Going on first dates with women you already smashed

[Kenny West]

What's the verdict on it? Most dudes date until they smash and from there on it's trying to slide them through for chill nights and more sex. But has anyone did this the other way? Where you fukk first and date later? Or are they strictly smashing only jumpoff status once you pipe?


I met this shorty on new years, we vibed really well and hit it off the day I bagged. After a few days of talking one weeknight she insinuates that she wants to sleep over outta nowhere. I oblige and pick her up. we have sex that night and in the morning before she left. So the next week that rolled around just happened to be her birthday week. since I fukk with her I take her out to Dave & Busters and we have a great time.

I spent most of last year doing the netflix and chill sort of sex dates finessing out of restaurant & movie date traps. I'm generally apprehensive about going certain places/doing certain things on dates with new chicks I may never see again. But regardless of whether or not I end up cuffing I actually do enjoy hitting the town with a nice chick on your arm and enjoying shyt.

To me it's kinda cool since you don't have to play the guessing game of does she really like you or is she just using you for a meal/attention. No apprehension, no need to countdown how many more dates she has before bussing it open before you cut her off or anything like that. And it makes the dates more fun cause yall are comfortable with each other already. Anybody else on that 0 date sex wave?

 

[At30wecashout]

It worked for me a couple, but we already had rapport. The second time I was in that situation, after some cuddling afterglow, I scrambled some eggs and hotlinks for her and myself
I shoulda showered before I did it cause the fukk funk was everywhere but it was seamless.

I don't begrudge those who operate that way.

 

[Turbulent]

yes and it can be a beautiful thing cause your mind is clear. you don't feel like you're getting hustled out of your time and energy. i think it's less stress for both AS LONG as both people know where the other is at and accept it.

i could understand if a chick knows she like a dude and is scared to sleep with him just to end up getting tossed. and it's kind of unnatural to tell a chick "if you sleep with me, i'll take you out afterwards". and if the chick sleeps with dude and then puts the pressure to go on dates afterwards, it can be a turnoff. so yes, it gets tricky. shyt has to happen organically. but when it does happen

 

[Monte Cristo]

Coli members are gonna come in here on some "I'd never take a girl seriously after I smashed so easily" shyt

Don't listen to them

It is HARD to find a girl you can vibe with effortlessly this days so I don't care if I smash on the first date or the tenth date. If we vibe, I'll pursue a relationship with that girl. My most successful relationships were with girls who didn't make a big deal out of sex. My worst were with girls who I had to wait a while for

 

[Kenny West]

yes and it can be a beautiful thing cause your mind is clear. you don't feel like you're getting hustled out of your time and energy. i think it's less stress for both AS LONG as both people know where the other is at and accept it.

i could understand if a chick knows she like a dude and is scared to sleep with him just to end up getting tossed. and it's kind of unnatural to tell a chick "if you sleep with me, i'll take you out afterwards". and if the chick sleeps with dude and then puts the pressure to go on dates afterwards, it can be a turnoff. so yes, it gets tricky. shyt has to happen organically. but when it does happen

yes. I had a situation like this in 2012 and that was he closest I came to cuffing in a while

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

i use to do that but instead of dinner dates it'd be morning after dates. it can be fun and leads to more sex later in the afternoon/evening

 

[Turbulent]

yes. I had a situation like this in 2012 and that was he closest I came to cuffing in a while

last time that shyt happened i ended up cuffing and we were together for 5 years

 

[Dameon Farrow]

I have done this and see no issue with this.

 

[Safe]

I do this all the time, for me it depends on the shorty. If shes a cool shorty or just nice to be around, I take her all types of places. Its actually even better since you already smashed and you know its on the table regardless.

 

[2stainz]

hustling backwards

 

[Phitz]

doesn't matter, this shouldn't even be a thread because every situation is different.

 

[GodinDaFlesh]

It's the way dating should be. Then you already know she's physically and sexually attracted to you and not just using you for emotional/financial needs.

 

[Jahmal]

What's the verdict on it? Most dudes date until they smash and from there on it's trying to slide them through for chill nights and more sex. But has anyone did this the other way? Where you fukk first and date later? Or are they strictly smashing only jumpoff status once you pipe?


I met this shorty on new years, we vibed really well and hit it off the day I bagged. After a few days of talking one weeknight she insinuates that she wants to sleep over outta nowhere. I oblige and pick her up. we have sex that night and in the morning before she left. So the next week that rolled around just happened to be her birthday week. since I fukk with her I take her out to Dave & Busters and we have a great time.

I spent most of last year doing the netflix and chill sort of sex dates finessing out of restaurant & movie date traps. I'm generally apprehensive about going certain places/doing certain things on dates with new chicks I may never see again. But regardless of whether or not I end up cuffing I actually do enjoy hitting the town with a nice chick on your arm and enjoying shyt.

To me it's kinda cool since you don't have to play the guessing game of does she really like you or is she just using you for a meal/attention. No apprehension, no need to countdown how many more dates she has before bussing it open before you cut her off or anything like that. And it makes the dates more fun cause yall are comfortable with each other already. Anybody else on that 0 date sex wave?

I havent been on a date in 4 years. I just have chicks come over to my highrise condo in Midtown ATL, smash and kick them out. #HOH