For those struggling with dating apps

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Dating apps were a buffet when I was on em…

all types of chicks were with the business.

Good looking girls were plentiful. Had one of the best conversations of my life with this French lawyer.

Yeah sure it was.

We had this convo last time and I told you dating apps ain't the wave. Man was typing entire articles trying to prove me wrong

Breh…

Those 50 matches are mostly low quality goofies. Women don’t have 50 bodybuilder entrepreneurs in their inbox.

Putting yourself at least slightly together gives you a huge edge. You’re too worried about other men to see what you should be doing to get the results you want.

does that mean those men match the personality of the specific women you’re going for?

Why can’t women consider you to be a “high quality dude” and you’re the one having women the next city over choosing you?

I went through a month or two streak of Australian women on travel mode setting up dates with me so they’d have somebody to link with after they landed in the US.

What’s stopping you from experiencing that?

1. Are you trying to date women or just hookup? If you’re trying to date a woman, wouldn’t you rather she be picky? You trying to date easy bytches?

2. Yes you can. Your aesthetic, location of photos, expression in photos, and your bio give information about your personality.

3. Yes. Your personality will win over better looking dudes. Do you think the majority of women just choose men off looks? So all women only choose the best looking men they can date? Go outside and look at couples in the real world. Personality counts alot. There’s no denying that.

4. An average guy with things going on in his life and a good personality can eat. You need to have some substance behind who you are. Refer to the Kevin Samuel’s video about a dude complaining that women are too picky and Kevin asks him questions about his life and figures out it’s because he’s overweight, lacks ambition, is broke and is boring/doesn’t do anything interesting.

You can have a combination of different strengths and weaknesses across all those aspects… but you can’t lack EVERYTHING. Women at least need a few reasons to fukk with you. If you are broke but you have charisma and are fun to be with you can pull. If you are out of shape but you make money and have a good social network you can eat. If you lack charisma but you are in shape and have money you can eat.

It’s the combination of traits… you don’t need to be a 6’5 bodybuilding millionaire social media star to get women on these apps. You nikkas are just lanes who blame women for not choosing you. But nikkas with only one strong trait (looks, charisma, money, or social status) get women with no issue.

Can you respond back with the traits you have that women are attracted to?

1. How come you bring up $60k so much? I took photos with gear I copped on sale from Amazon, Ross, and some limited edition chucks I copped for cheap off stock x ($60) and discounted acg Nikes from the outlet ($70). No car, no jewelry, no designer stuff.

You can look well put together without making $100k+ a year. Knowing how to dress well doesn’t take money. It takes having fashion sense.

2. Looks always come first in any situation. Your personality comes through with how you dress, move/stand/facial expression, the words you say and who you associate with. You can convey this in a dating profile in the same way you express this when approaching real life women.

3. If two people look exactly the same but one is taller… the taller guy will do better in real life too. But why are you comparing yourself against other men instead of just maximizing your own attractiveness? Why are you so focused on what other men are doing?

An entrepreneur millionaire gonna do better than you in real life too… but what’s the point of even thinking about that?

Can you dress?

Do you have good hygiene?

Do you have an interesting life?

Do you have interesting hobbies?

Do you have a dope social circle?

Do you have charisma?

These are questions you gotta ask yourself instead of focusing on other men you think are doing better than you. Can you even answer these questions?

A chick will choose a very attractive guy just as equally as she would choose a guy she thinks she will have fun with. Do you come across like a guy who women will enjoy being around? How do you convey that in real life? Why can’t you convey that online?

Once again, you have to know how to market your strengths if you have any.

4. How many women do you approach monthly in real life? Of the women that you approach, how many do you go on dates with?

Need to know what you are doing in real life to see what the disconnect is with what I’m saying.


1. That 3/10 would ignore average guys in real life too… the dating app makes no difference. So why are you trying to blame the app?

2. Show me a picture of what an average guy making $60k looks like.

I’m 6’5 but I can reactivate my dating profile, remove the full length picture that shows me being tall and I can pull women with just the same bio I created in 2022. My outfits are all under $80 + $60-$70 shoes. I don’t wear anything a guy making $60k couldn’t afford.

I’m willing to put money up on this experiment.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

I do agree on the instagram point

Either instagram or seeking arrangement

Everything is transactional rn

 

[Savvir]

Yeah sure it was.

We had this convo last time and I told you dating apps ain't the wave. Man was typing entire articles trying to prove me wrong

I just had a good experience and truly believe what I’m saying.



I’m not trolling or trying to say shyt for online points. When I believe in something I’ll sometimes go overboard to get my point across. Especially if I feel like it will help others.

 

[Canon]

Either instagram or seeking arrangement

Everything is transactional rn

you not wrong

ill take the Colombian 9 who only needs $75 every now and then

 

[Neuromancer]

Ya'll should try speed dating.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Either instagram or seeking arrangement

Everything is transactional rn

Nah. Only the ugly dudes and the lames are paying. I ain't paying for shyt.

A lot of these men simple don't know how to be men. Low self worth, low confidence, scary so they use money because that's all they got.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Stopped using them… this was before the “Tea App” bullshyt though.


Had a “situationship” end and just bushed the apps altogether.

And honestly, they never really worked for me anyway. Every woman I met off the apps was fukked up mentally (shyt, maybe so was I) and rarely did it go anywhere long term.

I only met one ex off of there and we had just met up. I didn’t follow through because I thought she was weird/boring af but she eventually reached out like years later and we became cool.

shyt damn near ruined my life


So I’m good on this. Not saying women are better/worse on or off the apps, just that they never went anywhere serious for me. Maybe because it’s based off of shallow/superficial shyt, I don’t fit a specific mold I’m expected to, etc.


I still get messages though and just started back responding but again, goes nowhere special.

 

[Dre Space Age]

My advice is that all you need in this day and age is at least one form of communication. Keep your messages and replies short and answer in a timely manner. If you can't answer immediately that's fine too. Just don't do it to the point she thinks your ghosting or entertaining other women.

That's it!!!! It's just a waiting game at that point. Dudes fukk up cause they get over eager, rush steps, skip entire steps. Just dumb shyt.

If you're one of those dummies. Stop. Slow down, try again or try someone else cause you fukked up...and if you've fukked up several times your done nikka give it up. You only get leeway to fukk up after you smashed or went out..OR a significant amount of time has passed and she probably don't remember much.

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

Ya'll should try speed dating.

Does that really work? I've heard mixed reviews

 

[Neuromancer]

Does that really work? I've heard mixed reviews

At the very least it's fun and there's no real ghosting as it were. It's more upfront.

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

At the very least it's fun and there's no real ghosting as it were. It's more upfront.

Cool. So you've done it and recommend it then? What was it like?

 

[Neuromancer]

Cool. So you've done it and recommend it then? What was it like?

So I did it during the pandemic so it was all virtual but there's a group at least in NYC that does mixers and stuff. The online stuff was ok but it seems the live events are better.

 

[desjardins]

The swipe mechanism made the apps trash to me
For one you can't go on private and browse profiles like you used to be able to do on POF back in the day
And the swipe part takes away the power of personality and having a mouthpiece. People are shallow so having to "match" with someone before having the opportunity to make them smile or think is wild

 

[2Quik4UHoes]

Dating apps are dumb fr, you don’t know their vibe in full, they can catfish, it’s an ego boost, doesn’t really favor men like that, it’s just better and quite frankly more appropriate to approach women like men are supposed to.

 

[Soda Papi]

I don’t use dating apps, but the few times I got on one just to see what’s going on I would frequently get ghosted by even basic broads (and I am NOT a member of the ugly gang nation )