ThrobbingHood
“I’m Sorry for 2025”
I’m not going to claim to be a marriage/relationship expert because I can only talk on my own experiences and others around me.Are these women even worth leading these days???
I will say, as someone who used to be staunchly GMB and who is now engaged, this is what I have learned.
1. Women NEED to be moulded.
Yes, even the ones you may think are close to perfect. If you want to lead a woman, she has to still be refined in your image. This isn’t “controlling” as some may have you believe.
This means that if she truly respects you and you’re worthy of leading, she will organically start adopting your principles and values. Hell, she’ll even start parroting your vernacular.
In an ideal world, you’ll both have the exact same values and ideals but that’s extremely rare. She’ll want guidance from you if she trusts you as a man.
2. Are you a man worthy of leading?
This leads to this honest question. A worthy woman of moulding is only as good as the man leading. You have to honestly ask yourself if you’re the man to do that. Years ago I wasn’t.
I thought I was the man I am now when I was younger but I was way in over my head. I had to look internally and ask why my long term relationships didn’t go to the next level.
The reality was, there were flaws in my character that my exes didn’t explicitly state but it was glaringly obvious post-relationships. One of them was how I dealt with disagreements. I was way too harsh and lacked empathy. And another flaw was being unreliable.
Two things a woman won’t forgive is weakness and a man who is not dependable/doesn’t stick to their word. I thought being overly stern would compensate for any weakness. But having a lack of empathy is a weakness. I had to work on that which meant listening more and applying it.
Being understanding and putting your foot down doesn’t have to be mutually exclusive. Even if your lady is wrong, don’t throw it in her face and treat her like an idiot.
We’re all learning every day. There’s a way in which we teach each other without coming across as condescending.
Ask yourself if you’re in a position where a woman can look up to you when it comes to your character and accomplishments. Are you the kind of man you’d want your daughter marrying.
3. Do your due diligence.
Just like there are men who think money/looks can compensate for red flags, women have the same mentality. I overlooked many red flags because “she’s pretty, she’s in shape, she has no children” and women like that use that to their advantage.
You need to really study her friends and family. Look at her circle. Look at her relationship with her parents (yes, PLURAL). Especially with her dad. And just because the dad is present, it doesn’t meant anything. Does she LISTEN to him? Is she defiant? Does she heed his words? Does she see him as a paragon of manhood or simply an ATM?
And please please look at her friend circle. If she has a male best friend, RED FLAG! If her friends are a flock of birds, RED FLAG! If she doesn’t get on with women, RED FLAG!
If she’s surrounded by mainly unmarried birds, RED FLAG! Billionaires hang out with billionaires. Successful people do the same thing. Birds stick with birds. If your woman is truly one of virtue, she would surround herself with the same. Get to know her friends.
This is something I didn’t care about before but this is how you get intel and see whether she’s worthy or not.
There’s a lot more but this post is pretty long already. This is only based on my life experiences.
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its not worth it bruh alot of these women aint worth shyt...
