Guy friend (former) tried to ruin my relationship!

[CouldntBeMeTho]

And this is why men and women cant be friends

 

[Wildin]

Where did I say they all need to be friends? None of my friends have my wife number but they knew of her when we were together. It's very strange that someone would have a friend and they know nothing about the significant other. You even said they met when you did double dates or when they came over, that's normal.

Its like this woman was purposely being sneaky about something. We aren't getting the full story here.

I feel you. I've had my friends say "how come you don't bring your girl around" for as much time as I spend with them, and I've had my girl say "how come you don't bring your friends around more" for as much time as I spend with them.

I'm not friends with her friends but she always has her best friends around her and there's no hiccups or any concerns about distance. I deliberately keep my people separate to the point where some might think I'm hiding them or keeping them secret or separate. I'm deliberately keeping them separate but it's not because they aren't my real friends or anything wrong with my girl. Thats just how I like to keep it.

She specifically said "he knew that I had a man, but didn't know anything about him because it's none of his business" .

I can see exactly where she's coming from. Cause it's very similar to how I am. I'm not hiding anything from anyone I just compartmentalize my relationships and friendships and they don't overlap. My girl don't know or need to know what goes on with me and my friends and my friends don't need to know about what goes on with me and my girl.

 

[Self_Born7]

so your boyfriend and male friend are friends, and you recently found out?

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Bad and good luck tales!

 

[ThirdAct]

You're looking for men's POV but I'm still going to chime in -

Your boyfriend's behaviour would:

1. Make me dump him out of indignant righteousness, anger & sheer annoyance. How many instances, where cheating is suspected, where one gets to
a. Interact with the actual other man/other woman under the circumstances in your OP and,
b. Confirm what their S/O is claiming is the truth by seeing it for themselves, etc.
He seems dramatic and like he's looking for problems. Which leads to...

2. I would become suspicious of his fidelity. Everybody knows when your S/O stays accusing (with no legit bases) you of doing dirt that they are the actual filthy one.

"Nah girl you wasn't even in the wrong, he was!"

Women are devious as fukk lol.

 

[Lady.Libra.]

"Nah girl you wasn't even in the wrong, he was!"

Women are devious as fukk lol.

Save it.

 

[Phitz]

Men can't conceive of women actually thinking of their male friends as only friends as demonstrated by this thread because as every women needs to accept now, all men you're friends with think of you as on reserve to smash.

I know. "Nah, he don't like me that way." I've heard it all each time I try to tell other women. But every woman a man neets is more or less sized up for fukkability and you're no exception. Keep this in mind when dealing with men as friends, y'all. They wanna smash, and your man knows this dude you're calling "brother" and texting wants to smash.

If you're gonna be friends with men and expect them to not try to come on to you at some point, they gotta be gay.


(But low key I can find sources if requested cause this shyt is real)

this is NOT true. Alot of us have female friends we have NO attraction to none

 

[ThrobbingHood]

You goofy bytches are dumb/naive or both.

 

[Basil of Baker Street]

Stop with the bullshyt. Men and women cannot be friends. You then have to deal with shyt like this.

 

[ThirdAct]

Save it.

A female telling me save logical facts, what a shock!

 

[rico_ens]

this is NOT true. Alot of us have female friends we have NO attraction to none

What do u n ur female friends talk about? Do ya hang out late watch games n go to the bar with them? You prolly like the other poster n do sleep overs n shyt

 

[Lady.Libra.]

A female telling me save logical facts, what a shock!

Listen, take your illogical & negative energy elsewhere...I really don't want it in my mentions.
I get it - You think all women are big bad people. Go deal with that. Good luck to you fella.

 

[Lady.Libra.]

this is NOT true. Alot of us have female friends we have NO attraction to none

This is always an unheard of & unfathomable on this board.
It's healthy to have platonic mutual relationships with the opposite sex - one of the components for the making of a well-rounded individual.

 

[ThirdAct]

Listen, take your illogical & negative energy elsewhere...I really don't want it in my mentions. I get it - you think all women are big bad people. Go deal with that.

Good luck to you fella.

No one said you or her are bad people, that's just a bizarre jump to conclusions. I don't know you or her. You are giving her bad advice, though. We are telling her why her man is rightfully pissed at her and instead of making amends to rebuild the trust you are telling her to double down and reinforce those bad habits. Not the advice she needs. You even planted the idea in her head that her man might be cheating on her. She's asking how she can get her man's trust back and instead your sowing the seed that she shouldn't trust HIM. You musta dug extra hard up your ass to pull that bullshyt out. Yet I'm the one with the neg energy. fukk outta here.

 

[SnowflakesByTheOZ]

Sounds like you kept homeboy around as an orbiter and he outed you so you scrambling like a headless chicken. lol @ I never flirted with him. Show us or somebody else the texts and I'd bet cash they'd say different. ​

 

[NaijaProdigy Redux]

You kept him around because you liked the attention. stop bullshyttin

I see this goofy shyt all the time