Dr Orion Taraban: The 5 endgames all women face

[winb83]

This guy has some very brash takes that rub people the wrong way. Especially people who have a more idealistic view of relationships. He has a very cynical view of relationships.

Here he says all (straight) women face these 5 endgames.

1. They keep a high price tag beat out their competitors and secure a high value male. (Says this is very uncommon because high value men don’t have to commit and are the least likely to give women what they want)

2. They lower their price tag in order to beat out their competitors and secure a high value male.

3. They keep a high price tag fail to secure a high value male and settle for less. (Says this is the most common outcome)

4. They lower their price tag fail to secure a high value male and settle for less.

5. They are unpartnered. Unable to secure a high value man and unwilling to settle for less. (Says this is 2nd most likely outcome)

Final argument seems to be most women get the relationship they want (with a perfectly serviceable man) but not the man they would prefer to have it with. Also seems to suggest due to women’s value dropping with age the majority have to settle for less as they age out of being able to even have a chance at the higher value men. They do get the perk of the lower value male having to offer more to compensate for his value.

 

[Payday23]

Outside of a few reasons if she thinks she settled for you no matter your value she will treat you terribly

 

[winb83]

Outside of a few reasons if she thinks she settled for you no matter your value she will treat you terribly

This ties into that.


Most people settle though. They kinda have to. As kids a lot of people think maybe one day they'll be rich. At some point as adults working normal jobs they see that's not going to happen. Kinda the same deal. People want the best but everyone can't have it.

 

[RickyDiBiase]

Another creep that losers will feign they don't rock with but hold onto like our grandparents did the word.

Couldn't be me looking to a cracka when it comes to black women

 

[FTBS]

This ties into that.


Most people settle though. They kinda have to. As kids a lot of people think maybe one day they'll be rich. At some point as adults working normal jobs they see that's not going to happen. Kinda the same deal. People want the best but everyone can't have it.

Then they aren't settling. Settling means you could realistically have more but you accept less. People far too often confuse that with wanting more but not being able to get it. That is accepting reality, not settling.

 

[winb83]

Then they aren't settling. Settling means you could realistically have more but you accept less. People far too often confuse that with wanting more but not being able to get it. That is accepting reality, not settling.

To settle also means to take what you can get just so you aren't left with nothing.

When you have the attitude if I can't get what I want I'd rather have nothing at all and I'm unafraid to die alone you won't settle. When you have the attitude I need someone in my life and I don't want to be alone you will likely settle.

In order to not settle you have to be willing to go for broke. Most people deep down would rather have someone than no one.

With sustained effort even over a period of a few years most settlers could do better. So many marriages fall apart because people settle and later figure out they can get better.

 

[winb83]

Another creep that losers will feign they don't rock with but hold onto like our grandparents did the word.

Couldn't be me looking to a cracka when it comes to black women

You didn't disprove any of his points. Your rant about race and attack on him has nothing to do with the merit of what he said.

Also some people aren't interested in dating black women. Plenty of brothers don't date them.

 

[RickyDiBiase]

You didn't disprove any of his points. Your rant about race and attack on him has nothing to do with the merit of what he said.

Also some people aren't interested in dating black women. Plenty of brothers don't date them.

Like I said

Another creep that losers will feign they don't rock with but hold onto like our grandparents did the word.

Couldn't be me looking to a cracka when it comes to black women

 

[King Poetic]

Laugh at Settling and at anyone who keep believing that shyt

These women from their teens to their 20s,30s and well into their 40s have been fukk by 1,5,10,15 plus men they was dying for and them same men didn’t settle for they ass and move onto other chicks and they want to talk about they not settling when many of them who had kids couldn’t get they baby daddy to settle for them

 

[rabbid]

there is no endgame. life keeps going regardless of the path you seek. its like Marvel they bet everything on Avengers Endgame and then realize they still have people on payroll.

the reality is forever never seems that long until you're grown, and notice that the day by day ruler can't be too long. women have to create value in their own selves, not centered around men, while also free of bitterness. that's the only way. waiting on the perfect picture gonna have you divorced and taking care of your daughter's kids

 

[FTBS]

To settle also means to take what you can get just so you aren't left with nothing.

When you have the attitude if I can't get what I want I'd rather have nothing at all and I'm unafraid to die alone you won't settle. When you have the attitude I need someone in my life and I don't want to be alone you will likely settle.

In order to not settle you have to be willing to go for broke. Most people deep down would rather have someone than no one.

With sustained effort even over a period of a few years most settlers could do better. So many marriages fall apart because people settle and later figure out they can get better.

Being alone is settling if you want a relationship and could have one. Being alone is accepting reality if nobody wants you. Accepting the best you can get is not settling by any measure.

You make a point in that there are people that could do better and settle for what they can get at their current level rather than doing better. But that is different from people wanting the moon and the moon doesn't want them accepting less than the moon. Thats just not being delusional.

 

[Ohene]

hes usually right about everything he says

 

[Canon]

You didn't disprove any of his points. Your rant about race and attack on him has nothing to do with the merit of what he said.

Also some people aren't interested in dating black women. Plenty of brothers don't date them.

hes not going to he just goes thread to thread acting like a woman

 

[Payday23]

To settle also means to take what you can get just so you aren't left with nothing.

When you have the attitude if I can't get what I want I'd rather have nothing at all and I'm unafraid to die alone you won't settle. When you have the attitude I need someone in my life and I don't want to be alone you will likely settle.

In order to not settle you have to be willing to go for broke. Most people deep down would rather have someone than no one.

With sustained effort even over a period of a few years most settlers could do better. So many marriages fall apart because people settle and later figure out they can get better.

Or they think they can do better while "settling ", leave and then try to return because they couldn't do better

 

[O³ (O cubed)]

I find the particular use of the word, settling, problematic.

Settling can mean to establish, setting down roots. However, settling is used in the context of lowering of standards or compromise.

I find nowadays that people use the term in latter and not the former