Fellas, I need your perspective…

[maxamusa]

My suggestion would be mind your business. Grown folk know what time it is or play the fool willingly.

 

[Ghost Utmost]

Really, this is how I feel. I always say that if you’re not near the cliff, you can’t fall off of it. Keep in mind that this guy has a shyt fit if she even talks to her sons fathe on the phone. Hell, if another man even looks at her. That’s why I asked if the situation reversed because he would not have been OK if the situation was reversed. No way in hell, or he would at least make sure his ass is going with her.

OF COURSE

Men on the subject of puzzy are like Far Right Wingers on the subject of politics. They just say whatever will further their goals. No matter how non sensical or demonstrably false.

And notice how these niqqas cover for a total stranger they will never meet

"Stay out of people's business"

"She doing too much"

"He needs his space to mourn"

I bet the dude said all the same bullshyt. But we can be honest here. We all know got damn well what type of time dude was on.

I don't really mind y'all being creeps, just don't attempt to bullshyt me in the process.

 

[Shadow King]

I can think of a situation where the ex wife paying for everything makes sense. Keep in mind that @Passionate1! said earlier in this thread that he didn't ask his gf (Passionate's sister) to attend the funeral.

First of all, he shouldn't have had to.

If my family member dies and I say I'm going home, I'm expecting her to say "what time we leaving?" Or if she can't go, say something like "baby, I wish I could be there for you, I'm sorry that I can't go because of xyz."

Sounds like he wasn't getting no support from the gf at all. And then it sounds like he and his ex wife and the children all needed to go, so they were talking back and forth to work out the logistics.

And I can see the ex (if she's a woman who knows how to plan) saying something like, "instead of us getting separate flights and all of that, I'll just buy our tickets since we all going to the same place."

And I can see him saying "that makes sense. I'll pay you back."

For logistics reasons, that makes all the sense in the world to me.

She can book the tickets on her card but he can compensate her for his ticket as she's doing it.

The hotel? The rental car? For 5 days? Women are too self-preserving/selfish to expend that on a grown man and men are prideful to accept that.

Unless bro is currently in a financial rut it's very reasonable for the woman dating him to be concerned over his ex-wife's willingness to cover every aspect a 5-day trip, if completely true. She just handled it poorly.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Are you serious? From the time he mentioned the funeral in the next breath, he said that the ex-wife was going, and she’s paying for everything. She wasn’t invited at all, and, if it was me, I wouldn’t interject myself in some thing I wasn’t invited to. That’s just me.

When someone dies, would you not agree that it takes a few days to plan for the funeral? Someone doesn't drop dead and immediately, someone says "the funeral is on this day and time".

That takes days to make arrangements.

Why is this important? Because obviously even though specific plans were not made or known yet, obviously there was going to be a funeral.

It was on your sister to declare her intent to attend. During that time period.

Sounds like in the time period where your sister was supposed to step up, she didn't. His ex did.

And not so that they could get back together. It was just out of her natural caring about the father of her children. She stepped up and handled things for the grieving father of her children.

She filled the void that your sister left, and that's your sister's fault.

 

[DreadBrown]

Really, this is how I feel. I always say that if you’re not near the cliff, you can’t fall off of it. Keep in mind that this guy has a shyt fit if she even talks to her sons fathe on the phone. Hell, if another man even looks at her. That’s why I asked if the situation reversed because he would not have been OK if the situation was reversed. No way in hell, or he would at least make sure his ass is going with her.

The post you quoted is exactly what I been talking about

I can’t be responsible for how a suspicious mind perceives a situation

Either there’s trust or there’s no trust, all the other stuff is noise



Good thread tho

 

[Elle Seven]

Pics of sister?

Which one - the one who dumped the BF, the one who suggested BF was cheating or the one who died?



Seriously, though, some of y’all need prayer lol

 

[Studious one]

The post you quoted is exactly what I been talking about

I can’t be responsible for how a suspicious mind perceives a situation

Either there’s trust or there’s no trust, all the other stuff is noise



Good thread tho

I think this might be my first trending one!! Seriously though, it’s a real situation. This is not no troll shyt. She’s very upset over the situation so I’m just trying to get her clarity from the male perspective. She said she’s done though, so it doesn’t matter.

 

[Studious one]

When someone dies, would you not agree that it takes a few days to plan for the funeral? Someone doesn't drop dead and immediately, someone says "the funeral is on this day and time".

That takes days to make arrangements.

