Fellas 28 and over…what are some concerns/fears you have as you get closer to 40?

[Henny and_ HotWings]

Doesn’t necessarily have to be anything “bad” per se…. But what are some things you think about as you reach the big 4-0??

I for one, don’t wanna develop any serious health issues such as diabetes, high blood pressure, kidney/thyroid issues…. shyt like that… I stay in the gym, so I don’t really lose sleep over it tho….

 

[Umoja]

Not having a wife and kids.

 

[Brolic]

My hairline and my joints.

 

[Collateral]

im 28 now. My biggest fear is being in the same spot or worse financially when I’m 40. I don’t want to have to worry about money when I’m that old.

Not having a wife and kids.

It’s the opposite for me. I don’t want an “ain’t shyt” family, like a lot of dudes especially cacs have. Wife not putting out no more and the kids ain’t shyt. They don’t respect you or appreciate you. I can’t live like that, a lot of middle aged men are miserable at home so they compensate by doing 60hr work weeks just to stay away from the crib a lil longer

 

[Treblemaka]

Only major one socially is that an increasing % of women are going to be attracted to me for a lifestyle or status rather than who I am.

When youre 40+ these 30 and under chicks like being around you because you represent stability but they'd rather be messing a guy from their generation. I try to keep my body up but as I get into my 40s and get to my 50s I feel like it's also going to start to turn into a tricking type situation.

I've been married and divorced. I want something stable and consistent as I get older.
I don't want to be that single 50 year old guy with women draped all on him on his boat knowing those women don't give a single fuk about me beyond my lifestyle.

Other than that I'm looking forward to it.

 

[tuckgod]

I’m 43 and it’s the greatest.

Feel like I came out the fire and now I’m highly refined brass.

I handled my business and took care of myself in my 20s and 30s and have always looked at life as a never ending school and that helped a lot.

 

[DatNkkaCutty]

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Closer to death.

 

[EffYou]

Deaths of older family members

 

[The Pledge]

Developing some sort of cancer. No matter how good I eat or healthy I am, that shyt don't give a fukk.

 

[old pig]

having to “argue” with kids about doing homework til I was in my 50s…fortunately was able to escape the 9-5 grind

 

[old pig]

Developing some sort of cancer. No matter how good I eat or healthy I am, that shyt don't give a fukk.

I’m not afraid of the death itself but the suffering cancer can bring

 

[The Pledge]

I’m not afraid of the death itself but the suffering cancer can bring

Same. I saw too many people suffer from all the shyt cancer brings. shyt's terrible breh RIP Grandpa Ed

 

[Umoja]

It’s the opposite for me. I don’t want an “ain’t shyt” family, like a lot of dudes especially cacs have. Wife not putting out no more and the kids ain’t shyt. They don’t respect you or appreciate you. I can’t live like that, a lot of middle aged men are miserable at home so they compensate by doing 60hr work weeks just to stay away from the crib a lil longer

Did I say anything about wanting an ain't shyt family?

I'm not going to let the worst case scenario dictate what I want out of life.

 

[Umoja]

having to “argue” with kids about doing homework til I was in my 50s…fortunately was able to escape the 9-5 grind

I hope my kids are like me and don't do it. Height of rudeness trying to dictate what kids do in time that should be reserved for their family and their own.