For the brehs in relationships, do yall give out monthly "girlfriend allowance"?

[ThrobbingHood]

I fukked and let it slip indirectly in a convo where I was talking about rejecting a job offer a while ago because the money they offered was not enough. She hit the "wait a minute, thats too little to you?"

I tried to julz my way out of that but it was too late. Eventually disclosed the numbers. Now i regret it because even though she promised it wouldnt change things, i can see she looks at me differently as far as expenses go. She aint lifted a finger since to get the bill when we're out and whenever i complain about the price of anything she hits me with the "but babe you a 6fig nikka tho "

Same thing happened to me:

I mentioned her before I think, but when we first starting dating, she was fine with going Dutch on dinners. Then by mistake, I printed out the receipt from savings account at the ATM and she saw it.

After that, she expected me to pay for everything. Making sly comments like “it ain’t like you’re struggling Big Spender. You can afford two of those. It’d be nice if you’d buy me one.”

That’s why brehs should never discuss or reveal how much they’re holding. This “woman” was making close to six figures and yet the expectation she had once she saw my balance was beyond brazen.

Once a woman knows you’re caking, it changes the whole dynamic of the relationship, it will never be the same. I had to bush her a month or so later, because the passive aggressiveness was too much.

I hate to say it but a lot of our black women have been conditioned to be in competition with us. I’m glad my current woman isn’t like that but I see that “I’ve got to one up him” dynamic in many relationships. And it comes down to a lack of respect and submissiveness.

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

Same thing happened to me:


Once a woman knows you’re caking, it changes the whole dynamic of the relationship, it will never be the same. I had to bush her a month or so later, because the passive aggressiveness was too much.

I hate to say it but a lot of our black women have been conditioned to be in competition with us. I’m glad my current woman isn’t like that but I see that “I’ve got to one up him” dynamic in many relationships. And it comes down to a lack of respect and submissiveness.

I 100% agree with you. She is the first I ever told about my finances and i thought it wouldnt be a mistake since we are planning on being together long term. But now the passive aggression creeps in every so often. She expects me to buy certain things without thinking twice. She uses the fact that I choose not to buy a car (because I live in a central area), and that I dont have kids as an excuses to claim I have lots of disposable income therefore dont have to count my coins like her. Im like damn so I shouldnt be saving that money i should just spend it cause its there.

Its almost like she is resentful or even jealous of me. I know it shocked the shyt out of her when she found out cause she always treated me like the "oh he's just trying his best, as long as he got his own place to stay im fine with him not being rich or not having a car". It made her feel that much smaller cause she claims to be making 7 times less than me (she still doesnt want me to see the pay stub to verify) but has a car, an apartment she is trying to pay of the morgage on and a family to support. The passive aggression is probably her feeling like I should be making it rain on her instead of saving and investing the majority of my pay.

If this doesnt work out, im never telling a woman about my finances ever again

 

[ThrobbingHood]

I 100% agree with you. She is the first I ever told about my finances and i thought it wouldnt be a mistake since we are planning on being together long term. But now the passive aggression creeps in every so often. She expects me to buy certain things without thinking twice. She uses the fact that I choose not to buy a car (because I live in a central area), and that I dont have kids as an excuses to claim I have lots of disposable income therefore dont have to count my coins like her. Im like damn so I shouldnt be saving that money i should just spend it cause its there.

Its almost like she is resentful or even jealous of me. I know it shocked the shyt out of her when she found out cause she always treated me like the "oh he's just trying his best, as long as he got his own place to stay im fine with him not being rich or not having a car". It made her feel that much smaller cause she claims to be making 7 times less than me (she still doesnt want me to see the pay stub to verify) but has a car, an apartment she is trying to pay of the morgage on and a family to support. The passive aggression is probably her feeling like I should be making it rain on her instead of saving and investing the majority of my pay.

If this doesnt work out, im never telling a woman about my finances ever again

I don’t know how long you’ve been dating her but I’d bush her. This is why I don’t date bum bytches or at least date women close to my level. And even then, it’s not a guarantee they won’t be envious.

If you make significantly more than them, they expect you to baby them. If you’re on a level playing field, there’s potentially resentment and jealously.

Look at Steph Curry and Will Smith. Both highly accomplished in their respective fields and yet their wives covet the limelight. They’ll either humiliate them by emasculating them or embarrassing them.

