Fellas, can you handle being called out on some ho shyt?

[skeetsinternal]

I can. I got called out before on sohh. I don't remember the subject matter but I was wilin out. I still thank unc @Mowgli to this day but the shyt that was communicated to me and in a way only I received it and was so poignant enough that it registered to me immediately which caused me to reflect on what I did or was doing and change my mindset. Me and unc cool beans right now.

Fast forward to 2019, I checked a nikka I'm working for (blk dude) he my client on some ho shyt I heard thru the chatty patty hotline and with my own 2 ears, he ain't know I was in the cubicle at that time.. so I confronted him after work and let him know I ain't appreciate it, told him its some bytch shyt and told him how to he should have handled it and told him how it's gonna go down in the future if the same shyt happened again. We dapped up, apologizes came from me and from him and we went on our way, no hard feelings.

Now over the summer (couple months) you can say our relationship changed, dude can't look me in the eye, he avoids me outside of meetings, Florida State University MBA nikka stuttering and incoherent now when he gotta talk to me or , stays quiet, ain't joking around no more, I even seen him wait in his car till I get out my car to avoid me. All I did was keep it 100, professional, check dude and gave proper instructions on how to be a better client/man.
Listen, if I'm out of pocket on some ho shyt and you can justify it, I'm willing to eat that and not get in my feelings. Can you?

 

[johnedwarduado]

i keep nikkas in check and my foot on nikkas necks and i want my friends to stop me if i overstep and do wrong

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

When I asked you about how you allocate your time a few months back you spazed out. I don't think you take criticism very well.

 

[Savvir]

I can. I got called out before on sohh. I don't remember the subject matter but I was wilin out. I still thank unc @Mowgli to this day but the shyt that was communicated to me and in a way only I received it was so poignant enough that it registered to me immediately which caused me to reflect on what I did or was doing and change my mindset. Me and unc cool beans right now.

Fast forward to 2019, I checked a nikka I'm working for (blk dude) he my client on some ho shyt I heard thru the chatty patty hotline and with my own 2 ears, he ain't know I was in the cubicle at that time.. so I confronted him after work and let him know I ain't appreciate it, told him its some bytch shyt and told him how to he should have handled it and told him how it's gonna go down in the future if the same shyt happened again. We dapped up, apologizes came from me and from him and we went on our way, no hard feelings.

Now over the summer (couple months) you can say our relationship changed, dude can't look me in the eye, he avoids me outside of meetings, Florida State University MBA nikka stuttering and incoherent now when he gotta talk to me or , stays quiet, ain't joking around no more, I even seen him wait in his car till I get out my car to avoid me. All I did was keep it 100, professional, check dude and gave proper instructions on how to be a better client/man.
Listen, if I'm out of pocket on some ho shyt and you can justify it, I'm willing to eat that and not get in my feelings. Can you?

You really can't help an insecure nikka get over perceived slights.

He's actively showing you that he consciously/subconsciously knows he aint as much of a man as you. Take it for what it's worth, his facade has been shattered and he shows his hand whenever in your presence.



This is why nikkas need strong father figures.

 

[skeetsinternal]

When I asked you about how you allocate your time a few months back you spazed out. I don't think you take criticism very well.

You never asked, you assumed on how I spend my time. You know what they say about assuming.

Plus I put myself out there for criticism every thread and post I make.

2 things I do on here, either help you or make you mad. I prefer the latter

 

[African Peasant]

I can. I got called out before on sohh. I don't remember the subject matter but I was wilin out. I still thank unc @Mowgli to this day but the shyt that was communicated to me and in a way only I received it and was so poignant enough that it registered to me immediately which caused me to reflect on what I did or was doing and change my mindset. Me and unc cool beans right now.

