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[Oye]

5 year relationship ended out the blue since she had a lot of resentment built up. She also hit me up recently after 7 months of us not speaking and told me she still loved me but had a man now .

I don't hate her but I don't really like her as a person right now because I was led on. In the end if we hadn't broken up I wouldn't be traveling as much and 2013 is going to be a great year for me.

 

[NoMoreWhiteWoman2020]

I broke things off with my ex but there mny infidelities on both parts.
I resent what i went through, all the domestic abuse and hollering i had to endure by dealing with a woman of low self esteem
I resented the pretty girls who would tell me im so smart, etc. And then never want to date.
I have come to grips with the fact that it will be hard for me to find a woman compatible with me. So many are superficial and worried about what someone else can do for them, and that is the way of the world; i cannot change this truth, so i must adapt.

Deep down i just want someone to love me for me; sex comes and goes, but only with true love is the sex ever about anything more than a nut.

 

[Nintendough]

I got dumped once. She felt like I was arrogant and I didn't care about her. I felt free when she left, she was annoying.

 

[luckyse7enz]

My ex dumped me after 4 and a half years on an impulse. I'd been super busy with my first teaching job and it was at the end of the year when grades needed to be turned in.

She was like, "I feel like you don't want to hang with me b/c you never initiate it anymore. I always have to call you."

I was like, "It's usually implied (to me) that we're going to hang out any time I have free time. We hang out all weekend, every weekend."

She was like, "I'm just not happy. Maybe we shouldn't be together."

I was like, "Cool."

So....as far as how I felt after being dumped?



No more obligations after 4 1/2 years. Free to finally clean up on chicks I missed out on before the relationship.

The only thing that sucked was that we were planning on heading out west. She has family there and all of my boys moved out there so I figured we could pair up and get a place. Ended up smashing her several times afterward before she moved and she kept suggesting that we get back together but I love the freedom too much. She's like "I made a huge mistake. I got scared and insecure. Uncertainty freaked me out and I panicked, thinking that you wouldn't want to make the move."

I just tell her "Why would I get back together if you'd dump me while I'm trying to get this money for the future. If we were living together, you'd have messed up the entire situation on an impulse. I'm just going to do me."

To this day, over a year later, she truly believes we're supposed to be together. She keeps in touch with my mom and, of course, since all of my friends are in Cali...she hangs with them. She threw all of her own friends in the bushes during our relationship so she texts me almost every other day for advice or to see how I am. I feel bad for her sometimes b/c she's REALLY reserved and kind of awkward on the social tip. Somewhat of a prude so the way dudes in Cali come at her freaks her out. She's not really about that action like that. I tell her that she's in the home of the porn biz now...better suck it up and put out more.

My boys are like my family so they know the deal.

People shouldn't take being dumped or dumping someone too hard. I think what happens a lot of the time is that people get into relationships at a certain age without getting to experience life as an individual when it counts...thus stunting their growth as a person. You end up learning about yourself and seasoning your personality more as "(your name)" than you would when you're "(your name" and "(your significant other)"....if that makes sense.

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

I was confused and just hurt. It happened at the worst time, right after I graduated and couldn't find a job....I was so broke, alone, back at my mom's house...missing having a best friend to share life with. New p*ssy really didn't even cure it. We spent damn near every day around each other for a year......It took me a few months to get over it because I simply didn't understand how she just went so cold on me, seemingly out of no where & for no reason. I later realized she just detached earlier. I realized how stupid I was....I handled the shyt like a total simp for real. That was like my first serious relationship tho. We were together for a year, which was my longest relationship. I mostly just smashed joints and thats it.

One day it seemed like everything was cool. I picked her up from work, took her to get some Chinese food and the next day she came over and said she wasn't happy and wanted to break up. I was like meanwhile she's trying to fukk. I ended up hitting and she changed her mind. LOL I let it go, and took her back. This happened one other time and I took her back........then the last time she broke up with me while I was studying for my final and it was never the same. It was over. It fukking sucked because my friends kept bringing her around because somehow during our relationship they became platonic friends being that we all went to school together. I kinda resented them for that in a way.

I thought about it for a while tho and it started to make sense

She was a sophomore in college while I was a graduating senior and I think she just mentally went into the relationship thinking we probably wouldn't be together long.....meanwhile I was in love and shyt. I mean, I know she felt me but all in all I just think she realized that we were completely different people and not very compatible before I did.

She was kinda a whimsical person, very free spirited boho chick.....Not the most consistent person (seems like most young women are like that)...Could change her mind like that...lol Didn't really notice it until it applied to me. I think she totally lost her self tho, she just did what I wanted to make me happy until she just reached a point where they can't take it anymore .....She didn't have many friends so she kinda just hung around me and my homies all the time. We basically had apartments across the street from one another so we basically lived together. Thus we spent so much time around one another that the shyt just got boring....but I knew there was still something there because after she'd hit me up wanting to hang out and what not. After a while I just ended our friendship, I couldn't take the back and forth anymore. I realized it was best I don't speak to her anymore.


but yeah looking back, it was fun while it lasted but yeah I'm glad she dumped me....I learned a lot a lot about how women operate from that relationship. It's made me take things a lot slower, not jump into situations, not put so much into one chick, keep them off balance, do spontaneous shyt to keep them interested and having fun, not be so accessible......I also pick better girls these days.


