Fellas in longterm relationships: Asking a woman to change

[Mowgli]

Get a woman who does most of what you want and the changes won't be deal breakers

 

[Collateral]

This thread is real talk

I guess the bottom line from what I take from this is to nip the bs in the bud and have patience. Because nobody is perfect and are not the finished product.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

The point for me is that have dealbreakers BEFORE you get with a girl

It would eliminate all the types of things you don't want to see in a relationship. Ain't no sense getting with a girl with things you don't like, then expecting her to change it with a complete 180

Yeah but for me it’s not about dealbreakers. It’s about annoying behaviors that you would like changed but aren’t the end of the world. Like the homie @BaldingSoHard bushed a girl cuz she used the wrong utensils on his cooking ware. That’s not a dealbreaker if you got a quality woman. It’s a behavior you’d like to change.

Y’all gone learn. Ain’t a lot of quality women out here. You’re gonna have to pick what really matters and what doesn’t.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Yeah but for me it’s not about dealbreakers. It’s about annoying behaviors that you would like changed but aren’t the end of the world. Like the homie @BaldingSoHard bushed a girl cuz she used the wrong utensils on his cooking ware. That’s not a dealbreaker if you got a quality woman. It’s a behavior you’d like to change.

Y’all gone learn. Ain’t a lot of quality women out here. You’re gonna have to pick what really matters and what doesn’t.

I'm a tough crowd. Lol.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I didn’t imply anything like that but if thats how you took it then great.

You said that I let my current slide with gaining weight, and that they were “similar” somehow... I said I don’t have to “let” her do anything because her lifestyle is generally healthy. They are complete opposites

And yeah, her working out wasn’t good enough because she wasn’t doing shyt and generally didn’t care about fitness. She didn’t want that, she wanted to get comfortable and blow up and didn’t care if I liked it or not.

If you have an issue with it then back at you

I was asking for clarification breh. I don't know why you're r so defensive.