Fellas, why did you ghost (hit and quit) her?

[ViShawn]

I smashed one woman on the first date. Note I ALWAYS use condoms. Third encounter with her she told me she had HSV-2 for 11 years and she takes her meds religiously blah blah blah.

Combined with her being a single mom I was out

 

[Piff Perkins]

Ghosted a chick I did a threesome with because her friend's p*ssy kinda smelled. Best head I ever got but dunno...the fact that she brought her weird friend along rubbed me the wrong way.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

@bourgeoisie tall freak @RehReh

Have either of you ever ghosted a guy before? And what were your reasons why?

yeah to someone who was psycho and i won't get into details. but i'll probably respond eventually as long as my life is not in danger
if i fukk with you, i fukk with you

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

That said, it's a morality thing for you, but you know all women don't see it as you do. There's many women who'd deal with a guy then disappear on him. I think the difference is most women wouldn't do it after just having sex with you once unless it was a real random thing or some other shyt happened...

idk i've always hung out with a fair amount of males so i be thinking we can be cool even if the whole sex thing doesn't work out (hella naive i know). so i'm usually going to do the friendly thing. if anything i will just stop having sex with you if i wasn't feeling it but probably still try to chop it up/kick it until they stop calling me lol

i think i only did that with the first guy i did it with, i was just ready to do it and get it over with and he got lucky i guess. but i still talked to him after that until it faded away. he was ok, just a bit older (like 27 to my 18 1/2) which i couldn't really get into especially when there was hella cool guys around my age all around me. i was way immature for all that shyt at the time tbh

 

[2 one 3]

why would you even fukk someone that you feel like having a convo with them is going to "allow your peace to be disturbed" yalls lines are blurred lol.
hence my answer op (and sorry to disturb the bro fellowship going on here) that no, if i invested to do you in the first place then you had to be above ghost level by definition it's principalities and moralities

How would you know they would switch up after the sex…?


People show you who they are once they get comfortable and think they got you. If the feeling is not reciprocated, again why waste time?

 

[maxamusa]

it was the culture back then...use to be called "hooking up"

 

[murksiderock]

idk i've always hung out with a fair amount of males so i be thinking we can be cool even if the whole sex thing doesn't work out (hella naive i know). so i'm usually going to do the friendly thing. if anything i will just stop having sex with you if i wasn't feeling it but probably still try to chop it up/kick it until they stop calling me lol

i think i only did that with the first guy i did it with, i was just ready to do it and get it over with and he got lucky i guess. but i still talked to him after that until it faded away. he was ok, just a bit older (like 27 to my 18 1/2) which i couldn't really get into especially when there was hella cool guys around my age all around me. i was way immature for all that shyt at the time tbh

Yeah it's hard to still be friends after having sex even if you started as friends. I don't think that's ever worked for me either...

Incidentally, I have a 30-year old friend I've been friends with for over a decade, she's one of the best friends I've ever had. We've never had sex or even touched each other sexually, the furthest it's gone was about two occasions of casual, but seriously, talking about if we'd be right to date each other. And ultimately, it's never gone any further than that, we just broke that discussion off after a few days and went back to normal...

I saw her when I came back into town last week, and she brought up how my mom has brought up in the past that we should be together. Which has got me thinking, does the longevity of friendship matter? We've been really tight since late 2012, true friends. I also think we're at an age and stage pf our lives where if it went to sex it wouldn't just be that, but could it survive a relationship attempt that didn't work? Based on the longevity of our friendship and support of each other?

 

[Sleepy Floyd]

I've never hit and quit, that's some weirdo shyt. Never ghosted before, that's what women do

If I fukk a bytch we stay fukkin consistently until she get a boyfriend

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

How would you know they would switch up after the sex…?


People show you who they are once they get comfortable and think they got you. If the feeling is not reciprocated, again why waste time?

breh you listed you do this because the person is "Lazy, No hobbies / goals, Drinks too much"
maybe i'm just hella keen or whatever but i'm sure i can figure this out about someone before i do them

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Yeah it's hard to still be friends after having sex even if you started as friends. I don't think that's ever worked for me either...

Incidentally, I have a 30-year old friend I've been friends with for over a decade, she's one of the best friends I've ever had. We've never had sex or even touched each other sexually, the furthest it's gone was about two occasions of casual, but seriously, talking about if we'd be right to date each other. And ultimately, it's never gone any further than that, we just broke that discussion off after a few days and went back to normal...

I saw her when I came back into town last week, and she brought up how my mom has brought up in the past that we should be together. Which has got me thinking, does the longevity of friendship matter? We've been really tight since late 2012, true friends. I also think we're at an age and stage pf our lives where if it went to sex it wouldn't just be that, but could it survive a relationship attempt that didn't work? Based on the longevity of our friendship and support of each other?

im just wondering how can there be an attraction and not have been tried by now? don't force it just because a comraderie is there.
i be looking at my male friends like brothers, we aint going there.... ewww lol. especially since they probably tell me about the girls they get with and i know how they get down.

