ummm tell that to elliot rodgers
A bit late but as a man who wasted time and sacrificed Braincells reading his manifesto, he didn't think he needed to go out and "Get" a girl, he suffered from deluded narcissism fueled by his mental problems that he refused to take his meds for and EXPECTED a woman to walk up to him, notice how much of a perfect gentlemen he was and date him.
That idiot used to spend weeks dressing nicely, cologned up and sit in high traffic park benches waiting for women to pick him up while staying quiet, fail, go home seething with rage cause no blonde chicks sauntered up to him and instantly fellated him.
He never sought a female, he personally felt he deserved one, so he's a bit of a bad example towards dudes struggling to get cheeks and companionship.