Fast forward to 2019, I checked a nikka I'm working for (blk dude) he my client on some ho shyt I heard thru the chatty patty hotline and with my own 2 ears, he ain't know I was in the cubicle at that time.. so I confronted him after work and let him know I ain't appreciate it, told him its some bytch shyt and told him how to he should have handled it and told him how it's gonna go down in the future if the same shyt happened again. We dapped up, apologizes came from me and from him and we went on our way, no hard feelings.

Now over the summer (couple months) you can say our relationship changed, dude can't look me in the eye, he avoids me outside of meetings, Florida State University MBA nikka stuttering and incoherent now when he gotta talk to me or , stays quiet, ain't joking around no more, I even seen him wait in his car till I get out my car to avoid me. All I did was keep it 100, professional, check dude and gave proper instructions on how to be a better client/man.
Listen, if I'm out of pocket on some ho shyt and you can justify it, I'm willing to eat that and not get in my feelings. Can you?

If he stopped being comfortable around you, there is nothing you can do.

However, if he thinks that you have some hostility, hard feelings or bad image, he will avoid you. Some people don't understand when you check them on something they did. They think it's a perpetual change in the relationship.

I advise you to talk to him and let him know that it is in the past. You told him what you needed to tell him as a man and you forgot about it.

 

[The Special Man]

It's all about accountability, any male or even female for that matter doesn't believe in accountability is a bytch. Ya boy showed his true colors

 

[Toe Jay Simpson]

You gotta be careful how you come at people nowadays. An entire generation has come up bred not to take criticism.

Sometimes it’s best to just leave people alone.

 

[skeetsinternal]

If he stopped being comfortable around you, there is nothing you can do.

However, if he thinks that you have some hostility, hard feelings or bad image, he will avoid you. Some people don't understand when you check them on something they did. They think it's a perpetual change in the relationship.

I advise you to talk to him and let him know that it is in the past. You told him what you needed to tell him as a man and you forgot about it.

I reach out to him with small talk etc. Altho I do talk to the breh that energy he once had is gone. I'm still the same.
I'll do lil shyt like fist bump him or try small talk

 

[Tryna Makit]

No...and i dont care to start, i do some underhanded shyt in my day to day...so when called out...i never make excuses for my more..um sociopathic tendencies...i know im a damn villain and i made my peace with it. Yea i did some ho shyt...a d if i get away with it..id do it again...I'll run into a wall doin that eventually...but ive supposed to have been "Dealt with" bout 6 times for "ho shyt" but yet here i am, Staying alive

 

[Ol’Otis]

yep
can't be out here looking like a hoe

 

[skeetsinternal]

No...and i dont care to start, i do some underhanded shyt in my day to day...so when called out...i never make excuses for my more..um sociopathic tendencies...i know im a damn villain and i made my peace with it. Yea i did some ho shyt...a d if i get away with it..id do it again...I'll run into a wall doin that eventually...but ive supposed to have been "Dealt with" bout 6 times for "ho shyt" but yet here i am, Staying alive

Somehow I understand this thinking.

 

[King Khufu]

I don't take too kindly to on wrongful criticism.
There are better ways to address things, try if you wish.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

You never asked, you assumed on how I spend my time. You know what they say about assuming.

Plus I put myself out there for criticism every thread and post I make.

2 things I do on here, either help you or make you mad. I prefer the latter

No I didn't assume. I asked you have you considered using the same time you use sleeping around towards business. Then YOU assumed that i implied you didn't make money. Something I never said.You just got defensive and starting hurling insults.

But even if I did assume that how can you claim to deal with criticism well when you're reaction is to fly off the handle?

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

Was arguing with a homie..

He was staying over and we started arguing about some shyt

Him: Man leave me alone sp I can get my shyt and go

I started to keep on talking shyt and he pushed and I was about to square up but my other homie stopped it.

After the dude left my homie who stopped it basically told me I acted like a bytch and if I ever did something like that again we were done as friends

Changed my whole mindset...

Instead of having to have the last word like a female, I began to stay calm in situations and don't engage into fukkery. No need to continue egging on a person.