Hard On H0ES Movement. i need advice

[NerdBird]

So These last 3 weeks I have been dating someone... and I today I just stopped and really thought about everything in perspective. About 2 months ago we were at a party. We met through mutual friends and we got off on the right foot. She started drinking and started going on about how she wanna marry her then ex boyfriend and have his kids. I was like cool I respect that... You must really have feelings for him. She's really into hip hop, so a convo started about the topic.... next thing you know she's on my lap and flirting with me. Me being the fool that I am, didn't make a move on her. I wanted to respect her THEN relationship.

So a few weeks pass by. I'm hanging out with my brother on the weekend and she calls me up at around 2 or 3 in the morning asking me if its cool if she could spend the night with me. Now we all I know at these hours this is booty calls galore... but me... having the lil crush i have on her... Tell her yes and bring her over. Long story short we just cuddled and kissed. She was dumb drunk too.. Again i didn't make no advances because she was still with her man... but at that point i didnt think HMMM she got a man but she laying next to another guy in bed on a saturday night? Stupid of me to not see her for what she is...

A couple weeks pass by and we begin to start dating. She fresh out of a 3 year relationship and is telling me to take it slow before she is ready for a relationship. Thing is... me and this chick vibe real hard.. Great chemistry with each other... And if anyine is into horoscope.. I am a Saggitarius and she is a Libra.

My coli fam I ask you... What should I do? Should I be a simp and wait for her to be emotionally and mentally ready for a new relationship? Or do I just hit it and quit...

 

[wickedsm]

theres different spots in between hit and quit and be a simp ya know,

i would be careful with someone that just got out of a relationship though. Not saying that it couldnt work but be careful.

 

[MillionMills]

So a few weeks pass by. I'm hanging out with my brother on the weekend and she calls me up at around 2 or 3 in the morning asking me if its cool if she could spend the night with me. Now we all I know at these hours this is booty calls galore... but me... having the lil crush i have on her... Tell her yes and bring her over. Long story short we just cuddled and kissed.

A couple weeks pass by and we begin to start dating

 

[wickedsm]

i swear i was just gonna edit and warn him that somebody is gonna eat him up in this thread.
i should have.

 

[WickedSkengman]

kiss a bytch in the mouth at 3am after she just finished swallowing her ex boyfriends cum who she wants to marry brehs

 

[At30wecashout]

Don't hit it, thats damn near rewarding her bird behavior. Just dump her, tell her it's not the time for her to be dating someone. If she grills you, tell her
she was sucking the grilled onions from lunch off your teeth while she was still with her man, and you don't wanna be apart of a relationship that starts
like that.

If you wanna hit and quit, fine, but don't be like that. Dump her ass. #HOH needs to be firm in throwing birds away, not fukking. You in here sounding like a goddamn chump. Don't play yourself, cause next thing you kn ow, she doing double-duty fukking you AND him, and then you get dropped after you catch feelings, and its business as usual for her.

Walk face-first into a wall 10 times. Penance for simping a cheat.

 

[Doobie Doo]

Hit and quit NOTHING MORE. Let her be her ex's headache. She's already proved she's not loyal and will do to you what she does for him

 

[audemarzz]

The good guy in me is saying you made the right choice but typically the good guy in me is wrong The day she came over at 3 a.m. seems to have been that vital deciding point(you should have hit and called it quits). You may have trapped yourself in a spot you do not want to be in which is the dude who repairs her until she can step back to what shes use to.

 

[Mr Rager]

. She's already proved she's not loyal and will do to you what she does for him

This exactly. I wouldn't even recommend hitting. You're a rebound and she knows you're an easy catch. She'll probably get bored soon, hop on another dikk, and blame it on her emotions

Unless you have zero other options (), toss that one into the bushes.

 

[agnosticlady]

Once she started talking about her ex at the party you should have left her alone. She sounds emotionally unstable considering y'all just met that day. Emotionally unstable + just out of a long relationship = she will run back to her man OR she's still talking to him.
Meet someone else.

 

[ADK]

Hit it and leave. Dont get in a relationship with her .

Imagine who else she gonna be interested in when shes drunk

 

[Groanman]

Here's a little secret........if you go at the pace she wants you to go, she'll be right back in that other nga's arms in no time.

Don't let that broad use you as an emotional pillow, nga.

 

[SpringWater]

From a FEMALE perspective: Take it slow but don't be hard on her and don't view her as a hoe. Her ex was probably an a$$hole and she was slowly coming to that realization over the past months. That happens to all of us. But, I would take it slow simply because it's never good to be a rebound person. Just give your friendship time to grow. Don't allow her over at 3am anymore. See her out on actual dates but not everytime she asks. Give it time. Give her time to heal but keep the lines open for the friendship between you to bloom. If it's meant to be for the both of you, you will come together strong. Don't fukk her too early because she's open and raw right now and that could end badly. And, plus you like her so you want to make sure she's over the ex and all about you.

 

[SheWantTheD]

This is my first post ever on this site.

Drop this chick.

I don't condone messing with chicks who are messing with other dudes but you might as well smash and dash.

F*ck all that vibe sh. Look at this from an intellectual standpoint. This chick was fukking with you when she was already in a relationship,

talkin' bout she wants to marry and start a family with her boyfriend she's cheating on LOL.

Plus this chick knows where you live and you have mutual friends right? Word can come back to you and you have a jealous boyfriend

that wants to take your life.

 

[WickedSkengman]

From a FEMALE perspective: Take it slow but don't be hard on her and don't view her as a hoe. Her ex was probably an a$$hole and she was slowly coming to that realization over the past months. That happens to all of us. But, I would take it slow simply because it's never good to be a rebound person. Just give your friendship time to grow. Don't allow her over at 3am anymore. See her out on actual dates but not everytime she asks. Give it time. Give her time to heal but keep the lines open for the friendship between you to bloom. If it's meant to be for the both of you, you will come together strong. Don't fukk her too early because she's open and raw right now and that could end badly. And, plus you like her so you want to make sure she's over the ex and all about you.

and that is why shes still attracted to him and wants to marry him.