Going from uglygang to handsomegang Unappreciation Thread

[Malcolmxxx_23]

No such thing as ugly in 2023

 

[bubba scotch]

the level of bitterness i would be if i ever became handsome

 

[98Ntu]

I’ve had similar experiences OP.

I was a chubby, odd looking and nerdy kid. No girls liked me or even gave the time of day. It became a running joke in my friend group that I desperately wanted a girlfriend or a sex partner but couldn’t get one if I begged. In most of high school, I was a dry dikk lame


Then I turned 16 and got in great shape via wrestling, football and doing track. I was ripped and only getting better with each year. Girls wouldn’t leave me alone. In fact, they become aggressive and would cross my boundaries regularly. I had grown women trying to fukk when I was minor. shyt was weird af in retrospect


Then tragedy stuck. I got severely depressed and was diagnosed with several mental illnesses. Some severe and some pretty mild. I just lost my way. I gained 100 lbs in 15 months and grew my hair out like crazy. The female attention dried up and I was crushed. Women treated me like I was invisible or a fukking creep. I had one laugh at me unprovoked while I was crossing the street cuz I was “mad ugly” in her words. I had people at jobs and school treat me like I was a vagrant. It really fukked with me. Being ugly or fat doesn’t just hurt your dating opportunities. It effects all social aspects of our lives

Being obese and unkempt was brutal.

I ended up losing the weight and am still on my fitness and health journey. Now, I am getting female attention again. I tend to ignore women unless they are putting sex forth. That sounds horrible but I am realizing that in this digital era that love is fleeting and affection is highly conditional. I can enjoy sex but relationships don’t appeal to me much rn. I’m only 25. My mind could change but rn I’m still bothered by how people treated me when I was ugly. fukk people tbh

 

[A Pimp Named Slickback]

Congrats OP. I highly advise you to run through women like crazy(outside of work preferably) because you seem the type of cat to succumb to temptation if you find your God Fearing woman to quick without enjoying the benefits of being handsome gang.

I did that to a degree in college when I was dating. I would spend the night with a girl then wake up and go to another girl's house the next afternoon

Spiritually it's very taxing. I won't get too deep in that. Just know I used to be agnostic until I saw proof and went through shyt you would swear was from a movie. It's very important who you choose to smash. For more reasons than one

 

[RiffRaff]

I did that to a degree in college when I was dating. I would spend the night with a girl then wake up and go to another girl's house the next afternoon

Spiritually it's very taxing. I won't get too deep in that. Just know I used to be agnostic until I saw proof and went through shyt you would swear was from a movie. It's very important who you choose to smash. For more reasons than one

I feel that. As long as you can control your urges of being handsome gang then your cool. I see it too many times though brehs who level up and actually get a GOOD girl but never had women like that so have poor dikk control and mess up a good thing.

 

[broller]

The same patient just purred at me like a cat. God is testing my integrity at this point

What's your job role?

 

[Dave24]

I’ve had similar experiences OP.

I was a chubby, odd looking and nerdy kid. No girls liked me or even gave the time of day. It became a running joke in my friend group that I desperately wanted a girlfriend or a sex partner but couldn’t get one if I begged. In most of high school, I was a dry dikk lame


Then I turned 16 and got in great shape via wrestling, football and doing track. I was ripped and only getting better with each year. Girls wouldn’t leave me alone. In fact, they become aggressive and would cross my boundaries regularly. I had grown women trying to fukk when I was minor. shyt was weird af in retrospect


Then tragedy stuck. I got severely depressed and was diagnosed with several mental illnesses. Some severe and some pretty mild. I just lost my way. I gained 100 lbs in 15 months and grew my hair out like crazy. The female attention dried up and I was crushed. Women treated me like I was invisible or a fukking creep. I had one laugh at me unprovoked while I was crossing the street cuz I was “mad ugly” in her words. I had people at jobs and school treat me like I was a vagrant. It really fukked with me. Being ugly or fat doesn’t just hurt your dating opportunities. It effects all social aspects of our lives

Being obese and unkempt was brutal.

I ended up losing the weight and am still on my fitness and health journey. Now, I am getting female attention again. I tend to ignore women unless they are putting sex forth. That sounds horrible but I am realizing that in this digital era that love is fleeting and affection is highly conditional. I can enjoy sex but relationships don’t appeal to me much rn. I’m only 25. My mind could change but rn I’m still bothered by how people treated me when I was ugly. fukk people tbh

Motivational post for me

 

[Redwood]

Thread should be stickied tbh

I swear we get these threads about twice a week

 

[Reptile]

Yes, I exposed that you're a cac. You obviously know I'm not going to shut the fukk up, so do something about it. Let's do a ban bet, since you're avoiding answering my invitation to fight, you frail white p*ssy

Suck my whole dikk fakkit. Ill expose my dikk to your mothers throat.

