Funerals are expensive, broken and exploitative. They have to change
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Carolina Slim
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When my Dad passed, he had been sick in the hospital for over two months. One day after we had visited him, I took my mom out to eat, and she mentioned that if this was the end, she was thinking of cremation. I was on board with it, mainly because I knew that the stress of seeing him laid out in a casket, possibly not looking like himself, would not be good for her. We went forward with it, and a few of my cousins on his side of the family decided they wasn't on board with it, and was vocal about it. Never mind the fact that they lived closer to the hospital than I did, and I never saw any of them visit. While that was our reasoning, we started to see how expensive a "standard" funeral would be. My father's family had two plots at Evergreen Cemetery in Brooklyn, and they were filled up. So had we wanted to bury him, we'd have to factor that in as well, along with the casket and preparation. In hindsight, I'm glad we went about it the way we did. Several years later, one of my cousins who had been talking slick passed away, and some of the family got hit over the head with exactly how much it cost tryna "do it the right way". They even hit us up asking if we knew how much a new plot would cost, and I was just like "nah, but I know it's expensive. We avoided all that when we did the cremation" 
I've heard it said that funerals are more for the living than they are for the dead.
I've heard it said that funerals are more for the living than they are for the dead.
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Just dump me in the trash
waste of money
ball out instead
waste of money
ball out instead
shyt cost like 10 - 20k
I’ve already decided to be cremated and within the next couple years will be narrowing down my funeral plans and once finalized, I’ll prepay for the services.
I went to purchase a headstone for my dad and dude was like “the space next to him is open...”I’m not ready yet!
My Mom has had her funeral paid for for years through good life insurance and all of that.
Funerals are just a big thing in my family. It’s a tradition and we (most of us) plan for it far far in advance to not have others coming out of their own pocket because we know they will be doing it anyway because they feel obligated.
I do agree that the way we do it can be stupid. Which is why it should be planned for (if possible).
Just a tough subject coming from a southern Christian family who always feel the need to do a good funeral for everyone.
I do agree that the way we do it can be stupid. Which is why it should be planned for (if possible).
Just a tough subject coming from a southern Christian family who always feel the need to do a good funeral for everyone.
Yeah they aren’t cheap, especially the good ones. Most people in my family that have big funerals were well off anyways. I have well off family members that will come out of their own pocket big to help pay for the funeral of the poorer people in the family.
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