Fellas, I need your perspective…

[Studious one]

When my grandfather passed the last thing on my mind was p*ssy. I wanted to be with my family. The man is grieving not looking for some p*ssy. But your dumb ass insecure sister is more worried about him cheating rather than mourning. Talk about some fukked up priorities.

Only thing your sister accomplished was doing him a favor. Oh and pretty much guarenteeing he will fukk the ex out of spite.

Sir, I can tell you that she doesn’t give a fukk. We are happy that she is able to move on.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

If I’m currently in a relationship…and I’m attending with an EX who also paid for everything…yes. My family would ask me what the hell I’m doing.

And it would look strange as fukk. Not for them to attend but for them to take so much to do with me-while im romantically involved with someone else.

If stuff like that is cool in your relationships then cool. We don’t get down like that in my family.
In my family, exes are exes. Come to the funeral, express condolences and bounce. The extra shyt? Nah.

Come on now, Books. You telling me that if you flew into town for your brother's funeral (not putting that on your family, just speaking the situation presented in the OP) with your EX HUSBAND and the FATHER OF YOUR 3 CHILDREN (who may or may not have been close to your brother), with children in tow, that your family would tell you he gotta get the hell up outta here, and be quizzing you about why he's there?

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

If the tickets were bought in bulk that’s different because it wasn’t a targeted or intimate for one individual in particular.
But singling out a grown up with financial means of their own and paying for their accommodations personally when they are in a relationship with someone else…different dynamic and inappropriate to me.
But do you. People do all kinds of stuff in their unions. Obviously this didn’t work out and made the partner uncomfortable. But others might be fine with it. Good on them b/c I wouldn’t be and most in my family/circle wouldn’t be either.

This is obviously what happened. And I said this back on page 2 or 3 of this thread.

 

[Traveler]

When I say in the equation, I don’t mean why is she at the funeral.

That’s fine. She may have had a good connection with the family. She may also have a good connection with the dude in the scenario.

All of this is fine.

The equation I’m talking about is the overstepping of boundaries in regards to the man. It’s not appropriate for her to do all of that for somebody else’s man, especially when his own partner can’t be there.
It would be weird as fukk if an ex tried to cover all my expenses for anything when my significant other was absent.

You really don’t see how inappropriate that looks? Hell my family might have even confronted me if I was there with an ex. They don’t play that foolishness
You can be cool with an ex without being extra and disrespectful or inappropriate IMO. Stop by, interact with the family, express your condolences and bounce.

But all this “Im going to cover everything for you and we can ride together to the funeral and I’ve got a hotel room for you and…”

Nah.

It depends on the exs relationship with him and his family. She is the mother of his child so she is family still. I can see her saying, I got this for you don't worry about anything go be with your family and mourn your sister.

 

[Traveler]

Sir, I can tell you that she doesn’t give a fukk. We are happy that she is able to move on.

If she was with this dude three years and she doesn't care then it was a shytty relationship in general. Tell her to go get therapy. She's damaged goods. Controlling and insecure is not a good look.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

It depends on the exs relationship with him and his family. She is the mother of his child so she is family still. I can see her saying, I got this for you don't worry about anything go be with your family and mourn your sister.

Sounds like some decent human being shyt, doesn’t it?

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

people wonder why "the community" is in shambles but then they advocate for people to treat former babymom/babydaddies like they never gave a shyt about them ... then blame latchkey kid activities on rap music

 

[Art Norm]

So...him and ex wife divorced because she was cheating. Not sure how close she could still be with dudes fam after that, especially after 3 years. And she's not even local to dudes fam. Ex wife has 3 kids, only one is dudes biological child. If she wanted to help out she could've just arranged the trip for dude and his kid. There was really no reason for ex wife and the other 2 kids to go. I know my fam would look at me crazy if I showed up to my siblings funeral with my ex wife that cheated on me, along with 2 other kids that ain't mine and we been separated for/divorced for 3 years. This is what I gathered from the info given in this thread anyway...let me know if I misread anything @Passionate1! Not saying dude cheating but it seem off

 

[Studious one]

If she was with this dude three years and she doesn't care then it was a shytty relationship in general. Tell her to go get therapy. She's damaged goods. Controlling and insecure is not a good look.

Funny, he was the insecure and controlling one. But, we might as well close the thread because it’s done with them, she’s moving on, life goes on. Could a moderator like this thread please?

 

[perfectblack999]

Lol shawty, you just wanted everyone to agree with you?

 

[Studious one]

So...him and ex wife divorced because she was cheating. Not sure how close she could still be with dudes fam after that, especially after 3 years. And she's not even local to dudes fam. Ex wife has 3 kids, only one is dudes biological child. If she wanted to help out she could've just arranged the trip for dude and his kid. There was really no reason for ex wife and the other 2 kids to go. I know my fam would look at me crazy if I showed up to my siblings funeral with my ex wife that cheated on me, along with 2 other kids that ain't mine and we been separated for/divorced for 3 years. This is what I gathered from the info given in this thread anyway...let me know if I misread anything @Passionate1! Not saying dude cheating but it seem off

You eloquently summarized everything. You have excellent reading, comprehension skills! That is precisely the situation. The ex-wife wasn’t even cool with the family like that because they don’t live in the same state and she cheated on him throughout the whole marriage. He was a fukking mess after that shyt. That’s really the reason why he acts the way with my sister that he does.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Thread was created just to see if she was justified in blaming the nikka that’s at his sisters funeral

 

[Studious one]

Lol shawty, you just wanted everyone to agree with you?

What is it that I want them to agree with me about? That both parties did wrong in the relationship and particular situation ?Yeah, as a logical, thinking person, I would think that. I’m not taking sides. It’s not about sides.

 

[maxamusa]

Damn this shyt still going...OP what happened give us a status

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Hmm