Eboni K. Williams back on The Breakfast Club, this time defending comments on women seeking marriage and degrees
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Roger king
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Everyone has the right to purse their goals so in that respect i agree with it, everything withing reason is fine. As long as there is a will and Gods blessing there is a path in the right way
Sbp
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Everyone wants to make money off black women’s romantic failures.
Matters of love, romance, marriage, etc really cannot be taught. What Eboni is doing is trying to convince women they can change how they are wired to get a desired result. Faking the funk is not going to work for most people.
Notice she also never addresses what men would want in a Mrs. It’s always what women should look for, demand, etc.
You cannot talk about marriage and family without the other half of the equation. White women by and large care what their men think about them. Black women by and large do not. This explains the marriage gap pretty easily.
It's what sells. That's why relationships are one of the most popular topics on podcasts. These people aren't actually looking for solutions. hell For all we know they both could be happily in committed relationships with men they love. But they gotta keep them clicks coming. And people just can't help themselves when it comes to those topics. It's the same reason why most popular music is about male/female relationships.
That’s the thing- young Eboni probably would’ve listened because you would not only be giving advice but showing real examples in the world with other relationships.
The problem is, again, I don’t think brehs fully understand that young black women hear the exact OPPOSITE of what girls of other races are told. The stuff Eboni said she was taught is literally the blueprint of what most millennial Black women were told. Noooooow everyone’s looking around like “Oh damn, mama was wrong”.
I’ve said it before- I have older cousins in their 40s, highly accomplished, but the type of man you really want to marry isn’t a man who literally NEEDS or REQUIRES that you match or exceed his salary/achievements.
I have divorced guys in my fam who only want to date women who are equally as accomplished as them. But that’s because they still have kids in HS & college and if they were to try to be with women 10+ years younger they’d have to PAY.
It’s like my situation…he’s divorced and the kids are in junior/high school however he threw all his accomplishments on the damn table when we first met so that I knew that he would kinda make it worth it
. If my fam had really kept it real and said being pretty with a good attitude was enough, the degree is to complete your pedigree and serve as security in case you end up divorced or widowed, I would’ve just married one of the successful dudes who was in my face when I was younger lol
Why do you think black mothers and fathers raise their daughters like this?That’s the thing- young Eboni probably would’ve listened because you would not only be giving advice but showing real examples in the world with other relationships.
The problem is, again, I don’t think brehs fully understand that young black women hear the exact OPPOSITE of what girls of other races are told. The stuff Eboni said she was taught is literally the blueprint of what most millennial Black women were told. Noooooow everyone’s looking around like “Oh damn, mama was wrong”.
I’ve said it before- I have older cousins in their 40s, highly accomplished, but the type of man you really want to marry isn’t a man who literally NEEDS or REQUIRES that you match or exceed his salary/achievements.
I have divorced guys in my fam who only want to date women who are equally as accomplished as them. But that’s because they still have kids in HS & college and if they were to try to be with women 10+ years younger they’d have to PAY.
It’s like my situation…he’s divorced and the kids are in junior/high school however he threw all his accomplishments on the damn table when we first met so that I knew that he would kinda make it worth it
If my fam had really kept it real and said being pretty with a good attitude was enough, the degree is to complete your pedigree and serve as security in case you end up divorced or widowed, I would’ve just married one of the successful dudes who was in my face when I was younger lol
Do women podcast about anything else besides relationships and dating?
Modern Women hate to feel like they’re not in control of a situation, the problem is black women think they control access to when they will get married and who they will marry despite all the odds being increasingly
against them the more they age and achieve.
Like @Gloxina said other races of women are not taught that at all and bw are told that they have all the time in the world but it’s not reality. Despite what bw believe, you eventually age out of the market
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against them the more they age and achieve.
Like @Gloxina said other races of women are not taught that at all and bw are told that they have all the time in the world but it’s not reality. Despite what bw believe, you eventually age out of the market
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the type of men she is looking for isn’t going to give a fukk about her accomplishments and how much money she makes
I think I know what women are being told but can you crytalize it?That’s the thing- young Eboni probably would’ve listened because you would not only be giving advice but showing real examples in the world with other relationships.
The problem is, again, I don’t think brehs fully understand that young black women hear the exact OPPOSITE of what girls of other races are told. The stuff Eboni said she was taught is literally the blueprint of what most millennial Black women were told. Noooooow everyone’s looking around like “Oh damn, mama was wrong”.
I’ve said it before- I have older cousins in their 40s, highly accomplished, but the type of man you really want to marry isn’t a man who literally NEEDS or REQUIRES that you match or exceed his salary/achievements.
I have divorced guys in my fam who only want to date women who are equally as accomplished as them. But that’s because they still have kids in HS & college and if they were to try to be with women 10+ years younger they’d have to PAY.
It’s like my situation…he’s divorced and the kids are in junior/high school however he threw all his accomplishments on the damn table when we first met so that I knew that he would kinda make it worth it
If my fam had really kept it real and said being pretty with a good attitude was enough, the degree is to complete your pedigree and serve as security in case you end up divorced or widowed, I would’ve just married one of the successful dudes who was in my face when I was younger lol
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Eboni sez: "You nikkas disgust me."
That's probably what she actually said we know that's what she actually thinks.
Eboni sez: "You nikkas disgust me."
I dont think anyone actually disagrees with her, but her attitude negates EVERYTHING relevant to this convo.
I cant speak to her ability to attract men or engage with them, but her speaking to another black woman like that was DISGUSTING. Again, that other woman is 31 probably almost 32. She's not some naive 21 year old. She was talking CRAZY to her like she was fukking retarded.
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skyrunner1
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Obviously not Glo but I think since they grew up in a "get over" on each other culture no one really trust in long term relationships because its not really something expected in these new age environments (lets say starting with late Gen X) and all they ever heard is nikkas aint shyt while women are used as buffer class to keep our community upside down, thats not even including the atomic bomb known as crack era that was dropped to make sure the job was done, the ripple affects of all of that make for a very complicated situation
Because Black people have it hard. Even in intact families. And economic issues turn into relationship issues. They are being real in that respect, because they know more than most that love don’t keep the lights on.
And I just want to also note and agree that mothers and fathers teach this. So men also agree and acknowledge that being 100% dependent on a man is a risky venture.