Ending my 10 month relationship today

[Ashley Banks]

Isnt dating supposed to be the audition for marriage
She was playing her role
If he was using her he would keep her around for the sex and cooking

You can use someone and dump them when you're done.

She won. He leaving her while she still has time to rebound.

Y'all so ungrateful, I swear

ungrateful? How is being used a win?

 

[Mac Brown]

It sounds like for OP the chemistry just simply wasn't there

This happens to men all the time. Life is harsh

 

[NotAnFBIagent]

You can use someone and dump them when you're done.



ungrateful? How is being used a win?

How is being in a relationship then realizing someone isn't the one using them

 

[ThiefyPoo]

"9 month later"


"Wish I wouldn't have ended my 10 month relationship, I'll never find another girl willing to do what she did for me"

Was just about to post this


nikkas are so stupid nothing wrong with the girl he says .

I was blinded by the good sex and her doing nice things for me

My goodness man hilarious

Oh she just moved here and ain't been ran through I must end thing she ain't the one

Man good luck I hope u find what u looking for .

I also hope that young lady finds a man who deserves and appreciates her .

 

[Ashley Banks]

How is being in a relationship then realizing someone isn't the one using them

How is it not?

But this is exactly why I never did any of that for my bfs so if we broke up, nothing was lost.

 

[The ADD]

Pic vio

 

[NotAnFBIagent]

How is it not?

But this is exactly why I never did any of that for my bfs so if we broke up, nothing was lost.

So u dont fukk or cook for your man

U never want a ring i see

 

[A1aaa]

OP, i was in a similar situation a few years back... really cute, smart, had her shyt together, tons of thirsty nikkas sweating her. i just didn't want to take the leap that she wanted to.

my suggestion--

if you've really decided that you're not feeling her, it's better to break up and give her space than to lead her on. which means no post-break up sex, no 3 am "wyd" texts... women have an easier time finding someone to fill the void temporarily. you should also think about how invested you are in this girl. for me, when i broke up, i felt like a huge pressure was relieved from my chest, but i generally get mentally fatigued being in relationships . also, no matter how nicely you put it, she's gonna cry a lot and get mad... don't be defensive and allow it to escalate.

 

[onthereal]

Exactly, she's the only one losing in the end he got the good treatment and since he's done using her she just gets dumped in the trash.

Hopefully she finds someone that appreciates her and isn't just out to use her.

Using her? Not the case at all.

OP, i was in a similar situation a few years back... really cute, smart, had her shyt together, tons of thirsty nikkas sweating her. i just didn't want to take the leap that she wanted to.

my suggestion--

if you've really decided that you're not feeling her, it's better to break up and give her space than to lead her on. which means no post-break up sex, no 3 am "wyd" texts... women have an easier time finding someone to fill the void temporarily. you should also think about how invested you are in this girl. for me, when i broke up, i felt like a huge pressure was relieved from my chest, but i generally get mentally fatigued being in relationships . also, no matter how nicely you put it, she's gonna cry a lot and get mad... don't be defensive and allow it to escalate.

this is great man. I was the void that she found being new to the city. To me it was someone new to hang out with, to her I was all she knew.

 

[Ashley Banks]

So u dont fukk or cook for your man

U never want a ring i see

I'm married and I do it for him now lol

But I didn't before we got married. I had to protect myself from guys like the op, no guy was "blinded" by sex or cooking when we were dating, they stayed because they actually wanted to be with me.

 

[Ashley Banks]

Using her? Not the case at all.

Of course you're not going to say you are

 

[PrnzHakeem]

ungrateful? How is being used a win?

Using her would've been continuing the relationship only for the material and sexual benefits she provides even though he realized the relationship wasn't growing any further.

Tell us @Juicy what should he have done? Marry her under false pretense but have a mistress he really loves on the side?

Stop being obtuse.

 

[onthereal]

Of course you're not going to say you are

What's the point of trying to defend myself if you put down everything I say?

Using her would've been continuing the relationship only for the material and sexual benefits she provides even though he realized the relationship wasn't growing any further.

Tell us @Juicy what should he have done? Marry her under false pretense but have a mistress he really loves on the side?

Stop being obtuse.

She's clearly missing the point. I'm not happy with the way things are. I'm choosing NOT to be in the relationship. I don't WANT to use her.

 

[PrnzHakeem]

OP, I did the same thing you did almost a decade ago. Chick was cool on paper, but after a year I knew it wasn't going any further.

That chick is still single

 

[onthereal]

It sounds like for OP the chemistry just simply wasn't there

This happens to men all the time. Life is harsh

This. She's a good person. No hard feelings. I would just rather move in another direction.