Lebron, Denzel don’t have these problems. You need to wife the right woman who will play her position.

The only time you should ever be transparent with your finances is if she’s your wife or fiancée, because you’re signing a legal contract. It’s no different than signing an athlete to a team, you have to know their medical history before you get stuck with an injury prone player.

And respectfully, a woman telling me how to spend my money is like me telling her how to do her make up.

 

[EffYou]

girlfriend .... allowance? man wtf y’all smoking on

 

[Smokin Rider]

Idk about all that but I like to spoil her when I feel cause I want her to stunt and feel good

She buys me shyt out the blue all the time too, aint no allowance ever. If I see some shyt I think would look good on her I cop it and vice versa

 

[Sccit]

MY DICC IN ONE OF HER THREE HOLES

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

I fukked and let it slip indirectly in a convo where I was talking about rejecting a job offer a while ago because the money they offered was not enough. She hit the "wait a minute, thats too little to you?"

I tried to julz my way out of that but it was too late. Eventually disclosed the numbers. Now i regret it because even though she promised it wouldnt change things, i can see she looks at me differently as far as expenses go. She aint lifted a finger since to get the bill when we're out and whenever i complain about the price of anything she hits me with the "but babe you a 6fig nikka tho "

this occured when he decided to make me his gf, he asked me how much i make. i suppose he was thinking he was going to check my expectations of him spending on me (which i never asked him for shyt and never will) then found out i make 2x as he does. how quickly the subject changed lol
but yeah from now if i have the opportunity again, i'm not telling, and i'm downplaying my job title to a support position lol

 

[whatthatthangsmelllike]

I do sometimes

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

I do sometimes

why?

 

[Swirv]

No and I pay all the bills. Her mom tried to tell me I should be giving her an allowance like she’s my kid

I gave her a credit card and told her to be responsible, I still monitor the charges though.

When she goes back to work, it’s her turn to trick on me

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

I came into this thread knowing exactly what OP is talking about and social media is definitely to blame….every other week a post goes viral on some chick showing a text message on some dude sending her a stack to go shopping or something and then you get a bunch of women in the comments asking god for the same



Everything has become completely materialistic in our society, we at a point where the most popular mindset is that if you not making someone some money or not of use to them they are worthless and worth abandoning. Concepts of love, compassion and humility are all but gone….I used to be joking but I’m starting to think that world ending meteor really needs to drop down on our ass

 

[whatthatthangsmelllike]

why?

We’ve been together for a long time we got kids together she held me down when I was really low and broke do it to show appreciation for her and all that she does

 

[Still Benefited]

I 100% agree with you. She is the first I ever told about my finances and i thought it wouldnt be a mistake since we are planning on being together long term. But now the passive aggression creeps in every so often. She expects me to buy certain things without thinking twice. She uses the fact that I choose not to buy a car (because I live in a central area), and that I dont have kids as an excuses to claim I have lots of disposable income therefore dont have to count my coins like her. Im like damn so I shouldnt be saving that money i should just spend it cause its there.

Its almost like she is resentful or even jealous of me. I know it shocked the shyt out of her when she found out cause she always treated me like the "oh he's just trying his best, as long as he got his own place to stay im fine with him not being rich or not having a car". It made her feel that much smaller cause she claims to be making 7 times less than me (she still doesnt want me to see the pay stub to verify) but has a car, an apartment she is trying to pay of the morgage on and a family to support. The passive aggression is probably her feeling like I should be making it rain on her instead of saving and investing the majority of my pay.

If this doesnt work out, im never telling a woman about my finances ever again

You view it this way because you have been programmed by the European. Dont get me wrong,maybe if your woman has been masculinized she does view you as a competetion.


But even if she was able to get over that. At her core,in her nature as a woman. Your woman would resent you for allowing her to fend for herself in white supremacy. Not shielding her,and not taking care of her when you clearly CAN#TheChildOfMan


Im telling you the truth,I bet these feelings even existed on the plantation. Where the women slaves had some resentment for the men.For not taking care of them and protecting them. Even if it was only a small ammount subconsciencely. And those men were in no position to take care of and protect their women. This is healthy,this is a womans nature


Be more worried about a woman who doesnt resent you making her work at all. Her mind is gone,shes been genetically modified,possibly beyond repair.

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

Allowance?

 

[EffYou]

Allowance?

these folks crazy ... these threads just get wilder and wilder