Ghosting is the reality of the modern dating world

[Solo ✧✦✧]

This thread is a great example of why I don't care to do the whole dating thing. There's so many lazy and arrogant fukks that think they're too cool to do simple stuff like make it clear when they're not interested.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

What way?

They don't owe you shyt.

Cruelly. Nobody owes anybody anything but a little kindness goes a long way, especially in dating.

There's no upside to this shyt besides the people doing it getting a sense of power from it. But what's the point of having power if you're just going to abuse it?

 

[PartyHeart]

There's really nothing you can do. However you express to her how poor her behavior was is gonna be an L for you. Ghosting doesn't mean you're a coward. Alot of women don't deserve the closure. It's a character issue.

Point out their behavior and they will either deny it or try to turn things around and place blame on you. Also it doesn't matter if you were calm or not. If she FEELS attacked, then that's how it was and now she has rationalized in her mind why she needs revenge on you.

This is just excuses. You should approach relationships from the perspective of controlling the things that you can control. You tell her you're not feeling her in that way and don't want to pursue anything further and let her react whatever way she wants to. You've done your part and made your feelings clear.

This is basically just hurt people hurting people. Because there is no way they don't know that being in regular contact with someone on a romantic level and then suddenly vanishing without explanation isn't hurtful. I don't believe for one second its just about laziness. People ghost for 2 reasons, too cowardly too address the situation head on or they are trying to be hurtful on purpose. In this day and age I sadly think its moreso the latter than the former. These are often the people who think of themselves as "good guys" too. Scary times for human relationships.

 

[RedCloakBlackWraithe]

Typity type type type. Read the first papragraph and that was it.

 

[Originalman]

2016 the Summer of the Ghost.

The game is different now, people just quit easier. Everything needs to be gratifying 24/7 or else people gonna dip. Social media and the internet makes it so that there's so much stimulation you can find, a lot of people in this generation gonna die alone. Having a lot of options is a gift and a curse, the more choices you think you have, the harder it is to choose just 1 thing. People's perceived options is why ghosting so popular.


The ugliest woman on a dating app is gonna have at least 100 messages in her inbox, mad perceived options, until they too old to realize that 98% of those messages from dudes that have no intention of being in a long term relationship/ marrying them.

Truth

 

[The Refiner]

This is just excuses. You should approach relationships from the perspective of controlling the things that you can control. You tell her you're not feeling her in that way and don't want to pursue anything further and let her react whatever way she wants to. You've done your part and made your feelings clear.

This is basically just hurt people hurting people. Because there is no way they don't know that being in regular contact with someone on a romantic level and then suddenly vanishing without explanation isn't hurtful. I don't believe for one second its just about laziness. People ghost for 2 reasons, too cowardly too address the situation head on or they are trying to be hurtful on purpose. In this day and age I sadly think its moreso the latter than the former. These are often the people who think of themselves as "good guys" too. Scary times for human relationships.

Excuses based on real experiences though. Whenever you point out to someone why you not fukkin with them anymore and why, they just don't accept it. They'll tell me I'm bugging, I'm too sensitive, I made it all up, etc. There's ALWAYS alot of resistance and sometimes at the end of it all (when they see I'm not budging), they start to realize what they did was wrong....and even when they do realize they are in the wrong, they'll pledge to change but usually don't.

They'll attack you verbally or physically, slander your name, etc. all in an attempt to get you back??? What sense does that make? Sometimes they'll go through all these phases just to say "you were right. I'm sorry". Lmao you just showed me the worst side of you and now I'm suppose to want you back?

 

[LoMax30]

Trust me, she was with another guy. I've gone thru almost the same exact shyt with a friend with benefits.

Deadass. When I stepped back and put everything in perspective that's the only reason shorty I was dealing with could've started acting so weird. And I think when I called her on being shaky she got nervous. I ain't no spring chicken, I can smell fish Even when we had our last convo and she told me she didn't want to see me anymore, her answer to ANYTHING I said was "I can't give you what you're looking for." I'm looking at the phone like

 

[Mr. Somebody]

Ghosting.

Code for, that individual was already in a relationship or

Said individual was having sex for the sport of it the sport of it, friend.

 

[Jahmal]

I've had a few chicks do this, its strange to cause the convo be going good and poof . . like why waste my time . .

They use you for attention while a nikka like me while have her come over, smash and kick her out

 

[Sonny Bonds]

This is why people have side pieces and heavily stacked rotations.

 

[Londilon]

there is no such thing as dating anymore.

 

[NaijaProdigy Redux]

Lol this is why you dude needs to make sure you're talking to more than one girl.

 

[theflyest]

It's terrible. In this era, it's just part of the game and shouldn't even be taken personally. If your even going to date or even with friends, you have to accept this is going to happen.

Have you ever had a woman stop answering your calls/text, you run into her in public, and she's acting as if it didn't even happen, and she's excited to see you? From your point of view, your probably thinking in your head why is this bytch even talking to me, she stopped answering. From her point of view, she just isn't interested, but it isn't anything malicious.

Likewise if a dude decides to stop calling/texting, it isn't anything malicious. If you see her out in public, your open to saying what's up, because from your point of view, it isn't that serious. However, that woman is gonna interpret that as this dude stopped talking to her and probably wonder why the fukk your saying what's up for.

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

This bothers me......especially if I as a man take a woman out and spend hard earned money to try to entertain her and get to know her.


I feel like I'm owed a "hey, this isn't going to work and I'm not interested".

as a opposed to an ignored text or call.

 

[Jahmal]

This bothers me......especially if I as a man take a woman out and spend hard earned money to try to entertain her and get to know her.


I feel like I'm owed a "hey, this isn't going to work and I'm not interested".

as a opposed to an ignored text or call.

Thats why you stop takin women out. just netflix and chill