Extremely introverted black men Appreciation

8WON6

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-introvert and shy are 2 different things. there are super loud people out here that get scared as fukk if you told them to give a formal speech or ask them to sing. In college i knew a few dudes that was loud as fukk until it came time to talk to chicks. same nikkas telling me i'm too quiet walking to a house party, be watching me leave with a girl while they asking me about her friend. :mjlol:
 

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Ambivert would be the perfect term to describe me. I'm a creative so I'm introverted to an extent. I need peace and quiet to plot, plan, strategize, and think of concepts and ideas. When it comes to getting to the bag and making connections with other people, I'm an extrovert all fukking day. If I have a goal and I know that you can help me reach that goal, I will cold call you or walk up to you and introduce myself. I could give a fukk if you had 100 people around you. I've done it before. I have a rolodex of people I can call and do business with because of that. I respect both sides of the coin.
 

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I have no problem being out in public places or doing stuff in groups

But having to engage people, I hate that shyt

I've hated networking events, I'll just end up in the corner standing around awkwardly until I'm ready to leave

Or if I do end up talking to a person and notice that I have to carry the conversation, that shyt gets exhausting and frustrating

I don't like talking a lot because I'll start rambling and end up saying something awkward trying to fill dead air

Seems like with the pandemic and being in the house for a year, whatever little bit of social skills I had gained, I lost all of it
 

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I feel as though your life is somewhat limited when you are an introvert.

And this is coming from someone who is one.
Introverts are more likely to be socially stunted.

This will cause issues with communication, social situations, networking and as a by product this affect things like relationships, jobs/work life, opportunities, experiences etc.

You're also less likely to be trusted and less likely for people to actually want to be around you or even want to talk to you.

It's just a bunch of disadvantages. There is nothing good about being an introvert.
Being ambiverted is sweet spot

Being mysterious gains a lot of respect. Most people talk but don’t listen. Being understood is what most desire.

Being socially stunted and introverted totally different. Learning about trauma and attachment styles is important. Trauma in our childhood is the precursor to our attachment.

Me personally I love a good conversation, love sharing jokes my hobbies and engaging. Also love the presence of solitude. The ability to be alone is very underrated.

Culture plays a role. U.S = extroversion on steroids but it’s forced extroversion. In America a lot of masking and fake personas. Go to South America, Europe, Africa; socialization is very natural. Forced socialization and gimmicks avoid that.

Introverts do very well with women. Just asking questions listen and confidence is what you need.

Body language reveals a persons real nature. Being chill calm and compose you’ll be perceived as high value.

God bless
 
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