Fellas, I need your perspective…

[Amo Husserl]

my sister’s boyfriend went to his sisters, funeral with his ex-wife and kids. She wasn’t too keen on the idea of his ex-wife, having to go with him, especially being that she couldn’t, but she understood the circumstance.

If she understood, this would have been the end of the story.

 

[360dagod]

She might as well cheat to make it even..

If both are over 30 it's more of a companionship with benefits than an actual relationship...

Both parties not gonna give each other the same as they did previous partners..

 

[Studious one]

No way would my relationship survive my chick going anywhere with her ex anything.

Hope that helps.

I’m thankful for the responses were guys are looking at it from the perspective that I asked. What is your reason that you say that?

 

[KneeGrow.]

Pics of sister?

 

[Studious one]

Pics of sister?

Lol, I can’t. Go ahead and neg me breh

 

[Rekkapryde]

Tubi Executives like

 

[Ghost Utmost]

I’m thankful for the responses were guys are looking at it from the perspective that I asked. What is your reason that you say that?

Not only do you have a duty to be faithful when you say you're gonna be faithful, you also have a duty to stay out of sticky situations that can a) be PERCEIVED to be shady or b) can LEAD TO debauchery.

Lots of "accidents" occur just cause people are a little tipsy and they are alone together. But the actual mistake is being alone together in the first place (if you're "taken").

 

[Commish]

OP..

Listen man..

Learn to stay out of other people's business! That include siblings, homies, etc..

Next, your sister is foul AF! Her ex BF lost a sister and instead of giving him moral support, she cussed him out & broke up with him over an assumption of cheating. Your sister had not one no iota of proof. Didn't give her ex BF the benefit of the doubt that the ex BF was going through some emotional trauma & grief and you and your sisters wanna know about his character? Crazy!

OP, tell your sister that Commish said for her to grow up! She was wrong! She didn't trust her ex, never did and never will! Tell her that it was uncalled for for her to disrespect him and give him problems while he was grieving the loss of a sibling. She should have went with him to the fuberal, if she was concerned about her ex stepping out on her.

All this other crap about if the tables were turned bs doesn't matter now. They broke up, right? My thing is for you to help your sister mature and work on her anger management skills. She isn't ready to be in a relationship and I hope dude don't get back with your sister!

Just giving you my perspective..

 

[Studious one]

Not only do you have a duty to be faithful when you say you're gonna be faithful, you also have a duty to stay out of sticky situations that can a) be PERCEIVED to be shady or b) can LEAD TO debauchery.

Lots of "accidents" occur just cause people are a little tipsy and they are alone together. But the actual mistake is being alone together in the first place (if you're "taken").

Really, this is how I feel. I always say that if you’re not near the cliff, you can’t fall off of it. Keep in mind that this guy has a shyt fit if she even talks to her sons fathe on the phone. Hell, if another man even looks at her. That’s why I asked if the situation reversed because he would not have been OK if the situation was reversed. No way in hell, or he would at least make sure his ass is going with her.

 

[Studious one]

OP..

Listen man..

Learn to stay out of other people's business! That include siblings, homies, etc..

Next, your sister is foul AF! Her ex BF lost a sister and instead of giving him moral support, she cussed him out & broke up with him over an assumption of cheating. Your sister had not one no iota of proof. Didn't give her ex BF the benefit of the doubt that the ex BF was going through some emotional trauma & grief and you and your sisters wanna know about his character? Crazy!

OP, tell your sister that Commish said for her to grow up! She was wrong! She didn't trust her ex, never did and never will! Tell her that it was uncalled for for her to disrespect him and give him problems while he was grieving the loss of a sibling. She should have went with him to the fuberal, if she was concerned about her ex stepping out on her.

All this other crap about if the tables were turned bs doesn't matter now. They broke up, right? My thing is for you to help your sister mature and work on her anger management skills. She isn't ready to be in a relationship and I hope dude don't get back with your sister!

Just giving you my perspective..

I will tell her that she needs to work on her anger management skills. Hey, I was minding my business. She called me. I thought all the shyt was said and done on Thursday. She called me this morning because she was up all night. As far as the situation, I knew no good was gonna come out of the shyt because there’s no way that there wasn’t gonna be bullshyt attached to it. That’s just my two cents on the shyt and I told her that.

 

[Studious one]

So she was invited to go to the funeral but “just didn’t want to go” even though he needed her support more than ever while he is grieving? Plus she knew the ex was going and still made the conscious decision to not go?

Again, she. Was. Not. Invited. And you know, I chewed my sister out for her actions, but I noticed that all the reactions in this thread I just focusing on her and not that her boyfriend did some suspect actions. I came on the site because I thought that meant give a rational view, but it seems like some of these responses are biased. Because I know there’s no way in hell any man would be all right with this shyt. So no, she didn’t make the conscious decision not to go. I’m texting her as I’m reading these responses and, she said she wasn’t invited so that’s why she didn’t mention to me that part. She said she had to work anyway and she figured that that’s why he didn’t invite her.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

If she dumped him then technically she gave the go ahead for him to clap his ex cheeks til he get back from his trip

Yep, if it was me, at that point, all bets is off the table. I'm being accused of it anyway, minuswhale

 

[Who Not How]

Really, this is how I feel. I always say that if you’re not near the cliff, you can’t fall off of it. Keep in mind that this guy has a shyt fit if she even talks to her sons fathe on the phone. Hell, if another man even looks at her. That’s why I asked if the situation reversed because he would not have been OK if the situation was reversed. No way in hell, or he would at least make sure his ass is going with her.

And this is why I said the relationship was on a weak foundation and was gonna end eventually lol.

 

[360dagod]

I think cussing him out and breaking up with him over the phone while he was at his sister's funeral is crazy.

If i was dude i would count my blessings and figure i dodged a bullet by no longer being with your sister. Respectfully...

To be perfectly FAIR....

She might have reacted "wrong", but homeboy pulled some wild shyt and he is FAR from innocent..

Women know patterns INSTINCTIVELY...

He was acting "off" which USUALLY means he isn't being 100% truthful to her about the EXACT details of the situation...

If he would have give her 30 minutes of convo, we not discussing this...

His behavior tipped her off and the alarms sounded...

Whether he was in mourning or not, that ain't got nothing to do with knocking something down cuz nikkas gonna do that regardless..

If you gonna play the game, you gotta live with whatever consequences come your way

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

No, I looked at it that way. I feel the same way and she was being supportive to him. She always caters to him, and when the sister died, she made sure to keep a smile on his face and to be there when he was ready to talk. I feel that if a person does some things that make you side eye them, you can’t really call that insecurity though, I know she saying from the way he was acting on the phone but, I think when we know people, we know how their behaviors and their attitude change and we can detect that. Would you not agree?

Baby, you not getting it.

HIS SISTER JUST DIED.

She's DEAD.

His blood, his sister, flesh and blood is gone FOREVER.

Of COURSE his behavior and attitude is off right now. He's going through it. He's grieving.

And as I said earlier, he's already dealing with this and now he has to deal with your sister's foolery at the same time?

That in itself would make me say her, if I was him.