Ever fight your dad?

[fact]

Close so many times, ecspecially when I was younger, he is a recovering alcoholic, and got sober for the first time right before I turned like 12 or 13, so I was an angry young man, and he was a piece of shyt in my mind. I didn’t think I had to listen to a word he fukking said, because although I didn’t think my childhood sucked that much, when he started the “making amends” part of the process/steps, I for 1. Saw it as weakness (you have to understand, my father was GOD to me, highly respected by everyone he/we knew, and he commanded my respect or I would get the belt) and 2. In the process of making amends brought up a lot of shyt that I suppressed (abandonment shyt, borderline physical, all the way verbal abuse towards my mom, etc..), so at this point I’m like “you are a fukking a$$hole, drunk, fukk you”. I started drinking and drugging pretty heavy around that time, too, so my house was fukking CHAOS. We would start the yelling, and the shoving, but my mom was always there to stand between us before it went to actual punches. She always said, “you two are the same fukking person, why don’t you both get the fukk out”.
Over the years, we have worked out the issues, and we are closer than we have ever been. Looking back, it was inevitable, cooler heads could have never prevailed, and it taught me a lot. Nowadays, 40, with a daughter that is about to turn 18, I can say, I have NEVER gotten drunk in front of her, and have NEVER disrespected my wife in a way that would even appear to be looked at as “abuse”.
The funniest thing about the whole thing is, my little brother always asks us who would win in a fight between us, pops thinks he could get me, but I just laugh it off and look at him, and he knows I would fukking WASH him up.

 

[Daystew]

My dad was 40 years older than me. Was military police during Vietnam. Very strict household growing up. I’m the only son out of 4 kids.

We scrapped when I was 16 because I talked back to him one time too many. I knew it was coming too. I remember my mom trying to separate us and it ending abruptly. I remember saying “Fvck you, I don’t even need a dad like you.”

Problem is, although he was strict and a little crazy, my dad loved me and my sisters, and provided for all of us our whole lives (could’ve been a better husband but that’s another story). We made up quickly that night. Less than 4 years later he gets diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and I basically only get 19 years with my dad functioning normally. He dies before I turned 29 in 2017.

Now I’m 3 months away from my first child, a son. I think about all of this now. The fight, the struggle for dominance, how that fight was one of the last memories I had before I left for college. I can only hope to love my son the way my dad loved me, and I hope we never throw hands.

 

[O.iatlhawksfan]

I fought my dad when I was 13 when we were in Houston during Katrina. He used to always try to belittle me and talk down on me and that day it was over 100 outside and tempers flared. Me and my dad never got a long till this day we don't.

 

[CrownHeights]

Nah, my pops was a gangsta back in the day. Ran with a bunch of legendary goons from my borough and I was scared to death of him back then. But when he wasn't lockup he was and is a great father Only wish he was around more when I was little, but after ma dukes died he dropped that street shyt and took care of us like a G

With all that said, we (siblings) all turned out to be either worst (my sisters being the exceptions) or just as bad as he was Luckily for me, I got my then girlfriend (now wife) pregnant and stopped being a dirt-bag.

My brothers on the other hand are still getting locked up on the reg Hard headed idiots ain't never gon learn.

 

[Deuterion]

My dad was 40 years older than me. Was military police during Vietnam. Very strict household growing up. I’m the only son out of 4 kids.

We scrapped when I was 16 because I talked back to him one time too many. I knew it was coming too. I remember my mom trying to separate us and it ending abruptly. I remember saying “Fvck you, I don’t even need a dad like you.”

Problem is, although he was strict and a little crazy, my dad loved me and my sisters, and provided for all of us our whole lives (could’ve been a better husband but that’s another story). We made up quickly that night. Less than 4 years later he gets diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and I basically only get 19 years with my dad functioning normally. He dies before I turned 29 in 2017.

Now I’m 3 months away from my first child, a son. I think about all of this now. The fight, the struggle for dominance, how that fight was one of the last memories I had before I left for college. I can only hope to love my son the way my dad loved me, and I hope we never throw hands.

Man my girl was cutting onions as I was reading this...

 

[Tonbo]

Nah not really, my dad is an alcoholic with a skinny/short build. One time when we were kids my sister and I were home alone and didn't want him to come in so we shoved him down the stairs.

 

[Inf1ne]

*edit
Reggie weed Dmx music , my first 30 seconds of p*ssy (really a hump) blade, matrix. And korn (freak on a leeeeeeash plus they fkd w ice cube and xzibit) had me feeling myself in the weeks leading up to this shyt plus I had a lil juvy and military school diversion record but this was a valuable ass wooping that probably saved me from getting my fukking head blew off as an adult
Facts

 

[MidniteJay]

Never happened since I was 5 when he became a dead beat.

When I met him in my late teens I wasn't impressed. He's diabetic and I could have taken him easy if he wanted to run that fade.

Wouldn't be a fair fight now since I dwarf him at 30 and he even more

 

[Neuromancer]

I was crying over "a bytch that ain't getting me no money"
Got in his face...got two punches off, got hit with "I am a DC nikka from the 80s who has been to the feds" fighting techniques, like mysterious elbows out of nowhere, a mean uppercut, some type of footsweep, and hella weird angle punches.
Got a black eye, was an adult. Did not lose control of my emotions in front of a man again. I was an adult.

Did he teach you any of this?

 

[Indiglow Meta (R$G)]

Did he teach you any of this?

Nah

 

[Inf1ne]

Never happened since I was 5 when he became a dead beat.

When I met him in my late teens I wasn't impressed. He's diabetic and I could have taken him easy if he wanted to run that fade.

Wouldn't be a fair fight now since I dwarf him at 30 and he even more

Old men get a few last surges of test. StartING AT 40 I....can't...wait!(guess its a good trade for ya dikk falling down tho) like grip strength and raw POWER shyt my grandfather like 5'3 and 70 plus I'm not tryna see this nikka man oldheads not tryna trade punches they tryna WIN

 

[Neuromancer]

Old head punches have a different effect.
You will be a different person after this. Especially because it's your dad and you have some type of "chance" as a man.

This is called the "wound" old men give young men. It's an initiation as well as a reminder.

 

[315]

Damn

 

[Neuromancer]

Nah, he once told me he'd kick my ass if it came to it. Never got a chance to. Had to hold him down when he was sick in hospice. We were trying to bathe him. I miss him.

 

[Problematic Pat]

At 14 testosterone was raging, peach fuzz mustache, I was officially taller than all the males in my fam, voice was Barry White deep for the hoes and a breh was seriously feeling himself.

Old man strength humbled me with the quickness.