Exactly what's wrong with a long engagement (5-10 years)

[freetroit]

Seeing as how most women file for divorce and are quick to terminate the lifelong contract

They should have to prove they are down to go the distance

Make em wait 10 years

 

[onelastdeath]

then why even propose 10 years in advance in the first place: bryan:

Wait the 10 years, if ol girl is still around and you've finally come to the realization that the risk of financial rape is now mitigated/non existant (), and you want to spend the rest of your life with her, then proceed

Because comittment matters

 

[concise]

I agree. 25 years would be ideal. Since it's a lifelong comittment, but 10 sounds best.

I could easily say that a 10 year engagement is intense relationship training to insure a successful marriage. The same way that the decision to get married was made well before that

This is how I know you're retarded.
Most of us will die before 80, yet you're advocating for spending almost a third of your life to make a decision. It doesn't take anywhere near that long to make any life decisions, but it should take that long to pick a marriage partner?
And if you change your mind in yr 20, you took a quarter of your life to think and make a decision.


lol at an engagement of at least 10 years being analogous to undergrad/med school training. Where every year has its own challenges. What is the difference in yr 2 of engagement compared to yr 4? Or yr 9?

 

[onelastdeath]

Seeing as how most women file for divorce and are quick to terminate the lifelong contract

They should have to prove they are down to go the distance

Make em wait 10 years

That's all I'm saying. What's wrong with knowing someone 100%?

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

It seems a lot of people don't really seem to understand the idea of a marriage.

That would be YOU since I'm married, chief.

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[onelastdeath]

This is how I know you're retarded.
Most of us will die before 80, yet you're advocating for spending almost a third of your life to make a decision. It doesn't take anywhere near that long to make any life decisions, but it should take that long to pick a marriage partner?
And if you change your mind in yr 20, you took a quarter of your life to think and make a decision.


lol at an engagement of at least 10 years being analogous to undergrad/med school training. Where every year has its own challenges. What is the difference in yr 2 of engagement compared to yr 4? Or yr 9?

I don't think I'm retarded

and obviously the 25 years was just a play on you bringing it up in the first place

But, i don't see anything wrong with a 10+ year engagement. At all. I mean you're spending time with the person anyway, and the person is more important than the marriage.

If you were to spend 25 years engaged, would it really be that different if you were in a loving relationship the entire time?

Y'all need the government issued piece of a paper to prove your love to someone?

 

[onelastdeath]

Flawless

:smugcud:

 

[onelastdeath]

I'm not even saying to be on some #GMB shyt, I'm saying why does it matter when it happens?

 

[Raava]

It seems a lot of people don't really seem to understand the idea of a marriage.

The main purpose of a marriage, sans religion and romance, is to establish an estate, family unit, and partnership between two romantic partners.

That means, you are trusting your SO to enter into a sort of business agreement. You are trusting them with legal matters, financial matters, management matters, and all sorts of other powers.

It's a whole lot more serious than "You don't love me enough to commit".

You don't get married just because you love someone, brehs and brehettes.

Exactly. That's why you don't spend that amount of time with anybody without the contract. Why do you think gay people were trying to get the right to marry? Not just for love but for the legal safety net of marriage. Being with your SO for years and you can't even be with them in the hospital. If anything happens you have no powers of they are incapacitated. Does it make sense, if you want to look at it that way to not having any type of legal leg to stand on? Would you work 10 years for a company and just hope they will hold up there end? Would you build something with a partner and not keep files or legal docs? Come on. If not you wasted time and resources.

This argument made no sense you proved the other points.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

Flawless

REJECTED

You won't just marry her, she'll marry you, too.

 

[Queen]

It seems a lot of people don't really seem to understand the idea of a marriage.

The main purpose of a marriage, sans religion and romance, is to establish an estate, family unit, and partnership between two romantic partners.

That means, you are trusting your SO to enter into a sort of business agreement. You are trusting them with legal matters, financial matters, management matters, and all sorts of other powers.

It's a whole lot more serious than "You don't love me enough to commit".

You don't get married just because you love someone, brehs and brehettes.

#GPB

(But I disagree with long engagements)

 

[freetroit]

This is how I know you're retarded.
Most of us will die before 80, yet you're advocating for spending almost a third of your life to make a decision. It doesn't take anywhere near that long to make any life decisions, but it should take that long to pick a marriage partner?
And if you change your mind in yr 20, you took a quarter of your life to think and make a decision.


lol at an engagement of at least 10 years being analogous to undergrad/med school training. Where every year has its own challenges. What is the difference in yr 2 of engagement compared to yr 4? Or yr 9?

The challenge is to see if the woman breaks under the pressure of the perception her friends and family have for her

If the relationship is great outside of the contract being signed

The challenge is for the woman to not expose the fact that she only cares about checking marriage off her to do list

If you can survive for ten years without complaining about a contract you just might be worthy of the lifelong contract

 

[Elle Driver]

It seems a lot of people don't really seem to understand the idea of a marriage.

The main purpose of a marriage, sans religion and romance, is to establish an estate, family unit, and partnership between two romantic partners.

That means, you are trusting your SO to enter into a sort of business agreement. You are trusting them with legal matters, financial matters, management matters, and all sorts of other powers.

It's a whole lot more serious than "You don't love me enough to commit".

You don't get married just because you love someone, brehs and brehettes.

And I agree with that concept completely, as a matter of fact I said the same damn shyt in the thread about the man who's wife left him after he started to go blind due to diabetes.

So an engagement, a betrothal, is basically the first step. You think that person is worthy enough of marriage, then what's the hold up? Are you still questioning getting into that contract with them? If you propose to a woman and she accepts your proposal, then naturally the next step is to plan the wedding. The hell you just sitting on an engagement for?

 

[concise]

I don't think I'm retarded

and obviously the 25 years was just a play on you bringing it up in the first place

But, i don't see anything wrong with a 10+ year engagement. At all. I mean you're spending time with the person anyway, and the person is more important than the marriage.

If you were to spend 25 years engaged, would it really be that different if you were in a loving relationship the entire time?

Y'all need the government issued piece of a paper to prove your love to someone?

If you don't need or care for a government issued piece of paper, why would you even bother with something like an engagement? Doing something like that clearly shows you don't, so why play games?

 

[onelastdeath]

And I agree with that concept completely, as a matter of fact I said the same damn shyt in the thread about the man who's wife left him after he started to go blind due to diabetes.

So an engagement, a betrothal, is basically the first step. You think that person is worthy enough of marriage, then what's the hold up? Are you still questioning getting into that contract with them? If you propose to a woman and she accepts your proposal, then naturally the next step is to plan the wedding. The hell you just sitting on an engagement for?

An engagement is a comittment. People "date" and cheat all of the time. People have girlfriends and boyfriends that they don't comitt to. If you have a fiancé, then you are saying "This will be my life partner". There is no "hold up" the same way there is no "rush", it's marriage not a subscription. You aren't "sitting" on an engagement, and you're not playing the field, you're just making sure everything is right.

I see it an engagement as exclusive dating that leads to a marriage. Not "Let's get married right now".

Engagements are a huge deal.