 

[Crude]

OP sounds like you got some insecurity issues, go talk to someone about that or practice meditation or something that keeps you grounded, humble, and of a strong mind.

Pay those females no mind and continue to work on yourself. Those women’s interest change with the wind. You’ve improved how you look physically, but on the inside you’re still that same guy.

You got to be careful letting women in your space because based on your mindset you might mess around and fall in love with the first thing that gives you attention which isn’t usually a good thing.

When you feel like you’ve worked on your psyche then and only then start to casually date those women. Never be quick to commit and always weigh your options.

A lot of these same women that was turning you down years ago done had their little hoe phase and had their fun now they trying to get chosen. Let them hold that energy now it’s your turn to have fun. Happy trails in that endeavor breh.

 

[drederick tatum]

Suck my whole dikk fakkit. Ill expose my dikk to your mothers throat.

That's pretty gay.

EDIT: and very, very white

 

[A Pimp Named Slickback]

What's your job role?

I can't reveal that due to the wolves

 

[A Pimp Named Slickback]

OP sounds like you got some insecurity issues, go talk to someone about that or practice meditation or something that keeps you grounded, humble, and of a strong mind.

Pay those females no mind and continue to work on yourself. Those women’s interest change with the wind. You’ve improved how you look physically, but on the inside you’re still that same guy.

You got to be careful letting women in your space because based on your mindset you might mess around and fall in love with the first thing that gives you attention which isn’t usually a good thing.

When you feel like you’ve worked on your psyche then and only then start to casually date those women. Never be quick to commit and always weigh your options.

A lot of these same women that was turning you down years ago done had their little hoe phase and had their fun now they trying to get chosen. Let them hold that energy now it’s your turn to have fun. Happy trails in that endeavor breh.

I appreciate you saying this. Honestly I used to be very needy and desperate before late last year

Now it takes alot more for someone to get my interest. And even then I'm not dating right now. I've had a decent amount of women express interest in a relationship. Most of them young and not party girls or whatever

None of them are attractive intellectually to me. I've always been big on that. Personality and intelligence. But now even more so. I don't project good qualities on women anymore or date off of potential. One of the baddest girls I've ever seen just wasn't interesting. Not that she was a terrible person. She's very cool but just not a match for me

My OP was partially in jest but there is still some real trauma I'm processing with my therapist. Trauma that I felt like at least a few posters on here can relate to. That's why I'm not dating right now. But I'm at a point where I'm more selective than ever. Not even the exes or the women I used to talk to that came back move me at all

Most of that redpill content on youtube is toxic and misguided. But the one thing they hit on besides being on your purpose is having an abundance mindset. What they don't tell us is that this only comes from a healthy level of self esteem. Mine isn't the highest but it's not low at this point. I'm still a work in progress. The overwhelming about of female attention is fairly new and ill eventually get used to it not too long from now. The adjustment is what has me feeling conflicted. Growing up I had friends who got girls habitually. They would always tell me the attention is overrated especially when they didnt want those girls. I used to look at those nikkas like


Now I feel what they used to say. I was always aware of the privileges that come with being attractive. Witnessing it first hand has been jarring. But it is what it is

I go out in public and be myself without any second guessing now. There was a time when I didn't even want to walk out the house. Now I have a fulfilling life doing what I love to do at my job and have fun going out to events I like. I'm probably going to the Oddisee concert today. And I can still stay in the house reading a book or drawing etc

I've always been an introvert but I make conversation with everyone now. Even attractive women on a platonic level. People are just people at the end of the day. I always get called an "old soul" and wise beyond my years. I just don't have fun like alot of men my age. I'm 26. I used to feel a way about the label but I accept it now. That's why I'm tryna settle down. I've peeked on the other side and it's not for me. But I'm not rushing

Probably gonna get back into dating slowly next month. And I'm strictly meeting women in person at places that fit my vibe. Day brunches, libraries, poetry open mics etc. One of the 3 main reasons I struggled with dating was because it was almost strictly through dating apps. I'm never doing that again. I gotta do it right this time. And even if I have disappointment dating I'm content with being by myself

Who knows I might mess around casually a couple times or whatever. But I'm not getting stuck in that cycle. I would rather be with someone I can connect to on multiple levels to get it in with. Makes for a better experience knowing that we both know how to satisfy each other and can continue to explore. And also knowing how important our relationship with God is and how sex can't be idolized to the point where it's the core of our relationship

I'm big on not pulling out. I can't go out like @skeetsinternal I need to choose carefully

but I appreciate you again for saying this. I'm still young so I just take life as it comes. Sorry for the long post

 

[SuaveyBoi115]

I join handsome gang in spurts, over the course of the year I feel like 85 percent ugly, 15 percent handsome.


I never "stay" in handsome gang, my appearance is erratic

Shieeeeet I'll be handsome gang for one day out of the year then the rest is me looking like I've been through it

 

[Gunz&Butta]

Pull your skirt down.

wait, why you want him to pull his skirt down? What you tryna do?