 

[murksiderock]

im just wondering how can there be an attraction and not have been tried by now? don't force it just because a comraderie is there.
i be looking at my male friends like brothers, we aint going there.... ewww lol. especially since they probably tell me about the girls they get with and i know how they get down.

I guess there was a weak "try" in 2019, she was staying with me and my kids' mom for a few months before she went off to the Army. My girl wasn't home, and she came out of her room to the shower wearing just her towel, didn't say anything. So I texted her on some shyt like "you know you shouldn't come out like that", and she flirted back, on some "am I in trouble" type shyt...

I responded like "you are when I get these girls laid down and come up in that bathroom", and she sent laughing emojis and was like "I hear you talking"...

Ultimately I got really shook, didn't go in there. She stayed in that bathroom a long time too, like if her normal shower was 20 minutes she was in that bytch twice as long. But when she came out, she didn't say anything, I didn't say anything, the next day we acted like this dialogue wasn't even exchanged...

I never deleted the texts and like a week later I left my phone open after texting her bytching bout my girl. My girl saw those messages and kept scrolling and saw the shower texts, and that was the death knell of a relationship that was barely hanging on anyway. She threatened to beat up homegirl if she didn't leave, of course she threatened me, really ugly ending...

So I guess that counts as an attempt? I agree with you, I'm not forcing no shyt with her and neither is she to be fair, but I think it's something in the back of our minds. It has to be in hers, she the one brought it up last week...

I've had plenty of other friends who were women, still have another two I'm really cool with, it's never even approached this kind of flirtation, it is kind of an "I would never" thing. Old girl and I have shared a probably most things with each other, we know each other well. I know how she's done men she's been with, she knows how my relationships and flings have been...

I doubt it'll ever really cross those lines for real, but one thing I do think matters at least a bit, is we're older now. I was 23 and she was 19 when we met. We've been friends thru a whole bunch of phases and experiences, many situationships and shyt between the two of us, many experiences, even like two fallouts (one being after she got kicked out, she blamed me for my girl seeing the texts). And given we've seen each other grow up I think, even as friends, there's an appreciation for how we've evolved as people to where we are now. We're both better people than we were even in '19...

 

[Regular Developer]

She tried to choke me,

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

I guess there was a weak "try" in 2019, she was staying with me and my kids' mom for a few months before she went off to the Army. My girl wasn't home, and she came out of her room to the shower wearing just her towel, didn't say anything. So I texted her on some shyt like "you know you shouldn't come out like that", and she flirted back, on some "am I in trouble" type shyt...

I responded like "you are when I get these girls laid down and come up in that bathroom", and she sent laughing emojis and was like "I hear you talking"...

Ultimately I got really shook, didn't go in there. She stayed in that bathroom a long time too, like if her normal shower was 20 minutes she was in that bytch twice as long. But when she came out, she didn't say anything, I didn't say anything, the next day we acted like this dialogue wasn't even exchanged...

I never deleted the texts and like a week later I left my phone open after texting her bytching bout my girl. My girl saw those messages and kept scrolling and saw the shower texts, and that was the death knell of a relationship that was barely hanging on anyway. She threatened to beat up homegirl if she didn't leave, of course she threatened me, really ugly ending...

So I guess that counts as an attempt? I agree with you, I'm not forcing no shyt with her and neither is she to be fair, but I think it's something in the back of our minds. It has to be in hers, she the one brought it up last week...

I've had plenty of other friends who were women, still have another two I'm really cool with, it's never even approached this kind of flirtation, it is kind of an "I would never" thing. Old girl and I have shared a probably most things with each other, we know each other well. I know how she's done men she's been with, she knows how my relationships and flings have been...

I doubt it'll ever really cross those lines for real, but one thing I do think matters at least a bit, is we're older now. I was 23 and she was 19 when we met. We've been friends thru a whole bunch of phases and experiences, many situationships and shyt between the two of us, many experiences, even like two fallouts (one being after she got kicked out, she blamed me for my girl seeing the texts). And given we've seen each other grow up I think, even as friends, there's an appreciation for how we've evolved as people to where we are now. We're both better people than we were even in '19...

i was gonna say she sounds trife and it couldn't be me. but you were there too and feeding into it so maybe yall meant for each other ha

 

[murksiderock]

i was gonna say she sounds trife and it couldn't be me. but you were there too and feeding into it so maybe yall meant for each other ha

Nah it was definitely fukked up. I regret it simply because my kids mom didn't deserve that treatment from me...

 

[Turtle]

I had to travel.