For the married brehs on the coli…

[BigMoneyGrip]

Without getting too specific my wife’s family is going through a tough time right now. My wife is a mess…How do I be there for her without inserting myself into the situation? Not making it about myself or trying to provide understanding in a situation I have no experience in. Without being overbearing. Cause listening to her cry is…heartbreaking…This is the part of GMB they don’t tell you about…that you’re going to get old and “life” is going to happen.

Just be there for her and listen.. nothing more nothing else..

 

[Jean Jacket]

Don't offer any opinion or solution on the family.

Do not get involved.

Keep doing what you've been doing. Stay busy.

Like others said...let her vent.

Find a project in the house to work on as something to bide your time.

 

[Taadow]

Inject humor with a side of empathy when she lets her guard down
Take her on a drive and let her get all that shyt out
Take a walk and get her out the house
When anybody goes through a bad time
Staying in the house magnifies thinking and emotions
Listen and show affection
Depending on her level of physical touch at this time
Just listen and hold her hand and give hugs

Basically yes. This is the time you have to be The Rock (No Samoan).

Often times the best thing to say is nothing. Just be there.
Literally the best thing to do at times will be to stand behind her and put your hand on her shoulder.

On your specific situation:

1 - When doctors give Terminal folks their estimated time, that’s just a guess.
They told a friend of my family she had 6 months…she lived 7 more years.
Like my Mama always says “Don’t bury people before they’re dead”.

2 - …and because of that, you can suggest to your wife that there is still time to spend
with her mother. She is not dead! And perhaps this can be time to do those things she always
wanted with her - travel somewhere, teach her how to do something, etc.



…But I’m not married, so take it with a grain of salt.

 

[WaveMolecules]

alieviate her stress. do her chores. listen to her. be present. be her support system, however she might need it.

 

[MajesticLion]

Do the unseen things, unasked.

 

[levitate]

Let her be a mess.

Grieving comes in many forms. As long as she isn’t being self-destructive, just let her be a mess.