Definitely a great life lesson. I'm so thankful for it..

 

[Sad Bunny]

IT happened three years ago.

She was acting awkward on Thanksgiving while I was with her family. I tried to chill with her the Friday, Saturday and Sunday after before I went back to college (5 hours away) but she didnt want to. She ignored me and was distant for the following week.

I logged in Facebook and she deleted our relationship status...called her and then was heartbroken like a muhhfukker for months....got in gym, focused on school, got a 3.4 that semester

Fukk bytches

Dont even make me bring up the pawg

 

[Chris.B]

That's why every man needs to have side pieces who understand their roles.

It makes getting over being dumped very easy.

 

[BuyandSave]

I've been dumped twice. The first time...I can't even lie - I was straight status for a while. I was in love with this girl, brehs, and she did me dirty as fukk. Some time went by, I got over it, grew as a person, and chalked the L up to being young. The next time I got dumped I had already learned not to invest too many emotions into a relationship and I was straight status after like two days. I think every man/woman has to experience that shyt at least once. It really puts a lot of things into perspective as far as relationships go and just numbs you up to future heartbreaks in general.

 

[Liquid]

It changed my life, but in the end I won

 

[BlackZilla]

Got dumped once, it hurt pretty bad. I can't front, I was messed up for a few months. I couldn't even fukk a chick without thinking of ol girl and being sad afterwards. Heartbreak is some shyt I wouldn't want for my worst enemy. Sucks like a bytch.

This.

Heartbreak is a mofo man. It can mess you up for a while. Sucks indeed.

 

[Born2BKing]

I've been dumped twice. The first time...I can't even lie - I was straight status for a while. I was in love with this girl, brehs, and she did me dirty as fukk. Some time went by, I got over it, grew as a person, and chalked the L up to being young. The next time I got dumped I had already learned not to invest too many emotions into a relationship and I was straight status after like two days. I think every man/woman has to experience that shyt at least once. It really puts a lot of things into perspective as far as relationships go and just numbs you up to future heartbreaks in general.

Yeah, I'll never give my heart to a woman like that again. I realized that you never own a woman and you are just leasing them. They can easily be someone else's at any time. I'll never invest in another person like I did in the past. Damn, that shyt hurt brehs. I still think about it and that was 3 years ago.

 

[Mike Ock]

Funny I caught this thread today...:

Long Story:

...so I was with an ex for three and a half yrs, she was 2yrs older than me..anyway, while in the midst of our relationship I got a spot with my boy...as things got deeper wit me and her she bought up the idea of us moving in together. and me rooming with my boy, I ended up cheating on her twice which she never knew, but that women's intuition was in the air. She began like really pressing me about moving in together, and at this point the cheating was over and i was back in it completely with my girl. Well, things went downhill for her..she got laid off from her job and then for the last time wanted us to move in together..when she got laid off, I felt I wasn't ready for us to get a place together and hold her down while she was unemployed(at the time I didn't factor in her receiving un-employment), i was very naive towards her and felt she wouldn't leave me...well she then moved back to her mom's house. She had a lot of resentment towards me, but I was still naive about it. Pretty soon she broke up with me..me still being naive thought we'd get back together...next thing I know she starts talking about moving out of state with her sister...then she did . I was in such disbelief on some then ...I was fukked up for a while..we graduated college together, she motivated me a lot during that time..i was real cool with her fam and her with mines..it's been almost 3yrs ago..and we still remained friends and cool ones at that. We Skype here and there...we both been in relationships since. She actually hit me up to let me know she wants to chill when she comes in town to visit next month. I haven't seen her since she moved away, so i'm looking forward to seeing her again...on some friendship shyt too. But it was very hard on me when she actually moved away...that's when I knew I fuked up royally.

 

[jalamanta]

Every man should experience heartbreak.

It doesn't help everybody though.

Gator Reloaded is a prime example of that.

 

[Oye]

Yeah, I'll never give my heart to a woman like that again. I realized that you never own a woman and you are just leasing them. They can easily be someone else's at any time. I'll never invest in another person like I did in the past. Damn, that shyt hurt brehs. I still think about it and that was 3 years ago.

Yeah my ex left me so jaded towards relationships cause this was a woman I did plan on having a family with. I can't even understand how shes in another relationship so soon when she would tell me daily I was the love of her life. I'm talking go other women and what not but another relationship isn't even on my radar. It's been 11 months for me and I still have to tell myself not to call her I thought other women would take my mind off her but she fukked up my mind when she hit me up 2 weeks ago.