Kochan was born on July 19, 1973,[1] in New York. Her parents met at a concert and married after she was conceived, divorcing shortly afterwards.[2] Her father, Alex Kochan,[3] later managed REO Speedwagon and Survivor, while her mother struggled with cocaine addiction and anxiety. Aged seven, she was molested by her mother's boyfriend, who also drugged her mother.[2] In 1999[4] or 2000,[5] having recently moved to Los Angeles,[2] she became best friends with Nikki Boyer after being paired with her at an acting class in Los Angeles; the pair were together when they met Kochan's future husband, then a waiter at one of their favorite cafés.[5]
In 2005, after encountering pain during sex and finding a lump in her breast,[6] she made an appointment with her gynecologist, who wrongly told her she was too young to have breast cancer; she asked again in 2011 after it got bigger, by which time it had spread to her lymph nodes.[4] She underwent chemotherapy, a mastectomy, and hormone therapy, the last of which induced insomnia and increased her libido; to cope, she began sending men selfies of herself in lingerie.[2] She later underwent breast reconstruction, and based her new breasts on Boyer's.[4] In 2015, after experiencing hip pain, she underwent a biopsy,[2] and was subsequently diagnosed with stage IV cancer in August 2015,[6] which had spread to her bones, brain, and liver and was terminal.[2] She subsequently set up a blog, "Everything Leads to This",[7] and began having cybersex with strangers.[4] At the time, she and her husband were undergoing couples counseling,[2] and Kochan left her husband in March 2016, outlining her action in a blog post.[6]
She subsequently spent a couple of years having a large number of sexual liaisons; she and Boyer once counted 188 sexual partners.[2] She did not allow penetrative sex due to the effects of an early negative experience and due to the medication she was taking causing menopause, but did encounter a man who dressed up as a dog and wanted to live in a cage in her house,[8] a man with a foot fetish, a man who wanted to be urinated on, and a man who wanted to be kicked in the penis.[2] She bought stilettos for the last of these.[5] In 2018, having already been on two dates that day, Kochan met with Boyer for lunch, where they developed the idea for a podcast called Dying for Sex,[9] which would deal with her cancer and trauma and Boyer's IVF.[10] Kochan later started an Instagram account with that name.[11]
The pair pitched Dying for Sex to TV executives, who understood neither the concept nor how to promote it.[4] The pair then made ten episodes themselves,[6] which addressed nearly 200 of Kochan's encounters.[12] Production was impacted several times by Kochan's failing health; part of episode four was recorded in a hospital, as Kochan was receiving treatment for thrombi, while her voice became weaker and raspier towards the end of the series.[4] Kochan was hospitalized in December 2018, though was under the impression that her stay would be brief, and continued to sext; one man visited Kochan in hospital and received oral sex from her.[13] After she was intubated,[2] it became apparent that she would require hospice care,[14] and Kochan and Boyer opted to continue recording on her phone.[4] -Wiki
She was molested at a young age. Now it all makes sense...
In 2005, after encountering pain during sex and finding a lump in her breast,[6] she made an appointment with her gynecologist, who wrongly told her she was too young to have breast cancer; she asked again in 2011 after it got bigger, by which time it had spread to her lymph nodes.[4] She underwent chemotherapy, a mastectomy, and hormone therapy, the last of which induced insomnia and increased her libido; to cope, she began sending men selfies of herself in lingerie.[2] She later underwent breast reconstruction, and based her new breasts on Boyer's.[4] In 2015, after experiencing hip pain, she underwent a biopsy,[2] and was subsequently diagnosed with stage IV cancer in August 2015,[6] which had spread to her bones, brain, and liver and was terminal.[2] She subsequently set up a blog, "Everything Leads to This",[7] and began having cybersex with strangers.[4] At the time, she and her husband were undergoing couples counseling,[2] and Kochan left her husband in March 2016, outlining her action in a blog post.[6]
She subsequently spent a couple of years having a large number of sexual liaisons; she and Boyer once counted 188 sexual partners.[2] She did not allow penetrative sex due to the effects of an early negative experience and due to the medication she was taking causing menopause, but did encounter a man who dressed up as a dog and wanted to live in a cage in her house,[8] a man with a foot fetish, a man who wanted to be urinated on, and a man who wanted to be kicked in the penis.[2] She bought stilettos for the last of these.[5] In 2018, having already been on two dates that day, Kochan met with Boyer for lunch, where they developed the idea for a podcast called Dying for Sex,[9] which would deal with her cancer and trauma and Boyer's IVF.[10] Kochan later started an Instagram account with that name.[11]
The pair pitched Dying for Sex to TV executives, who understood neither the concept nor how to promote it.[4] The pair then made ten episodes themselves,[6] which addressed nearly 200 of Kochan's encounters.[12] Production was impacted several times by Kochan's failing health; part of episode four was recorded in a hospital, as Kochan was receiving treatment for thrombi, while her voice became weaker and raspier towards the end of the series.[4] Kochan was hospitalized in December 2018, though was under the impression that her stay would be brief, and continued to sext; one man visited Kochan in hospital and received oral sex from her.[13] After she was intubated,[2] it became apparent that she would require hospice care,[14] and Kochan and Boyer opted to continue recording on her phone.[4] -Wiki
She was molested at a young age. Now it all makes sense...
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