Fellas, I need your perspective…

[Studious one]

Was about to say, if shyt is inoccous its easy to be forthright

Please expound on this. I’m not being rude, I actually like your post history so I know what you’re going to say, is filled with sense.

 

[DreadBrown]

Lol, this is why I love men. You guys are so black and white. I don’t think that that’s blatantly how she slide but I’m going to crack on her about that shyt.

This is what it comes down to though, does your sis in her heart of hearts think he’s cheating with his ex?

Cuz if not all the drama is for nothing really

 

[Neuromancer]

She was pulling up to the house

Then she could have stayed on the phone with him with a wireless head set. Not hard. Also did she not have bereavement time? Jobs usually offer that. Sounds like she didn't want to be there for her partner.

Not an excuse to cheat, but you gotta know where it came from.

 

[BaggerofTea]

Please expound on this. I’m not being rude, I actually like your post history so I know what you’re going to say, is filled with sense.

Well I look at it like this, if you know you arent doing anything wrong. It shouldnt be too difficult to step away for five minutes, tell your wife of the game plan. Assure her that everything is good. Maybe put her on the phones with the moms. And be done for the day. Maybe text her every once in a while.

Lack of forthrightness is a red flag to me, whether in a business or personal situation.

At the very least, he's guilty of being a poor decision maker.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

We have and we end up better off without them.

Yep. I think ole boy better count his blessings. No offense to @Passionate1! sister, but he can do better than a woman breaking up with him during a traumatic time in his life. She is supposed to be there for him in every way.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Three years

Yeah, she trippin then. I was gonna say that if it was recent (less than a year), then MAYBE she would have a point. Maybe she's new to the situation and doesn't know the dynamic between dude and his ex, maybe his ex doesn't know her, and is trying to throw salt in their situation. But three years? Your sister supposed to be more understanding and trusting at this point. If the ex was gonna do something to try to "get her man back", she would have did that a long time ago, not after 3 years.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

I don’t know about insecurities. I think most people would feel away about the situation to be honest. She said she had no problem with it, she wasn’t happy about the ex-wife but it is what it is. What she didn’t. like was his behavior once he got down there, and the fact that the ex-wife paid for everything.

I'm assuming he lives in another state, and the ex wife lives where his sister and the rest of the family resides. Am I correct?

 

[Studious one]

Yep. I think ole boy better count his blessings. No offense to @Passionate1! sister, but he can do better than a woman breaking up with him during a traumatic time in his life. She is supposed to be there for him in every way.

I’m going to tell her this. Not to be mean, but really. She was there for him though, he been at her house since the sister died taking care of him

 

[Studious one]

I'm assuming he lives in another state, and the ex wife lives where his sister and the rest of the family resides. Am I correct?

All three live in New York, but they had to go to Georgia for the funeral

 

[Studious one]

Yeah, she trippin then. I was gonna say that if it was recent (less than a year), then MAYBE she would have a point. Maybe she's new to the situation and doesn't know the dynamic between dude and his ex, maybe his ex doesn't know her, and is trying to throw salt in their situation. But three years? Your sister supposed to be more understanding and trusting at this point. If the ex was gonna do something to try to "get her man back", she would have did that a long time ago, not after 3 years.

The ex-wife and him just got in a “good place“

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

She was pulling up to the house

Again, not tryna rag on your sis... but this right here is proving my point. If I was out of town for my sister's funeral, first of all, you ain't here with me when I need you. But to add insult to injury, I call you to talk, and when I call you, you tell me "imma call you back."

Cause you pulling up to the house???

????

I think the reason he rushed her off the phone was cause he was mad. Cause I would have done the same exact thing.

It sounds like it has nothing to do with an ex. It has everything to do with your sister.

 

[Studious one]

Well I look at it like this, if you know you arent doing anything wrong. It shouldnt be too difficult to step away for five minutes, tell your wife of the game plan. Assure her that everything is good. Maybe put her on the phones with the moms. And be done for the day. Maybe text her every once in a while.

Lack of forthrightness is a flag to me, whether in a business or personal situation.

At the very least, he's guilty of being a poor decision maker.

I’m going to steal that lack of forthrightness quote. As I said, you always have a good posts

 

[Studious one]

I’m about to get dressed to go to lunch so if I don’t answer anyone’s replies, I’ll get it when I come back

 

[Studious one]

Also, I don’t know why she didn’t want to go. She could have, but she probably didn’t want to be able to situation with the ex-wife be in their intention. I don’t know. I’ll ask.

 

[JealousOnesEn_V]

Also, I don’t know why she didn’t want to go. She could have, but she probably didn’t want to be able to situation with the ex-wife be in their intention. I don’t know. I’ll ask.

So she was invited to go to the funeral but “just didn’t want to go” even though he needed her support more than ever while he is grieving? Plus she knew the ex was going and still made the conscious decision to not go?