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Well the ex husband didn't have to worry about her for too long. Cancer did that man a favor 
Dying For Sex : A Woman Dying Of Cancer Leaves Her Husband, And Goes On A 100+ Sex Spree.
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Adying cancer patient having as much kinky sex as she can is the premise of FX’s Dying for Sex—and also based on a true story.
Michelle Williams plays Molly Kochan, who died in 2019 at the age of 45 from metastatic breast cancer. Kochan co-created the podcast Dying for Sex in 2020 with her best friend, Nikki Boyer, about how being diagnosed with stage IV breast cancer pushed her to change everything about her life. When she learned that her cancer was incurable, Kochan left her unhappy marriage and began a journey of sexual exploration.
In the first episode of the FX series, a palliative care therapist asks Molly what she would put on her bucket list. They talk openly about their desires and Molly realizes she wants to prioritize sex and dating, and figure out what it means to really feel good. The first step is leaving her well-meaning but ineffectual husband (Jay Duplass) and the second is asking her best friend, Nikki (Jenny Slate), to be her primary caretaker, who agrees without hesitation.
Boyer, who in real life took care of Kochan until she died, talked to TIME about their friendship and what the show gets right—and wrong—about their story.
Why Molly was so horny
After surgeries and radiation treatments, Kochan started a hormone therapy that was supposed to squash her libido, but it ended up having the opposite effect. “I literally wanted to hump everything and everyone that I saw,” she said in one episode of the podcast.
In Dying for Sex, Williams’ Molly says her husband has not touched her for years, due to the trauma of her cancer. She shares with her therapist that she’s never had an orgasm with another person and is determined to have one before she dies. Boyer says that plot point was a creative liberty, but Kochan did talk on their podcast about falling out of sync sexually with her husband while undergoing treatment, and never getting back on the same page when her libido came back.
“For a long time with sex—and this is why I had a problem in my marriage—I was really, really, really good at figuring out what other people liked and then I could simulate that like an actor for them,” Kochan said on the podcast. “But I never really knew what I liked.”
What happened during Molly’s sexual adventure
Molly (Michelle Williams) swipes right on late-in-life sexcapades in Dying for Sex. Sarah Shatz/FX
When Molly decided to part ways with her husband, she started hooking up with men she met online. Molly even exchanged sexy pictures with them, including Snapchats. The men who like kinky sex on the show are composites, representing multiple men with fetishes that the real Molly encountered. While Molly did really date a guy who enjoyed being kicked in the dikk, she did not break her femur doing that as the show depicts. However, she was a hit with men who want to be bossed around in the bedroom, and in the show, she can be seen barking orders to suitors—even literally, as one man liked to pretend that he was a dog.
Boyer says the real Molly did meet a man who wanted her to treat him like a pet dog and live in her home in a cage. (That’s why there’s an episode entitled “My Pet.”) The showrunners took this character and ran with it, imagining that a man dressed like a dog showed up to a chemotherapy session.
For someone who was dying, Molly described “feeling alive and creative” after her dates when discussing them on the podcast. While a man dressed like a dog didn’t really come to her hospital room, she did have sexual encounters in her hospital bed at the very end of her life. “She wanted to feel really alive and as normal as possible, so it just didn't feel like she was stuck in the hospital for days on end,” Boyer says.
Boyer suggested they do a podcast after picking up Molly one morning from a 9 a.m. breakfast date, saying Molly had so many interesting stories that they should start recording them. (While the show mostly gets them right, Boyer notes one other creative liberty it took: in one scene, Slate’s Nikki loses her friend’s medical records. In real life, Boyer is much more meticulous, the kind of person who cleans when she’s nervous.)
Molly also held on to her sharp sense of humor until she died. As the show depicts, she really did ask a young doctor if he had a permission slip from his parents to be there, because he looked like a kid. In the podcast, she jokes that the appeal of dating a terminal cancer patient is that “if you’re commitment-phobic, I’m your girl.” When asked if she was afraid of inviting strangers into her home, she replies, “What are you going to do? Kill me? I’m dying!”
Controlling men in the bedroom was a way of feeling like she had some control at a time when her cancer was out of her control. Boyer says it was a way of “reclaiming her body.” “When Molly felt out of control, she did really, really fun stuff with men,” she says.
She hopes that the show will empower people to try new things sexually—"as long as it’s not harming anyone else”—and also to think about their own bucket lists. “[Molly] wanted to fall in love, and she did; she fell in love with herself,” she says. “So whatever is on your list of things to do before you die—you better get started.”
Empowering.
The True Story Behind 'Dying for Sex'
FX's Dying for Sex is inspired by a real terminal cancer patient who began a journey of sexual exploration when she got her diagnosistime.com
Doesn’t make sense either you with someone only or you not ya gonna get old/die a disease 20-30 years earlier should change you fundamentally into wanting to sleep with everyone.
I had a great workout today my test was high saw a women at the store I wanted to jump her and ill die one day might as well go in a spreeee
Not like she had to worry about getting an STD.
Not really feminine. It's rational. Nothing to lose
Broad got a terminal diagnosis and said might as well live out her fantasies.
Feminine nature is hell.
If I had a month or two left , I'd be right in there with her at the dirtiest brothels on Earth. Be taking out all types of loans to sleep with pornstars and sht
I'd probably be a stone cold dope fiend too, because why not?
Also, it's wild that some posters in here are trying to make this about the person that isn't dying of debilitating cancer. Whatever nonsense her husband is going through emotionally is meaningless compared to the experience of the person that is actually dying.
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This is interesting. When a person who doesn't have a terminal illness leaves the person that does, they are called a piece of shyt. But you seem to be implying that doesn’t matter.
He wouldn't touch her so
They want women to be miserable so of course they'll attack you if you say anything about bringing joy to a womanAll I said was focus on pleasing your women and that men are overconfident, which is leading to women have less confidence in men sexual prowess nowadays, which in turn is having a negative effect on men as a whole (a small maybe negligible effect but negative for sure) ….and now I’m acting all gamed up and pretending
Damn bro..you easily impressed then.
They really want that woman to die joyless to keep another man happy.
Yapdatfool
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99% of the brehs in this thread callin this dead women a POS for her actions would do all of this... and would stay married on top of it.
Sad no one posted this:
Only thing this series did was expose peoples insecurities. Point is she chose to be honest with herself before she died. Her facing the reality of her demise forced her to be honest about the relationship she was in that she clearly wasnt satisified with. She wanted to experience life before she died. If anything, some of yall need to be honest with yourselves and not hold yourselves back from what you want to experience. That means you, @Sad Bunny, @Cat piss martini aka @Luken @VegetasHairline and a list of others closet gang.. yall come on out and live yall lives. Its pride month. June 1st.
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If the husband wasn't hanging no dikk in her then I get it
She deserves to have her freak offs. I will check out her show. RIP to her though.
Creflo ½ Dollar
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Facts most these guys really hate women frfr, they just like to have that perceived notion of superiority with no push back and with no work to put in. This ain’t the old days you got more women open to being bisexual and you got toys out the wazoo..just being a man with some bullshyt dikk ain’t cutting it, maybe in the Arab Islamic world
Go to any sex podcast and relationship podcast and women orgasms are an issue but let these dudes tell it they making every girl cum 100x times
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