Getting back with "the one that got away"

[karim]

double post

 

[EpicStoryTeller]

J Cole reiterated that shyt on a hit record.

She has to be sitting back like this nikka is too easy.

They give you the number of guys they were serious with but not the number of all the flings they've had, especially if their number is higher than a males. Dude will lose this battle.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

They give you the number of guys they were serious with but not the number of all the flings they've had, especially if their number is higher than a males. Dude will lose this battle.

I know about Chris Rock. Played that boy textbook.

 

[True Blue Moon]

Hello friends, been having a lot of thoughts about my current situation. I've bounced it off of some of my RL friends and now decided I could get some input from the always insightful and brilliant minds of the coli. Please excuse what may be a long post.

So back in 2011, I moved to a new city for a job. My first day there I walk in and this beautiful girl is sitting at the front desk. I introduced myself and end up chatting for about 20 mins. Turns out that she had just started there a month prior, and coincidentally we had both moved from the same city.

I immediately started crushing on this girl like I hadn't done in years. I don't really get like that. My office was right by the kitchen so she would walk by multiple times daily refilling her water. Every time she came by we would talk and flirt a little. shyt started driving me crazy.

Finally after 6 months I said fukk it and asked her out. I held off cuz I don't like mixing work and relationships but I couldn't take it anymore. We end up going out for drinks, having a great time and I end up smashing at her place that night. I was on cloud nine brehs.

So we end up dating, but its only about twice a month. Both of us were busy a lot with various things but we made it happen when we could. I was def having major feelings but playing it cool. We kept this pace up for about 6 months when she hit me with the info that she was not ready for a relationship. She was fresh out of college, living with 2 of her sorority sisters in a high rise and she wanted to be free and enjoy her time without having to be tied down.

I tried to convince her how good of a thing we had (which she agreed), but her mind was made up and she said its best if we don't see each other anymore. Straight punch to the gut. Had me messed up for like an entire year. I was ready to wife her.

I had to un-follow her on FB cuz every time seeing her just brought back those feelings. Anyway, I moved on, dated several chicks and was in a 1.5 year relationship, etc. But not one of those chicks gave me that fire in my belly that she did.

So fast forward to 2 weeks ago (about 4 years since we dated) she texts me, says its been so long since we've seen each other, hopes I'm well etc. We go back and forth and end up deciding to meet for drinks last Friday. I have no idea what her intentions are so I'm playing it low key as hell. We hit it off like we hadn't missed a beat, and once again I end up going back to her place and smashing. We end up spending the whole wknd together, smashed like 5 times. She told me it was over a year ago that she had sex.

I'm enjoying seeing her again and want to see where it goes, but I damn sure am not going to get all in my feelings again just to get kicked in the nuts again.

So what do y'all think? Am I only setting myself up to fukked over again?







TLDR: dated 4 years ago and I was ready to wife but she wasn't and kicked me to the curb. She's now pursued me and we've had sex and are planning to continue seeing each other. Is this a bad idea on my part.

I'm sure this thread has gone deep but ima drop my first impression and then keep reading. My initial impression is that she was horny after a dikk draught and would rather fukk a dude she has history with instead of a stranger so that she still feels good about herself. Girls call up exes when horny more frequently than they jump on me dikk, both due to self value and cuz they know there is chemistry and feelings present.

I'll keep reading.

 

[Groot]

Alright friends, here to report back briefly.

We spent the whole wknd together, she left this morning. It was all good. Had a lot of convo, she's approaching it same as me, as long as it's good we're gonna KIM.

For the dudes in here that think all girls are thots, she's had 3 partners including me. I was the 2nd she banged when we initially hooked up years ago. Her best friend actually lost her virginity to her husband. She told me about her other friends who had maybe 2-3 dudes under their belt before they got married. A lot of you bitter cats won't believe that, and I don't care, but I'm telling you there are still good girls out there.

We made plans for Tuesday night, and her best friend and husband are staying with her this coming wknd and we made plans to hit up a brunch spot on Saturday.

I'm def still proceeding with caution, but we are def getting closer.

Appreciate all the feedback from trolls or whomever. I'm here for your entertainment.

I am Groot...

 

[DJSmooth]

Alright friends, here to report back briefly.
For the dudes in here that think all girls are thots, she's had 3 partners including me. I was the 2nd she banged when we initially hooked up years ago. Her best friend actually lost her virginity to her husband. She told me about her other friends who had maybe 2-3 dudes under their belt before they got married. A lot of you bitter cats won't believe that, and I don't care, but I'm telling you there are still good girls out there.

Thank yall for bumping this thread again I needed these laughs

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Bump

 

[RoyalQ]

Sounds like back then she wanted to be a free spirited little bird. 4 years pass and in the mean time she got used up and shytted on by dudes. Now she wants a real relationship and is running back to you.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Sounds like back then she wanted to be a free spirited little bird. 4 years pass and in the mean time she got used up and shytted on by dudes. Now she wants a real relationship and is running back to you.

Read the update.

 

[4North1Side2]

Your way too old for this shyt OP.

 

[Swirv]

@Jack Trippa 3z company ho

Take your time breh and let her show you who she is. If she is lying it will be revealed.

 

[unit321]

Lol not happenin breh. She's light skin, thick ass, long hair and pretty face. Bout 5'5.

 

[XII]

J Cole reiterated that shyt on a hit record.

She has to be sitting back like this nikka is too easy.

Don't save him, he don't wanna be saved

 

[old_timer]

my wife (rip) swore up and down she wouldn't get married before 30
she liked to party, act a fool, run around
her sister, and her whole clique.. tried to talk her out of marrying me-

but when i proposed..
she knew she wasn't gonna top what we had
so yes, a woman can/will sacrifice "make a deal what;sbehind door #2" options if the upfront offer is sufficiently compelling

personally i give each relationship my best shot
(not overdoing it, but also not giving less than it deserves)
and then i keep it moving - win, lose, draw
..i don't do rematches

 

[The Coochie Assassin]

This nikka suppose to be 34-35 and he really believes a woman in her late 20s who let's him smash on the first night has only had 3 partners

This dude must be a straight cornball brother. Please keep updating us tho b.

I suggest u go all in now, get married, no prenup if u really feel like she the one who got away and have kids with her