Fellas, I need your perspective…

[Studious one]

Sure he could have handled it better, but baby HIS SISTER IS DEAD.

Do you really think he's thinking logically right now?

Why are you and your sister trying to blame a man who is dealing with overwhelming grief? His sister JUST DIED.

I will acquiesce to your point, because I don’t have a response to it. I will say, though, even with all of that, he still could’ve handled the situation better to keep peace at home. I think we can both agree on that.

 

[Studious one]

Might not even have had a sister or a funeral. I always had a funeral to go to when I wanted to slide off with a sidechick undisturbed for a few days. But I always mad sure to say a cousin or great grandma died. You dont want to play with karma

Well, damn, no, I am not telling her this response. Matter fact, I’m going to act like I didn’t even see this response, lol

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

A couple of posts above I said that she told him she was going to give him space tobe with his family. She just wanted to give him the space to concentrate on his family and mourn. He was with her the whole time up until he left so they weren’t in a bad place. I think she was being very supportive. Either way, I told her that it’s best to just walk away from the situation and leave it alone. That’s what I think.

Your sister sounds just like my.....

Yep, this is hitting too close to home for me. I'm out this thread before I get angry. This is about to trigger me.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

I will acquiesce to your point, because I don’t have a response to it. I will say, though, even with all of that, he still could’ve handled the situation better to keep peace at home. I think we can both agree on that.

Baby, I'm saying that of course there was a better way of handling the situation. But I can tell you right now that if I'm dealing with loss, all bets are off the table. My behavior is going to be drastically different from what it would normally be, just like anyone else's would be.

Y'all women gotta have a heart when it comes to us brothas. We strong, but dear lord, y'all gotta give us some grace sometimes.

 

[moorfeus]

An ex-wife and children is way bigger than some baby momma. People dating someone in that position have to be mature enough to respect the past marriage and co-parenting that comes along with it. If you aren't divorced with children of your own you probably should not date people that are. Having children with your spouse expands your mind and perspective on life in ways that can only be understood by going through that experience.

I will always be connected to my wife, even if we did split up one day (highly unlikely). We have five children together. One day we will be grandparents. If we hooked up with other people they would have to be in similar situations to understand and respect the fact that we grew up together and will always be connected for the rest of our lives.

Going back to your story though, that is just common decorum to not argue and fight with someone who lost their damn sibling! Who does that?

 

[Studious one]

Baby, I'm saying that of course there was a better way of handling the situation. But I can tell you right now that if I'm dealing with loss, all bets are off the table. My behavior is going to be drastically different from what it would normally be, just like anyone else's would be.

Y'all women gotta have a heart when it comes to us brothas. We strong, but dear lord, y'all gotta give us some grace sometimes.

Aaaaw, I understand

 

[O.T.I.S.]

He called her, she couldn’t talk because she was driving and told him she would call him right back. She did, and he hurried up and got off the phone like he was in front of someone.

How dare he be busy at his sisters funeral, right?

 

[Studious one]

An ex-wife and children is way bigger than some baby momma. People dating someone in that position have to be mature enough to respect the past marriage and co-parenting that comes along with it. If you aren't divorced with children of your own you probably should not date people that are. Having children with your spouse expands your mind and perspective on life in ways that can only be understood by going through that experience.

I will always be connected to my wife, even if we did split up one day (highly unlikely). We have five children together. One day we will be grandparents. If we hooked up with other people they would have to be in similar situations to understand and respect the fact that we grew up together and will always be connected for the rest of our lives.

Going back to your story though, that is just common decorum to not argue and fight with someone who lost their damn sibling! Who does that?

I agree, and that’s why I told her she handled it poorly. I think this is the main reason why women have a problem, dating men with young kids, to be honest. Also, as I stated in another post, when you’re in the heat of the moment of anger, you react. I told her she was wrong for the shyt, but I know she’s a human being.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Might not even have had a sister or a funeral. I always had a funeral to go to when I wanted to slide off with a sidechick undisturbed for a few days. But I always mad sure to say a cousin or great grandma died. You dont want to play with karma

So he would lie about his sister dying just to cheat on his new chick with his EX-WIFE?

 

[Still Benefited]

Well, damn, no, I am not telling her this response. Matter fact, I’m going to act like I didn’t even see this response, lol

Chances are its on the up and up. And even if your sister chooses not to be with him,she owes him an apology. As bad as cheating is,cussing someone out at their sisters funeral is a lower low

 

[EARFQUAKE]

Your sister did the right thing breaking up with her boyfriend thus making that man's life easier.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

I will acquiesce to your point, because I don’t have a response to it. I will say, though, even with all of that, he still could’ve handled the situation better to keep peace at home. I think we can both agree on that.

 

[Studious one]

Chances are its on the up and up. And even if your sister chooses not to be with him,she owes him an apology. As bad as cheating is,cussing someone out at their sisters funeral is a lower low

It wasn’t at the funeral. The funeral was yesterday, the incident happened one Thursday. I just found out about it this morning but I will tell her. She needs to apologize to him for that but I’m not telling her to be with him or not. I think the situation ran his course, and she said she’s done

 

[Who Not How]

So he would lie about his sister dying just to cheat on his new chick with his EX-WIFE?

He didn't set the tone with this woman from Day 1. I could tell from OP that the relationship lacked trust and a lot of insecurity was present. I couldn't imagine a GF acting this way while I'm at my sister's funeral and mourning with fam. The nerve lol. OP did say that he acts insecure and jealous too. If we taking what OP is saying as truth - they had a Maury show relationship.

 

[Studious one]

He didn't set the tone with this woman from Day 1. I could tell from OP that the relationship lacked trust and a lot of insecurity was present. I couldn't imagine a GF acting this way while I'm at my sister's funeral and mourning with fam. The nerve lol. OP did say that he acts insecure and jealous too. If we taking what OP is saying as truth - they had a Maury show relationship.

Yeah, they did. He was very insecure and controlling of her as well. Really, I’m surprised she acted this way because he always acts that way.
Eta: she said two weeks ago he brought up her talking to her sons father on the phone and her handyman that fixes stuff in her house and told her that he didn’t trust her. She said when he told her that, she automatically thought you better not trust him more,so it’s best for them to stay away from each other.