated men of other races.

You are you no matter who you try to make it with. And compounding whatever shyt you got going on with language barriers, cultural differences, parental control, hyper-traditionalism, and all kinds of other shyt ain’t gon help.

Chadwick, Kung Lao, Julio, Dikk that rides with the wind can’t fix you.

When I tell blk dudes this, I’m a jealous feminist bedwench bytch dikk watching and trying to control their options.

When I tell blk women this, I’m a black mammy trying to scare blk women and limit their options or discourage them from dating out.
I don’t mind b/c I just like telling the truth regardless of whose fragile ass feelings get touched.

And the truth is, blacks be trying to run from themselves to other races who have their own fukkery to deal with. So vet carefully no matter who you date and please for the love of God, do NOT put non-blks on a pedestal like some desperate buffoon.

The problem with many of these nerdy special snowflake swirlers, PAWGers is they never account for their own internalized self-hate, their social skills issues, their awkwardness, ect.

They just think IR dating is a magic bullet. Like whiteness or straighter hair can somehow wash away their mental illnesses. Newsflash: It’s doesn’t. That’s why IR divorces are higher, and IR relationships have more instability.

Because if you are an awkward, insufferable weirdo who can’t make a single successful connection with the opposite sex amongst 24 million people with your same features and culture, that won’t change with Brad or Mei Lin.

Instead of dating out, they need to do to counseling. Get some therapy. Some social skills training. Work through childhood traumas. Do some self-care, and THEN hit the dating scene. And if it’s non-blk you end up with, then cool. But trying to act like non-blks are better to cover up why the blks you desire don’t desire you is tragic. Even the obsession with IR dating is tragic because blks end up putting non-blks on a pedestal and glossing over their MANY issues while being hypercritical of blacks who do anything. That’s a major inferiority complex and to be honest, a lot of the romanticization of non-blks actually comes from those who have never even dated or interacted with them or have never interacted much with blks. Which makes this even worse because they are positively generalizing non-blks while negatively generalizing blks off limited experiences either way. And don’t even see how it is.

 

[Reality]

This is cap. First off, colorism is at the root of what is deemed attractive ESPECIALLY in our culture when it comes to females. So let’s stop the lies there. Many blk nerdy dudes had a different set of standards for black women growing up than they did exotivals or non-blk women. Blk girls literally had to look perfect and many non-blk chicks literally just had to be non-blk. That’s because a lotta these types were dating for clout and racial validation.
Plenty of cute blk chicks didn’t expect stereotypical thug or player traits from regular black men—but guess who were the most aggressive with some of those nerdy chicks—mannish or thuggish dudes who saw them as easy lay-ups because their similar nerd counterparts were off trading Pokémon cards and daydreaming of marrying Chun Li or at least the closest thing to it racially.
Thirdly, some blk women have said the SAME thing and used the same justifications for dating out. Saying it was easier with non-blk men or they were cuter or better or other vomit-inducing drivel. And it’s nonsense.
Blacks have been socially conditioned to think we are lesser than non-blks which is why so many are willing to overlook the problems in non-blks while demonizing our own and ignoring any positives contrary to what we already think we know about those in our race. Ignore the racism, ugliness, nastiness, dysfunction of non-blks, but white is right or anything not-blk is right. That shyt is embarrassing.

You don't get to tell me that my lived experience is cap. I know everywhere else people tell you you can just say whatever the fukk you wanna say and be an authority, but not here. This isn't Twitter or Lipstick Alley.

Type all that shyt if you want to, it doesn't make it true. Nerd brehs aren't overlooking attractive black nerd women holding out for white women and Asian women. You know how stupid that sounds? Black nerd males were OK nuking their clout by being black nerds, but held out on dating black women because it would fukk with their clout? This is the type of shyt you say with a straight face when no one ever checks you.

I'll be honest with you because I'm tired of having this same conversation with some black women. You probably just aren't attractive for reasons that don't have to do with your shade, and want to map your unattractive experience to the median experience of black men. I've seen this time and time again.

Men don't give a shyt what women are into if they look good unless it's extremely off the wall. If you are saying nerdy black women got overlooked due to nerdy personality or because male nerds were holding out for white and Asian clout, I know you're either capping or only talking about getting overlooked from certain dudes.

 

[Ziggiy]

The funny thing is in his last big interview he said that he was looking to groom the next BLACK FEMALE auteur to replace him.


Since the beginning of Atlanta he’s hired black women on his writing staff. He of course works with many black actresses, his decision to hire BLACK choreographer Sherrie Silver helped launch her mainstream career, and in this same recent interview he professed his love for his BLACK mother. He’s been publicly praised by black women like Lena Waithe, Quinta Brunson, and even Denzel Washington’s wife.


So this so called “fear” of black women is some cap bullshyt. I don’t know if he’s trolling to “get the conversation started” or what kind of self psychoanalysis he’s attempting to convey but at the end of the day it makes no sense with his actions

 

[Rarely-Wrong Liggins]

The continued dismissal of traumas experienced by black men is extremely sad. It's like telling a dark skinned woman; "You created your own insecurities by attempting to date people you were attracted to instead of people desperate enough to have you. There were plenty of dudes checking for dark skinned women in school, you just tried to date out of your league." I wonder how well that would go over?

And by the way, attractive "blerds" were going after the same dudes the chickenheads were going after; the popular and/or attractive ones. These so called female nerds never felt the need to date like minded individuals as male nerds needed or were encouraged to do. If they felt the need to have someone to share those sort of interests with they just established platonic relationships with nerd brehs instead. There wasn't this magical reserve of cute to fine nerdy black girls overlooked by nikka nerds lusting after "popular chicks" or non black women. Like, it's obvious many of you all did not go to a black or majority black high school. There were no Steve Urkel/Laura type situations. These groups rarely mingled or crossed paths like that. These nerds dated the Asians and white girls that would have them because they literally had no other options.

College is a different story.....depending upon where you went that is.

 

[Wink Beaufield]

Want more of a conscious black women withe some intellectual tendencies than a straight up nerd but I'm tired I don't really care anymore

Hit up book clubs and volunteer events in your area to find a sista like that. Don't give up slim. They out here.