First off what’s up Coli fam. Usually I don’t share personal business on the internet but this is a situation where I really haven’t been able to discuss with anybody so any insight or words would be a great help.
This is something that has been weighing on my mind for years about 3 years ago my half brother (on my dad’s side) fell sick with Kidney Issues. My half brother is 35 and has Down Syndrome
I grew up with my mother and my sister so I wasn’t around him and my pops a lot growing up but I still remember playing video games with him when I was over my pops and watching wrestling together he loves everybody genuinely and will call and speak to everybody in the family.
When my dad broke the news to me I immediately offered to donate and had started the process for it. When my mom caught wind, she being a nurse said that I because of his Down syndrome condition it’s likely that he wouldn’t live long anyway and that she was totally against the idea saying that I someone if someone else need one in the future I wouldn’t be able to give a kidney.
I’m not gonna lie this seeded doubt in my head my ma dukes always been harshly blunt even in dire situations and I began thinking what if I had a child, or my little bro, or my sister needed one and I couldn’t give it to them and would giving my kidney even ensure he lives that much longer?
He’s on diyalsis currently and I’ve been over my dads house a couple times to help take care of him seeing him in pain knowing I might be able to do something to help tears me inside yesterday I was on the phone with him all day when he was at the hospital because my dad and his mom couldn’t be there with him because of the pandemic and he kept on saying how much pain he was in I really don’t know what to do with this
I’m heard this when I was about 22 I’m 25 right now and should be in a better headspace to make a decision but honestly so much stress and things have happened from work, family, and relationships the last few years Ive been having panic attacks tachycardia and all types of bullshyt and sometime processing things mentally emotionally so I’m kind of hoping any discussion could help contextualize things and help me make a sound decision. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
This is something that has been weighing on my mind for years about 3 years ago my half brother (on my dad’s side) fell sick with Kidney Issues. My half brother is 35 and has Down Syndrome
I grew up with my mother and my sister so I wasn’t around him and my pops a lot growing up but I still remember playing video games with him when I was over my pops and watching wrestling together he loves everybody genuinely and will call and speak to everybody in the family.
When my dad broke the news to me I immediately offered to donate and had started the process for it. When my mom caught wind, she being a nurse said that I because of his Down syndrome condition it’s likely that he wouldn’t live long anyway and that she was totally against the idea saying that I someone if someone else need one in the future I wouldn’t be able to give a kidney.
I’m not gonna lie this seeded doubt in my head my ma dukes always been harshly blunt even in dire situations and I began thinking what if I had a child, or my little bro, or my sister needed one and I couldn’t give it to them and would giving my kidney even ensure he lives that much longer?
He’s on diyalsis currently and I’ve been over my dads house a couple times to help take care of him seeing him in pain knowing I might be able to do something to help tears me inside yesterday I was on the phone with him all day when he was at the hospital because my dad and his mom couldn’t be there with him because of the pandemic and he kept on saying how much pain he was in I really don’t know what to do with this
I’m heard this when I was about 22 I’m 25 right now and should be in a better headspace to make a decision but honestly so much stress and things have happened from work, family, and relationships the last few years Ive been having panic attacks tachycardia and all types of bullshyt and sometime processing things mentally emotionally so I’m kind of hoping any discussion could help contextualize things and help me make a sound decision. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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