Whatever, I'm done with this discussion. I feel like we're talking past each other. I get girls now, but I know what it's like not to get them, so I can sympathize with the dudes that don't. All I'm trying to tell dudes is that most of the time it's not necessarily you that's the problem, but that you don't have the "superficial bait" to get girls interested. It's easier to say it's a personality issue as that makes people seem less shallow. Here's an example.
This girl may not get the guys she wants, and she may have people tell her "stop feeling sorry for yourself" or "just be more confident and guys will like you" and other bs, but we BOTH know that isn't true. She can be the coolest, sweetest girl in the world, but most dudes will

because of how she looks.
This girl could be a complete bytch, but guys will be trying to get with her and talk about how great she is because of her looks. She may be an objectively worse person, but due to the Halo effect she'll always have dates and have people saying "you just don't understand her" or "she's the shyt, she deserves to be cocky". Nobody wants to admit this because it makes people look shytty, but it's the honest truth.
And FYI, a lot of cacs view black people complaining about racism and social injustices as "whining" "feeling sorry for yourself", and "making excuses". Regardless of that being bullshyt, to a lot of white people, the only hardships blacks MAY have in society today is being poor. Read forums like SDN to see for yourself.