Life is sometimes unusual when you get put in those situations, like you want to drive away or in one of my experiences it was in HS a cat I had a grudge with for a couple of school years but was hung around some other people that ate at the same lunch table...everyones eatin but he wasnt...I had some extra breakfast pizzas (they sold them in squares about the size of a pack of smokes) I was just like "you aint eatin homie?....here you go" and I slid him one. It didnt mean I started dappin up him and laughin wit'em and being his friend but it was a nice gesture. I could have eaten all 3 but, it was just one of those things.
Forgiveness
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Life is sometimes unusual when you get put in those situations, like you want to drive away or in one of my experiences it was in HS a cat I had a grudge with for a couple of school years but was hung around some other people that ate at the same lunch table...everyones eatin but he wasnt...I had some extra breakfast pizzas (they sold them in squares about the size of a pack of smokes) I was just like "you aint eatin homie?....here you go" and I slid him one. It didnt mean I started dappin up him and laughin wit'em and being his friend but it was a nice gesture. I could have eaten all 3 but, it was just one of those things.
Nintendough
#Kliq
Holding a grudge is like slowly killing yourself. Thats why I was so messed up in my teen years. Glad I learned how to move on and let things go. 
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What all schoolchildren learn,
Those to whom evil is done
Do evil in return.
JasonSJackson
Jah Sun Ma'at Ra
yea i feel u...........
Huellz Santana
Shocking
i dont find it that hard to forgive folks, i can easily forgive and just not associate with them any more
its much harder to forgive yourself tho. especially if your mind wont stop triggering bad memories and regret.
its much harder to forgive yourself tho. especially if your mind wont stop triggering bad memories and regret.
JasonSJackson
Jah Sun Ma'at Ra
you right..........but forgiving someone that wrongs u and sincerely apologies is something completly different then forgiving someone that wrongs you and doesnt............
i dont find it that hard to forgive folks, i can easily forgive and just not associate with them any more
its much harder to forgive yourself tho. especially if your mind wont stop triggering bad memories and regret.
My exact issue with two females from my past
JasonSJackson
Jah Sun Ma'at Ra
you think it would be easy to forgive someone that molested you as a child or someone that took the life of someone close to you?
Huellz Santana
Shocking
I only spoke from MY experience. none of that shyt has happened to me so I can't speak on it. but from the situations I been in, I haven't held grudges. and i had some grimy family shyt happen to me.
just not to those extremes.
i will say that if my ex had got pregnant and aborted the baby without telling me that I dont think I could forgive her.
so it all depends on the situation.
just not to those extremes.
i will say that if my ex had got pregnant and aborted the baby without telling me that I dont think I could forgive her.
so it all depends on the situation.
OP what movie is this from, i swear stone cold used to quote it
i dont find it that hard to forgive folks, i can easily forgive and just not associate with them any more
its much harder to forgive yourself tho. especially if your mind wont stop triggering bad memories and regret.
thats my problem....
thats my problem....
i dont find it that hard to forgive folks, i can easily forgive and just not associate with them any more
its much harder to forgive yourself tho. especially if your mind wont stop triggering bad memories and regret.
What you can do here, which without maybe a therapist or counselor to help you get to the root of the feelings is to reframe.
Reframing involves looking at the situation from a different perspective. To oversimplify the process its basically turning those negative situations into a positive or putting a spin on it.
Like I have issues with trusting a job or company therefore I want to work for myself, I promised myself I wont ever 'trust' a job or career again and that I will start my own because I dont want to necessarily have to attempt to meet the everchanging demands of a workplace or another boss. But because of what I went through I have gotten so much more education and become a better person, I know I wouldnt be who I am today without that experience.
or the one that got away from me, from consistently analyzing and over analyzing every aspect of our relationship, now I can come to realize where I made mistakes and particularly accept that she wasnt for me and I wasnt for her no matter how much I would have liked it to be. It took a long time for me to come to that realization that in the midst of I was just like "damn I felt so much for her I cant believe this, what did I do wrong, what can I do to make it right etc." Now I have the self-actualization to be able to honestly say "it was fun while it lasted, I did make some mistakes, from where we were at and where we were going it probably wouldnt have lasted but because of it I have grown as a person and I have more to offer someone else in the future."
in short to reframe your experiences is to gain insight from them. once you really break down to the root (i like to think of peeling back layers of an onion to get to the core) you start to feel better about the situation and yourself and thats when you move on.