Why is this important? Because obviously even though specific plans were not made or known yet, obviously there was going to be a funeral.

It was on your sister to declare her intent to attend. During that time period.

Sounds like in the time period where your sister was supposed to step up, she didn't. His ex did.

And not so that they could get back together. It was just out of her natural caring about the father of her children. She stepped up and handled things for the grieving father of her children.

She filled the void that your sister left, and that's your sister's fault.

She said that he never invited her and just told her matter-of-factly that the ex-wife was going so she felt no need to pursue the issue.

 

[Studious one]

She can book the tickets on her card but he can compensate her for his ticket as she's doing it.

The hotel? The rental car? For 5 days? Women are too self-preserving/selfish to expend that on a grown man and men are prideful to accept that.

Unless bro is currently in a financial rut it's very reasonable for the woman dating him to be concerned over his ex-wife's willingness to cover every aspect a 5-day trip, if completely true. She just handled it poorly.

He does very well for himself, so it wasn’t the financial aspect at all. I could see where neo is coming from when he said that if they were all flying together, it would make sense to buy the tickets at one time

 

[Commish]

I will tell her that she needs to work on her anger management skills. Hey, I was minding my business. She called me. I thought all the shyt was said and done on Thursday. She called me this morning because she was up all night. As far as the situation, I knew no good was gonna come out of the shyt because there’s no way that there wasn’t gonna be bullshyt attached to it. That’s just my two cents on the shyt and I told her that.

I understand that sis brought her business to ya. I just want ya to learn that people handle their love affairs differently. Sis was simply out of line. Can't be making allegations against people without proof.

Sis need to stop dealing with men with kids until she is mature enough to deal with men with kids because in many cases, men with kids will have to deal with the kid's Mom on some level, at least until the kids are grown and even then may have to do so should there be a family emergency or some other unfortunate circumstance.

Your lesson is to not behave like sis. If you are in a relationship and you feel that your significant other is doing something foul, then gain intel first, then say what you gotta say about it to your sig other.

 

[Studious one]

OF COURSE

Men on the subject of puzzy are like Far Right Wingers on the subject of politics. They just say whatever will further their goals. No matter how non sensical or demonstrably false.

And notice how these niqqas cover for a total stranger they will never meet

"Stay out of people's business"

"She doing too much"

"He needs his space to mourn"

I bet the dude said all the same bullshyt. But we can be honest here. We all know got damn well what type of time dude was on.

I don't really mind y'all being creeps, just don't attempt to bullshyt me in the process.

I think that’s where her anger comes from. She feels like she was played and bullshytted because the situation sounds like bullshyt the more that I’m reading these responses.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

She can book the tickets on her card but he can compensate her for his ticket as she's doing it.

The hotel? The rental car? For 5 days? Women are too self-preserving/selfish to expend that on a grown man and men are prideful to accept that.

Unless bro is currently in a financial rut it's very reasonable for the woman dating him to be concerned over his ex-wife's willingness to cover every aspect a 5-day trip, if completely true. She just handled it poorly.

I missed the hotel and rental car. Is this true @Passionate1! ? Did she pay for his hotel and rental car for 5 days? And if yes, how certain are you of this?

 

[DreadBrown]

I think this might be my first trending one!! Seriously though, it’s a real situation. This is not no troll shyt. She’s very upset over the situation so I’m just trying to get her clarity from the male perspective. She said she’s done though, so it doesn’t matter.

Oh nah I know it’s real

It sound like something that would happen with me and wifey that’s why I relate

 

[Studious one]

I understand that sis brought her business to ya. I just want ya to learn that people handle their love affairs differently. Sis was simply out of line. Can't be making allegations against people without proof.

Sis need to stop dealing with men with kids until she is mature enough to deal with men with kids because in many cases, men with kids will have to deal with the kid's Mom on some level, at least until the kids are grown and even then may have to do so should there be a family emergency or some other unfortunate circumstance.

Your lesson is to not behave like sis. If you are in a relationship and you feel that your significant other is doing something foul, then gain intel first, then say what you gotta say about it to your sig other.

I agree with all of this. It is the main reason why I don’t date men with young kids myself.

 

[Studious one]

I missed the hotel and rental car. Is this true @Passionate1! ? Did she pay for his hotel and rental car for 5 days? And if yes, how certain are you of this?

He said it. She said he told her that specifically the ex-wife was paying for the flight, rental car, and hotel, but he made sure he said that he was probably staying with his sister.